Question about child support

**Jayne** · 12-15-2004, 10:21 AM

DD #2 is going to day shift, so I will be having my grandson everyday at 6:30 am til he goes to school at 8:00am, and I will have him all day in the summer....My question is this, I can petition the court for compensation from her ex for day care...Should I do this? Would any of you do this?..I am torn, I don't want to start any trouble, with her ex.....DD wants me to be paid for this and dh does too...What would you do????

**kimmee** · 12-15-2004, 10:27 AM

I think I would start by trying to negotiate something with him - it would be a tax write off and he could probably work out something less expensive for himself if he negotiates with you rather than through the court. Otherwise I don't know cuz I am not much of a wave maker -
If you get compensated you will have to claim it as well.
Good luck on this.

**PrairieRose** · 12-15-2004, 10:37 AM

I would talk to him first myself Jayne. I don't know if you'll be able to get anymore out of him going through the court system. I mean, I'm assuming he pays child support already.....? I guess you could speak to a lawyer about it and get a professional opinion, that's what I would do if talking to the ex didn't help.

**dz_blonde_girl** · 12-15-2004, 11:26 AM

Ummmm, gosh, I hope I don't sound rude.

Is he paying child support? If so, my best guess is that he's meeting his financial obligation. Maybe not in your or your dd's eyed, but certainly in the courts eyes.

If dd wants you to get paid, then why doesn't she pay you?

jmho

**isaacsmommy** · 12-15-2004, 11:38 AM

Originally posted by dz_blonde_girl
Ummmm, gosh, I hope I don't sound rude.

Is he paying child support? If so, my best guess is that he's meeting his financial obligation. Maybe not in your or your dd's eyed, but certainly in the courts eyes.

If dd wants you to get paid, then why doesn't she pay you?

jmho

Again, I don't want to come off sounding like a snob, but if he's paying your daughter child support, I really don't think the courts could or would force him to pay daycare fees.

**baronmom** · 12-15-2004, 04:22 PM

usually child care expenses are figured into the child support as is insurance and stuff like that. I know that is how mine is. I don't have any child care expenses, and I am providing the insurance and the support order is written to reflect that. You can always amend the child support to include these amounts. This requires your daughter to go to court and ask for the amendment. I have only had mine amended two times in 15 years. As long as I get my checks regulaly, I leave him alone. He payed half of the braces, and that was something that was added on one of those amendment hearings.

**mtjsmom** · 12-15-2004, 09:38 PM

My case must be different then. Jessica's dad is responsible for half of all day care costs (shes almost 17 now so its not necessary now..lol) and any uncovered medical expenses ON TOP OF his biweekly support.
I dont know that I would go after him personally, but maybe if you talked to the both of them and explained how you feel the 3 of you can come up with something instead of going through the court.

Carol

**Jayne** · 12-16-2004, 09:34 AM

When they went to court the ex was originally ordered to pay her for any child care , but she waved it because she was not in need of it...now the nursing home she works for wants her to go to days(she is doing doubles all weekend)so she needs me to watch him....My dd holds nothing against her ex, believe me, she actually took his side in court when they brought up his poor work history....he pays her very little, in fact his lawyer said he got a really good deal.....he owns a home( his parents bought it for him), and has no car payment or cc debts...dd pays my grandsons insurance, which is only 30 dollars a month (he is on a state program)...I personally don't care if I am paid , so I will probably just tell her to leave it alone