OH NO! Kids...

**Lorri** · 05-01-2006, 01:48 PM

I recently learned that my daughter was thinking of getting married next september. I had to think about that one a lot. I am the mom to one girl and one boy ages 19 & 17 respectively. Two nights ago my son starting asking wedding questions and I caught him looking at apartments in the newspaper. I feel they are both way too young to think about marriage or moving out. Today my daughter came home with a rental application for an apartment. I think I am ready for her to move out as she has a child and does need to be on her own. I just am not sure how to handle all of these things at once. It seems a bit overwhelming. Has anyone ever experienced these things all at once? How did you handle it? Any suggestions?
Sorry so long I just needed to vent.

**AmyBoz** · 05-01-2006, 02:12 PM

Lorri...Well, JMO, but if she's old enough to have a child, she's old enough to live on her own. I'd definitely be helping her with the research, going to apartments with her to check them out and helping her through the process. Your son? 17 is the age that most kids start to think about leaving home, whether it's college, or what have you. Maybe you could have him start paying you some rent, just to see what it's like. Then, you could put it in a secret account to give to him when he does move out.

Either way, I'd help both with a budget to see how realistic it is for them to go at this time.

**canadian gardener** · 05-01-2006, 11:55 PM

I ditto Amy.

**bunnytracks** · 05-02-2006, 07:37 PM

Not there yet but will be someday as my oldest 2 are only 18 months apart. (((hugs)))

**Lorri** · 05-02-2006, 11:45 PM

I suppose I should have given more detail or something...lol
My daughter is really not old enough to have a 5 year old child but she does.
She is a full time college student who graduated her high school with honors. She really just made an untimely judgement. She also works more than part time but not full time. Over the last couple of days we have discussed this further and I feel better about it. I listened while she talked then privately did a YEAH SHE LISTENS! She was being very adult about it and considering all of her options. I had to laugh though because my darling grandson said to her that she had to build a tunnel from her house to mine cause he would miss his grandma. I guess I am just concerned that she will get out on her own and find it all overwhelming and not finish her college. I intend to still help with the grandson as much as possible and he will start all day kindergarten in the fall. His father and his other set of grandparents are very involved in all of his activites so I guess I should not worry so much. My husband seems to think I am being a bit selfish because I will then not have a child to fill my days. He may be right.
I agreed with everything said. I do think it may teach the son something if he has to pay some rent or a car payment or his own insurance. My husband and I disagree on these things. He thinks as long as they do well in school they should not be made to pay for things like that.
I thank your for your responses and again apologize for being so windy.