the story of my neice, short version

**favesis37** · 11-19-2005, 09:03 AM

3 1/2 years ago my neice got dropped of for visitaion and was never picked up again. she was dropped off with no clothes, nothing, many people here sent her stuff( which i will be forever grateful for) at that time in our lives we couldnt' have taken on the expense of another child for anything. my db lives with us also, and he has hiv. but we did it, well today she gets to see her sister for the first time in all those years, the sister is coming down to spend the night. i am a little worried, i am afriad that ashely( my neice) will have some depression issues after the sister leaves. however i know how important family is so we will take that chance. the reason she hasn't seen her before is the siblings were taken away from the mom and no one knew where they were. the sister is very happy in a well to do forster home, she is very spoiled, this also worrie sme, we aren't rich, we hve tried to teach ashley the value of money, the onlything we are really planning on doing today is going to the farm i need do chores and the girls can play with the animals) we are renting movies, and they are haveing pizza rolls for dinner. i am worried sister will sy something to ashley about it. i know this is selfish, i shouldn't worry but i do, we have moeny to do more with them, but we are trying so hard to save and pay off bills.
sorry this is long jsut had to voice my concerns

**Darlene** · 11-19-2005, 09:30 AM

Hope this is the start of good things for you all. Big hug, I know this is tough for you.

**Katybird** · 11-19-2005, 10:07 AM

It will all work out. Please don't worry. I am sure that the girls will be happy to be seeing each other after so long. Ashley has been with your family long enough for your morals and values to have became her own, she knows that love is more important than all the money in the world.

We are all here for you, I am saying a prayer for you and your family today.

**Missy** · 11-19-2005, 11:05 AM

I am sure it'll all work out just fine.

**Kimberlina** · 11-19-2005, 11:20 AM

Praying that they both focus on how important family is and things go very well for you all.

Please let us know how it all turns out.

**hollyhill** · 11-19-2005, 01:30 PM

Which sister is older?
Remember Ashley had the benefit of being with family, while her sister didn't have that.....and as we all know money isn't everything. Besides most little girls love animals so the farm would be a perfect place to take them. does Ashley like to help in the kitchen? Maybe they could make cookies together, too.
I hope the reunion goes well.

**canadian gardener** · 11-19-2005, 02:14 PM

I'm betting the one in foster care will be wanting to stay with you. You are family after all, and farm animals trump dollars any day of the week with most kids.

I don't think it'll be a problem and I'm cheering you on for your self sacrifice, and for dealing with your neice's needs first.

you are one classy lady and she is really blessed to have you in her life.

You may find that you become a lifeline and confidant in the child that has been in foster care. She too will want to know where she came from, who her kin are and it's a good thing that yours is the face, the heart and the ethics that she will come to know.

**canadian gardener** · 11-19-2005, 02:16 PM

I didn't mean that foster care would be any less, just that kids want to know their roots often times, and it's a good thing that the roots she will know are good ones. If the foster care is great, she can still stay in touch as she grows up, but if it's difficult, just knowing someone else cares may make all the difference.

**Early Bird** · 11-19-2005, 02:54 PM

Let us know how it went.

**pkellyc** · 11-19-2005, 03:31 PM

A farm are you kidding? I lived on one when I was a kid. My mothers name was Betty she was known as Ant Betty not Aunt, Ant. We would play outdoors all day with no one entertaining us, at night she would make us fudge and popcorn, get the fire place going, and watch tv or play board games. Every kid I have ever known that had been to the farm begged their parents to death to go back again. With no money spent on her part. She just made everything an adventure. My mother has been gone for 12 years and those kids are now well into their 40's. I still run into some of the kids that stayed with us and our conversation always starts with "remember when we were kids at the farm"......

So try not to worry so much, kids just love anything different.

**seatosea** · 11-19-2005, 06:07 PM

I agree with Margery. I hope everything went well, big hugs!

**favesis37** · 11-19-2005, 08:55 PM

you guys are awesome, i got teary eyed ready your posts. thanks so much. so far it has gone great, the sister loved the farm,although they have 5 horses( we have chickens, geese,) her foster dad is a pilot for a big company, we had to have her change clothes ( out of her leather jacket, and 100.00 jeans) to go, but they had fun. db took us all out for pizza, and rented movies for the girls. they took a walk, and have listened to the stereo alot.. so far my fears were unjustified.
thanks again