Hubby is gone

**leeleeaub** · 02-20-2006, 08:26 AM

Well my hubby left this morning at 4 a.m. for a week. I have had 2 firsts in the last week. Last Monday night was my first night alone and this will be my first week alone. I guess I am stupid for feeling the way I do. I am 41 I should be more mature about this. It is just not knowing anyone in this state and being in a new place and not being able to drive, it just feels suffocating.
I will be on here a lot. I also am going to be doing some needlepoint and have 2 new cookbooks to look at. Hubby has already called me 4 times and it is only 7 so I guess he truely isn't happy about it either.
Anyway hope I don't drive everyone crazy this next week. Lee

**tbs727** · 02-20-2006, 08:42 AM

I'm sorry you are worried, Lee. It will get better, and while you might not like being alone, you will at least not be so stressed about it.

**Mom23boys** · 02-20-2006, 08:50 AM

**AmyMCGS** · 02-20-2006, 09:23 AM

Hang in there. When my DH first started working night shift after we were married I hated it- but eventually I got used to being alone at night. You'll probably feel better after the first day or two have passed.

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-20-2006, 09:26 AM

Lee,

If you need someone to talk to send me a PM, my hubby just got back yesterday and I made it through the 3 days he was gone.

**many houseapes** · 02-20-2006, 09:47 AM

I know how you are feeling...I hate it when my dh has to be gone.

**Michele Annette** · 02-20-2006, 11:18 AM

Lee, do you have anything close to you, such as the library or coffee shop, movie rental, etc.? If you can easily walk to such places that would be good for you to get out and do something by yourself. If you are not close enough to walk but still close to a town, are you able to afford to get a cab (if it isn't too far or too expensive)? This once may be a treat for yourself, so that you are not cooped up in the house for too long by yourself, if you are feeling lonely.

When my DH is gone I go to Barnes and Noble. I hardly ever go normally, but it is something I do when DH is out of town. That way I can spend thee hours browsing books and enjoy a coffee for a change of pace.

I wish you the best this week. We are here too!

**Pepper** · 02-20-2006, 08:17 PM

**leeleeaub** · 02-20-2006, 09:51 PM

I have nothing close and I can't afford to take a cab.

Strugglingmomof3 I have tried and tried to send you a pm but for some reason it isn't going through. Could you send me one so that I can respond? Thanks

**tbs727** · 02-21-2006, 08:45 AM

Lee, how did last night go? You were in my thoughts.

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-21-2006, 09:35 AM

I am curious as to how your doing?

**Michele Annette** · 02-21-2006, 11:18 AM

Hope you're doing okay Lee.

**leeleeaub** · 02-21-2006, 03:48 PM

Well I took a shower around 1 a.m. and layed down and did the crossword puzzle in my Woman's World magazine. I locked the bedroom door and had Izzy my 2 year old constant companion beside me. I dozed off somewhere around 3 and slept for 3 hours.
Today I have been working on some african violet leaves, did some laundry, read some e-mails and have been browsing here.
Hubby has called me like 20 times and when he called at lunch he said he is going to ask them if he can work like 15-18 hours straight to try and get done early so he can come home.
I think it is upsetting to him also.
I am fine as long as the sun is up it is once it gets dark that it gets bad.
Thanks everyone for the caring and concern it means a lot.
Lee

**Michele Annette** · 02-22-2006, 02:32 PM

Lee, I'm glad you are hanging in there and that your DH is able to touch base with you often.
When my DH is gone, nights are hard for me too. I too lock the bedroom door and have the phone and a huge Mag light right next to me. We have guns in the house and I know how to use them, but I do not want a loaded gun near me in bed....so if I hear anything (I'm a very light sleeper) I will have that Mag light ready to clock over someone's head.

**leeleeaub** · 02-22-2006, 02:40 PM

It just seems like the days and nights are dragging. He got to work yesterday and they said they didn't have everything they needed for him to work, that he could go back to the hotel room. He told them he didn't drive 16 hours to be sent to a room. They could either give him something to do for 8 hours or he was coming home. Needless to say they gave him something to do. Anyway he is trying today to see if they will just let him work as long as he can so he can come home sooner.
My husband doesn't EVER do anything like this and last night around 9 I got a call and he sang "I just called to say I love you" then he would call me every 40 or so minutes to say he loves me and misses me and how much he appreciates me.
I miss him so much it hurts but it seems to be making him realize just what he has in me too. Lee