About the saga with the new neighbor girls..

**aylasmommy** · 07-21-2002, 11:37 PM

Ok,

Not sure if you all remember me going on and on about the new blond next door that my hubby made a comment about..
the neighbors whose friends peed on our house..?

Well she is not the problem..

Ok But the REAL threat that I feel now (which I might have talked about already? i can't remember my brain is MUSH)

Is from the OTHER girl who moved in the house NEXT to the blonde girl..

DH swears that she ISN'T flirting with her, but even when I explained to my sister how she acts around him she TOTALLY agreed with me that SHE IS Flirting with him..which would be ok but it always sends WEIRD sweaty scary shivers in my tummy

My dh says she looks jealous when she sees me with him (funny isn't it, a wife hanging around with her husband?? lol)

What bugs me is when she comes out while he has Ayla alone outside..she comes out and acts like she likes Ayla sooo much

Then TODAY she said to him "where's my baby?" while he was out front alone smoking!! THAT was what is pissing me off to this moment!!

Oh and get this my husband just HAD to bring over my old clothes to her to 'make her think I don't not like her' lol..I know he means well..and I'm not so afraid of him liking her since we had some really long talks about that..but it's the things SHE's been saying and acting like lately that make me cringe

I just wanted to vent that ..phew, there I feel a little releived

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 07-22-2002, 01:34 AM

Maybe it's time for DH to get conked with a Coke can! Seriously, I how old is DH? Has he hit the midlife crisis stage yet? He sure sounds like it! He must be a nice-looking guy for all these women to drool over him!

Hey, if he likes to flirt, why not make a game out of it? Agree to meet him at a coffee shop or some other casual place. Pretend not to know each other and flirt away! If you reallllly want to carry this on, let him "pick you up"!

I know where you're coming from though. I sometimes feel like I am just "Mom" and not the girl he married over twenty years ago. I certainly weigh more! At least you don't have THAT problem.

**PrairieRose** · 07-22-2002, 10:29 AM

I think you should let dneighbor girl see the bitch in you and tell her to LEAVE dh ALONE or you'll give her a knuckle sandwich! I'm serious. I wouldn't let her think she's getting by with that. AND then I'd tell DH that he is NEXT!

**Jerseygirl** · 07-22-2002, 06:31 PM

As always I prefer the passive aggressive approach. Your gorgous-use that to your advantage-always look better than her, and have plenty of info on STDs sent to the other neihbor girl's address with the nasty one's name on it, so when she brings the gossip to you, you can mention it to dh.

**Megareader** · 07-22-2002, 06:42 PM

I love that idea! How about also sending info on breast enhancement creams?

**aylasmommy** · 07-22-2002, 07:42 PM

that's a funny idea about sending her the std info to her house! I could TOTALLY do that !!!

Oh and my husband is 31

I usually wear a t-shirt and shorts around the place and no makeup, stringy hair..but lately I've been doing a LOT more upkeep to make myself look And FEEL better

I have it on my dh's word that she looked really jealous to see me yesterday ..and he thinks it's because I looked so good

It's hard for me to get used to trying to look 'gorgeous or 'hot'' since I was always the homework nerd in highschool and gradeschool

One thing though!! For the LONGEST time ok since we've been married I've had THE WORST posture!! I put my shoulders all the way back the other day and my hubby said that it made me look soo much better. But he's so true when I slouch I lose about half the inches in my chest! And my tummy looks bigger when I slouch~ As well as my back~

So my new goal is to always put my shoulders back but I feel sooo weird when I do! Lol but in the mirror I DO look normal when I put them back so I guess I'll focus on that from now on

**Sara Noel** · 07-22-2002, 07:53 PM

My view has always been "You can have him". LOL (Poor Gabe)

I hate to think of you feeling uncomfortable because perhaps your dh likes to get you to feel this way. I never like to hand out advice, especially when most often it's a vent more than anything else. BUT....LOL

All I can say is this~I'm sure he is ever so flattered by "Miss Thang", but really this has got to stop. Jealousy and being hurt is no way to live and is completely immature on his behalf to foster those feelings in you. I'm sure as you said in your talks he has straightened things out to where you feel safe, BUT sometimes love is a consistent behavior, as well as a heartfelt bond. His role in it is controllable.

I do like the direct mail idea. LOL

I would never let her know I was jealous. No way!

Glad to see you're doing things to improve yourself and to make yourself feel better.

Sara

**MANDERS** · 07-23-2002, 04:11 PM

I agree with everything said.I really like the mail idea.LMAO!!!

SHe is probably just jealous that you have a husband and a wonderful daughter and still look good.LOL she'll probably be a cow when she has kids.Dh ex was like this with me.Then I realized she is jealous of me.Send her the mail.LOL can't wait to here what happens with that one.But like sara said don't let her know that you are jealous.I once told dh that if it wasn't for him I would probably be friends with his ex.He said I was probably right.

**debbiepete** · 07-23-2002, 05:14 PM

Girl you are beautiful!!!! Let the BI--CH know exactly who is boss and to stay away from your dh or else.

**bmiltimore** · 07-23-2002, 11:06 PM

I am a late-comer to this thread but BOY CAN I RELATE! I have a single-mom neighbor who has a 2yr old boy. She lives with the father but they are not "together" BLAH BLAH BLAH

Anyways, my DH is in his garage a lot and everytime he is down there alone or with guy friends, she is hanging out with them. Whenever I am around, she never hangs out. She and I talk a little bit, but it is obvious that she likes my DH. My DH is a very sweet guy who plays with her son and just chats with her. She is home alone all day, so I can see why she likes the attention.

At first it bothered me and I was jealous, but then I realized that she is probably just jealous of me. I have a wonderful DH who pays attention to me and who spends time with me. She doesn't.

The best thing would be to NOT let her know you are jealous or that you mind. Just make an effort to be around more often so she realizes that your DH is YOURS--not hers.

You'd only have a reason to worry if DH acted differently when you are around or if he spends a lot of time with her without you knowing. But it doesn't sound like that is the case.

**aylasmommy** · 07-24-2002, 01:17 AM

Thanks Betsy!

I really hope I haven't come across too jealous..I probably have at least once though

But now I'm just going to stick my shoulders back and try to be just as perky as she can be ......

(PERSONALITY wise, gals!! Get your minds outa the gutter)