I am REALLY angry with my husband

**forestdale** · 06-06-2005, 05:49 PM

He's just broken yet another one of my precious things. And yes, I know they are only things, but they are precious to me.

This story started about 2 months ago when he dropped something onto an antique porcelain canister and broke the lid. By the time I came home he'd glued it together and when he apologised, I accepted and forgot about it. About three days ago, he dropped the blue saucer of a tea cup that was my mother's - I have so little that belonged to her, I just about blew my top, but didn't say anything except to PLEASE be careful of my things. Really, when things get broken, I generally don't mind, but it's that it's these particular things : (.

He was just making his breakfast when I heard a big smash. I went out and he'd knocked the fruit bowl off the bench. The fruit bowl contained a beautiful American depression glass cake stand - the same one I photographed with my Xmas cake in it last year! It's completely broken.

He also broke a white porcelain compote but I don't really care about that.

I HAD to go outside. I couldn't bear to be in the house with him. I know he's had problems since his stroke but he just doesn't take enough care with things. I feel like putting an axe through his head.

**pip** · 06-06-2005, 07:22 PM

**Darlene** · 06-06-2005, 07:37 PM

I'm sorry Rhonda, you really must be frustrated. People we love can really hurt us sometimes when they mean to or not.

**Mamawolf** · 06-06-2005, 08:21 PM

Oh, wow, Rhonda I'm so sorry. Is it because he's fumbling and these things are accidents? Maybe it's time to put the precious items someplace they'll be safe from fumbles, for both your sake AND his. I bet he's probably feeling absolutely terrible, especially if he went through the trouble of fixing that lid for you.

**Sara Noel** · 06-06-2005, 08:53 PM

I'm so sorry. I've had it happen and it really hurts when it's items you can't replace.

**Emerald_Mommy** · 06-06-2005, 09:25 PM

Sorry to hear about this. I can relate: dh & oldest daughter were fooling around a few months ago and knocked one of my countryside blue tea cups that I had on our wedding cake off the shelf. Dh glued it but it still annoys me that it's damaged. I hope things look brighter for you soon.

**Dixie** · 06-06-2005, 10:32 PM

**seadream** · 06-07-2005, 08:50 AM

so sorry

**jlxian** · 06-07-2005, 09:01 AM

Originally posted by Mamawolf
Oh, wow, Rhonda I'm so sorry. Is it because he's fumbling and these things are accidents? Maybe it's time to put the precious items someplace they'll be safe from fumbles, for both your sake AND his. I bet he's probably feeling absolutely terrible, especially if he went through the trouble of fixing that lid for you.

This was exactly what I was going to say.

I know it is soooooooo hard to keep your cool when this sort of thing happens. I'm not good at it at all.

I would definitely put away the most precious things and admire them from afar -- for both of you.

**Jerrie K** · 06-07-2005, 09:02 AM

I'm so sorry Rhonda

**Kimberlina** · 06-07-2005, 09:11 AM

Oh, Rhonda, I can totally relate. My DH is forever breaking my things. Sometimes they are things that are very special to me, other times they are things that are very evpensive, but there is usually one common factor- they are all things that my parents have given me. Like you, I know he isn't doing it on purpose, but it is still frustrating and very anger-provoking, as well as sad. My DH just isn't careful with things and doesn't realize that even if you can buy something similar, it may not be the "same." He is too willing to just go out and buy a new whatever, giving no thought to the sentiment (not to mention the monetary cost of doing so.)

I'm sorry these things keep happening to you. Maybe our DH's can take a class on being around/handling fragile things.

**QuilterMom** · 06-07-2005, 09:56 AM

**Mom23boys** · 06-07-2005, 10:07 AM

So sorry Rhonda.

**forestdale** · 06-07-2005, 03:44 PM

thanks everyone. He phoned from work a couple of times yesterday to see if I was ok. I said I was but I still feel resentment. I wish I would just get over it. It's such a stupid thing to feel anger over when so much horrible stuff happens in the world. I've got a very bad cold now. It's the first time I've been sick in a long time, so that's not making things better. Just leave me to brood in this corner for a while and I'll come good.

**daddys3chicks** · 06-07-2005, 06:37 PM

HUGS Rhonda. I know that they seem like only things, but they have memories attached to them! I have a fake flower arrangement that my deceased Daddy gave me one year on my birthday when we worked at the same nursing home. He went to the florist and picked it out himself. It's nothing fancy, but one day the girls were playing with it and I almost lost it. HUGS i know how you feeL!