i need some advice

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 12-18-2005, 11:02 PM

my sister & i haven't talked in about a month. the reason is because i'm tired of her boyfriend betaing her up all the time & i'm tried of dealing with it, then she runs back to him. anyways, my sister's little girl is 11mths old & this is my first niece/nephew. i need some advice to weather i should buy for my niece for christmas or should i just keep my distance? my life is so much calmer with my sister out of my life, she brings nothing but drama to my life. i miss my niece dearly...but i need to stand my ground & let "tough love" handle this.

**thrifty gal** · 12-18-2005, 11:48 PM

First of let me say, I know what you are going through. Only it is my best friend who has this kind of relationship, not my sister. For a good long time I stayed sooo frustrated with my best friend, it became hard to even talk to her. But, I finally realized that she was an adult and was gonna do what she wanted. I dont' like it, but theres nothing I can do to get her out. She has to do that herself. I will support her, but I can't save her. I told her that I would no longer give her any advice, because she knew how I felt about the whole thing. No need in repeating myself, and besides she knows it isn't healthy to be there.

Anyways, sorry for that. On toyour question. I would buy the baby a present. Because he or she is innocent. It doesn't mean you have to start talking to your sister, though. Good luck, and prayers for your sister.

**Kimberlina** · 12-19-2005, 12:16 AM

I remember the post about your sister and her boyfriend. I don't think there is much you can do for your sister, as I said in my reply to that post, but there IS something you can do for the baby. Even if you aren't a daily part of her life, I would still buy her a Christmas present for her. Continue to acknowledge her and let her know you care about her. Send her cards, and just let her know you will always be there because her mother might be too flakey to always protect her. (PLS don't take that the wrong way- I'm not saying she is- just that she might be.)

**favesis37** · 12-19-2005, 09:06 AM

i would also buy her a gift. she has no idea what is going on and can't be held responsible. good luck

**Michelle** · 12-19-2005, 11:10 AM

Originally posted by Kimberlina
I remember the post about your sister and her boyfriend. I don't think there is much you can do for your sister, as I said in my reply to that post, but there IS something you can do for the baby. Even if you aren't a daily part of her life, I would still buy her a Christmas present for her. Continue to acknowledge her and let her know you care about her. Send her cards, and just let her know you will always be there because her mother might be too flakey to always protect her. (PLS don't take that the wrong way- I'm not saying she is- just that she might be.)