Any of you not have much contact with your family

**leeleeaub** · 02-16-2006, 10:27 AM

Other than my youngest son I have no contact with my family. It is a long story but, I remember childhood and it wasn't bad. Over the years one thing and then another went wrong and now I don't have contact with them anymore.

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-16-2006, 12:35 PM

I too USED to have contact with my family, I used to be very close with my cousin, things changed and we all drifted apart.

My brother lives in Ohio and I dont see or hear from him much, my mom lives in the next city over and we speak MAYBE once a week.

I had an ok childhood but when I got married the first time so young (16) and had a child at 17, well it's like no one wanted to talk to me anymore.

**Darlene** · 02-16-2006, 12:46 PM

All that's left of my family (mom, dad & 4 siblings) are 2 sisters. One I don't talk to but that's ok.

**slowtypinwoman** · 02-16-2006, 05:21 PM

I talk to my dad all the time. My mom passed away nearly 2 years ago. I have 5 sisters and I speak to 4 of the pretty regularly.

**Pepper** · 02-16-2006, 08:05 PM

I have no contact with any of my family except for one step-sister, who I consider my real sis and love dearly.

**frugalbutterfly** · 02-16-2006, 09:09 PM

Dh has no contact at all with his family. His are way off the deep end, put it this way, MIL has been "friends" with dh's 1st wife even afte she had physically hurt their 3 kids and hurt MIL, seems I am not violent enough or something for her liking. Dh hard a hard childhood(MIL can't say anything he did like misbehaving and such but he is the bad guy, no logic there), he was taken away from his dad at 5 and for no reason(this is MIL telling me this), he was a very good husband and father, she was just having an affair with a married man, they both divorced and married, dh never save or heard from his father, MIL "hid" out of state and lied to the kids. Needless to say he had a bit of anger towards his sf and mother and that has never really chnaged, he just feels nothing for her, too late to fix it nearly 40 yrs. later. We had contact with her anyway and dh sis and brother but that all changed when, he found out they where threatening to call HRS, yet again on us because she wanted dss for her own child and she seen that is was ok to violate family ties and trust by these threats and she even said they where no true. DH's sis. called and we taped it threatening to call HRS if we would not let dss live up there, I am sorry your threats don't scare us and are not ture anyway. So, we have had to deal with that allot because of them and they claim to love us?? WHen Angie was going through chemo, MIL woudl aviod anything to do with being "around" unless, she could get dss. Well, when her tumor grew back, she went with us to the hospital. We knew something was way wrong. She was also very nervous behaving paranoid. Well, good reason bio mom(she was not allowed around "her" 3 kids at all, dh has sole custody). We got a "glimpse" of her at the front of the hospital and we said no and all the social workers,ect where involved with it being about Angie and not that she wanted to be a mom at a very critical time for our child. I adopted her after that. Well, MIL was all upset because we where angry at her for setting this up behind our backs as it was our child and not a good thing for Angie after critical brain surgery. SHe boohooed as always being the one that got hurt, whatever. SO, we had it fixed so bio mom was not allowed to see her, this was after we originally tried to get her involved after she was diagnosed with a cancer you die from and nope, she wanted nothing to do with being involved, ok she made her choice. Well, we did let Angie decide the next day about seeing her jsut to be done with her. Angie, pretended to be sleeping the whole time she was there with her, she woke up as soon as she left and wanted her mommy, me. So, dh family as you can see have done some pretty nasty things to him/us and he wants no part of them, to him, the kids and I are his family, he is an "orphan".
Mine, there are allot that live lifestyles I want nothing to do with so, once in a great while I will see some of my cousins. There are allot here anyway that are alcoholics and drug users and sorry I want no part of being around that(if I did I would be buddies wiht dh's 1st wife

) lifestyle, we are not that way and we refuse to have our kids exposed to that lifestyle. Heck my dmom and sis are questionable sometimes

The only one I am really close with in my "immediate" family is my ddad adn my dsis, my younger one. Ddad's family are mostly alright and I am the only one in "my" family more like they are as in lifestyle and "thinking" and family first

. SO I get along great with them but, they all live in either SC, Tenn, or Virginia, we keep in touch with calls, emails and cards but nothing z"big".

**bamamomto4** · 02-17-2006, 09:21 PM

My family has fallen apart the last few years. My dad just passed away and I rarely speak to my mom,bro,or sis. I was talking to my sister about everyday and she got mad over something stupid.

I'm almost to the point where I dont care anymore. I'm tired of all the arguing,he said she said crap. We have caller id,so I just dont answer the phone unless its someone I wanna speak to.

**bamamomto4** · 02-17-2006, 09:34 PM

I should add...we are close to some of Steves family. One of his cousins wife and I are really close. Its mainly my family I dont have much contact with.

**pkellyc** · 02-17-2006, 11:05 PM

My dh has a sister that he has not spoken to in 20 years. She went through something weird and was blaming all of her problems on dh's parents. Dh spoke up and said he didn't think that was right so they have not spoken nor seen eachother in all this time. She also cut off her parents another brother and one of the sisters. When her father died she would not attend his funeral. Now that her mother is 77 and aging she is starting to come around a little. But I think it's a little to late. My mil said she was like a stranger to her and felt very little when she saw her recently. I hope I never have to go through this with one of my kids it's like the daughter died 20 years ago. Just so sad to me.

**crdurham** · 02-17-2006, 11:44 PM

I feel very fortunte and blessed that I am very close to all my family. I see or talk to my mom and dad every week, as well as my sister and brother. My family has always been super close and spend as much time together as we can.

I have one uncle and a great-aunt living and several cousins that are all still dear to me.

Dh's mom lives down the street and we are close to her as well as his sister and her family. His dad and brother are deceased.

**Dixie** · 02-17-2006, 11:59 PM

All of my original family (parents and siblings) are dead.
Dh's mom is dead. His father is still alive, but due to a falling out last summer , they have had no contact. It is so unlike my dh to carry a grudge.

Dh is very upset that his father started dating just a few months after his mom's death, his girlfriend's only 30 years old. I think dh is more upset about that than anything, but he won't admit to it.
Dh lives 1200 miles from two of his sisters, but they talk every few months. One of his sisters lives 50 miles away, I think she and dh are the closest, although, I wouldn't call their relationship close at all. shrug

**frugalandsimple** · 05-22-2006, 06:22 PM

I have a younger brother and sister whom I speak to, but we're not very close

**miss_thrifty** · 05-22-2006, 07:03 PM

I don't talk to my family, hubby family comes over once in awhile since we moved and hour away.My first cousin is the only one I bother with.

**suesue** · 05-22-2006, 07:36 PM

It's so sad.... my family used to be close, or at least I thought we were close. Over the years my parents divorced, remarried people who don't want to be involved with us kids. Then my sister decided that she was going to tell me how to run my life, and I'm just too old to mess with that sort of behavior, so now we don't talk. I've prayed a lot about family, and God answered me by sending me "sisters-in-Christ".

**i.m.cheap** · 05-22-2006, 10:43 PM

Not that close. My parents divorced when I was 16. My only brother committed suicide when he was 22. I rarely see my dad, or talk to him. It is nothing he did, we were just never very close. I speak to my mom on the phone a couple of times a week. I always call her, she never calls me.

My oldest daughter (28) stopped speaking to me almost two years ago. She said I was a failure because I never went to college, and she did. She even called me pathetic, because I have never made alot of money. I have always worked, and she never was deprived of anything as a child, so I don't get it? I left school when I was pregnant with her at 16.

DH doesn't have much family, his parents are both dead, I never met either one. He has one brother no one in his family has seen for about 15 years, and two sisters that live on opposite coasts of the US. We are in Kansas, so it is not like we get together much. I have seen one of his sisters once in the 11 years we have been together, and the other one twice.