Please tell me this isn't acceptable?

aylasmommy · 05-06-2002, 10:22 PM

I cannot beleive the hell that my husband put me through the other day. Ok well it's not that bad but to me it was a huge thing.

First of all he was SO sweet all morning on Sunday, then we got ready and left to go to riteaid.

Ok so we get to the gas station and he points out a girl who he said was dressed the way I USED TO. He went on and on about how dorky she looked etc. To me of course I thought she looked CUTE because that WAS how I used to dress and do my hair! In fact I loved the color of her sweatshirt!

Now I hadn't given it much thought before we were driving and he mentions ANOTHER girl..says how HOT she is etc..she was a blond, busty little thing..but as we get up closer he goes on and on about how she's not hot anymore..I'm just thinking what ???

THEN we get to the PARKING LOT for where we were going, and out walks a SKINNY blond & TAN girl, driving a little BMW. He goes omg she's so hot and you should dress like HER. (she was wearing some shirt showing off her midriiff and low rise jeans and some cute sandals or something..her hair was gorgeous and she was SO tiny and tanned and perfect it made me FEEL sooo ugly and frumpy and dumpy! ESPECIALLY The way he kept going ON and ON about how hot she was and that's how he wanted me to be.

SO GUESS WHAT HE DOES..he PARKS right next to her!! OMG I wanted to just die, i told him I did not want to get out and wanted to go home.

SO he gets out and starts having a HUGE fit and yelling screaming making the baby cry

HE tells me that he wishes I was a headturner and that's all he wants...

So cut to back at home, hours later I'm still in tears I can't stop crying and I've downed half a block of cheese, cookies, ice cream etc..And HE is STILL making reasons why what he did was ok

I know I am very easily offended so this might be something most guys do (he said most women put up with it)

**I do have to add that he has since apoplogized for everything BUT the fact remains my feelings are still a mess and I still feel so ugly and all that cruddy feelings that go along with all that..AHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

snowangel · 05-07-2002, 12:13 AM

I am sitting here looking at your picture and I think, not to be weird or anything here, but I think you are beautiful.

Men can be so stupid sometimes and then, even though they know it, they try to make it our fault. Like we are too sensitive or something.

Please don't let him tear down your self confidence. You are a beautiful, sensitive woman, just the way God intended you to be.

=}

justGina · 05-07-2002, 12:14 AM

I'm sorry, aylasmommy. That sucks, he was really a jerk to do that to you.

I think you are beautiful if the pic in your avatar is any indication.

That man doesn't have a leg to stand on. Tell him HE should be grateful YOU settled for HIM!

PrairieRose · 05-07-2002, 12:26 AM

It was a thoughtless, stupid, senseless thing for him to do. A man just does NOT realize what he does to his partner when he acts like that. Be careful not to give in to the insecurity that it bred, you are beautiful and you don't have a thing to be ashamed of. He may actually be having a problem with his "hot babe" being a mother...it happens to a LOT of men. It's his problem not your's. But you could start to point out hunky guys and make comments about how hot and sexy they are, see how he likes that. Chances are he won't.

Deanna · 05-07-2002, 07:48 AM

and would he REALLY want guys falling over themselves to park next to you? He probably wouldn't let you out of the house. Mine would love it if I dressed Britney Spearsish. Men!!

TheFrugalDiva · 05-07-2002, 08:41 AM

MOST WOMEN PUT UP WITH IT???????? OMG!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Time to re-educate him my darlin...and real quick.......I smack James every time a cute girl walks by....just cause I know he was THINKING about looking at her!!!!!!!!!!!

NO Most women better NOT put up with this..........YOU are the QUEEN and GODDESS in his life....you take care of him and you care for and nurture his home and his children....in return....HE WORSHIPS YOU!!!! and if thats not the case.....well it darn well ought to be.

oooooo Im so mad LOL....you got me all worked up on this one....Id come over there and beat him up myself if I could!! That would be one man not getting any for a LONG LONG LONG time if it was mine!!

aylasmommy · 05-07-2002, 01:52 PM

thanks for the replies

It's good to know I was right about most women NOT putting up with it Grrrrrrrrrrrrr

Now he is in the dog house AGAIN because I got horribly sick all of a sudden yesterday and felt so miserable that I asked him to take the day off today to help me...

Well he still hasn't helped be but guess what , he's still sleeping like a baby because HE HAD a stomach ACHE all night and omg I'm just sooo furious I asked for help yesterday and kept getting yelled/whined at that he never gets help when HE's sick etc.. WHATS he smoking ...???AAAAAACHKKK EVERY time I am sick I still have to take care of the baby, clean the house, do the laundry and dishes because he never does it! BUT WHEN HE"S SICK he gets to SLEEP ALL DAY

GRRRRRRRRR

ok off to get another tissue

Jerseygirl · 05-07-2002, 09:21 PM

A-Sweetie, your gorgeous!
B-He's a man, and can obviously use a little extra training in moving beyond the status of high school boy.
C-The man is typical, he wants to look at tramps, but come home to a woman with class and style who is a wife and mother and makes him a complete human being.

Every once in a while I give mine a reality check when he's looking at one and tell him to go a head and see if she'll want him-then I remind him of his autistic son, obnoxious family and high alimony and child support payments, then push him in her direction, he never goes.

Lori Biever-Launder · 05-07-2002, 09:37 PM

Hey, the next time you're out with him, make similar comments about all the hot guys out there! Stop and buy a Playgirl magazine and drrrrooooollll over all the guys in it! You think I am kidding? DO IT! He has so right to act like this and maybe a taste of his own medicine will make him stop and think!