When did you get married?

Leiloni77 · 08-15-2002, 04:21 PM

My SO and I have been together for almost three years. I am going to be 25 and he will be 25 four months after me. I know he is the one, and I want to be married to him more than anything.
He says it's more of a when than an if for us to get married. Are guys just not as excited as we are about this sort of thing. Or is it because it's an expensive process (ring, wedding cost, honeymoon) that makes them groan.
My question is, how long were you together before you got married, and does it make a difference in your opinion?

sixfreds · 08-15-2002, 06:42 PM

Well we are going up to 10 years married in September but only togehter 1 1/2 years before we got married....
We just knew we were right togehter.. I don't think time is necessary a factor on when/if you are to get married...

We were young too I was 22 and he was 23 when we got married..

10 years and 4 kids later we are still going strong..

Eileen

mommy2three · 08-15-2002, 07:58 PM

my hubby and i met in 1993 and weren't married until june 1997. we were also engaged for over a year before we got married. about 2 months after we were married i got pregnant.

now we've been married right over 5 years and have 2 kids and 1 more on the way. (we really only planned the second baby)

good luck!! it will happen.......

Xylina · 08-15-2002, 09:20 PM

Well, I dated my husband a year and a half before we were married.

We met in high school and were immediatly crazy about each other. To be honest we probably would have married sooner but I wanted to graduate first. We were married the day after my graduation in June of 98, so its been a little over 4 years now. Alot of people I meet my age can't even imagine THINKING about being married at our CURRENT age, let alone be planning a 5th anniversay party.

My husband and I just knew early we wanted a stable married life, and I am thankful everyday that goes by that we were married when we were.

But I think its important that both you and your husband-to-be are ready to be married, it can be a big change!

Kimmomo3 · 08-15-2002, 09:27 PM

DH #1 I knew in high school and we dated and were engaged for 3 years and we got married when i was 20 and he was 21. Divorced 11mo. later

DH #2 I dated and engaged to 6years and we had a kid who was 3 when we got married 5 years ago.

So I think it is not a good idea to do things you THINK you have to do just do what YOU (and he) want to do. (But no evil things)

JMNTBHO

Kim

Leiloni77 · 08-15-2002, 09:43 PM

Thank you for all your thoughts and stories. It helps when you have other people to give you a reality check! Jay and I know we are right for each other, and that we are still young. I am not feeling like it's a "next step" move but more of a "you're the only one for me" move. You know the whole romantic aspect. Anyone else want to add their story??? I'd love to read it!!

bmiltimore · 08-15-2002, 09:47 PM

DH and I dated 7 years before we got married. Met when I was 19 and he was 22--we were both in college. We were married in May 2001 in Costa Rica and it was well worth the wait!

I knew on the first date that he was the man I'd spend the rest of my life with. I even bet a friend of mine $50 that I'd marry him (we hadn't even kissed yet).

Right after we announced our engagement in Feb 2001, my friend gave me a check for $50!!! LOL

seadream · 08-15-2002, 11:51 PM

Dh and I were together for 5 years before we got married. We met when I was 16 and he was 23

and got married when I was 21.
Now 12 years later we are very happy and working on having a baby.

You both definately have to be ready to take the big step so don't rush into it or try to push your SO into it. If it is meant to be he will ask you when he is ready.

doodlebug · 08-16-2002, 12:07 AM

DH and I dated for two years, got married when we were both 20, been married 18 years and have one dd.

crdurham · 08-16-2002, 01:38 AM

Me and dh met in 1995 and were married September 2001...will be celebrating the 1 year aniversery next month...

We didn't really set a time to get married...my dh and I were both just taking it day by day......we lived together for about a year before...some people don't believe in that, but I think that is the best way to go....we had a beautiful wonderful wedding..but the only thing that changed was my last name....we are best friends and have a great time together....

My dh was real scared to get married....but over the years he got over that....I am glad that we didn't rush into anything...but I am equally glad that we are married now!!

Karla · 08-16-2002, 03:49 AM

My dh and I were together for only a few months we knew we were right for each other. we also had both been married before and knew we didn't want to go thru that again, now come Sept as well we will have our 21 anniversary

lucy979 · 08-16-2002, 04:56 AM

My DH and I met when I was 11 and he was 13. We dated on and off in high school. Got pregnant the last part of my junior year in high school and got married when DD was one and a half. We just celebrated our 4 year anniversary. Don't rush it!

Mom23boys · 08-16-2002, 06:03 AM

I only dated DH 6 months before we were married. I was still in high and he was out. (Still graduated and went to college.) I found being married IS NOT an excuse not to finish your education! After 15 1/2 years of marriage and 3 boys later (14, 11 and 7) I would do it all again!! I love my DH and my children with all I have to give!!

Jenlee · 08-16-2002, 09:37 AM

Dh and I met and married in 6 WEEKS!!!! We will celebrating our 10th anniversary in November. It was love at first sight!!!! We were 24 and 32 and we now have 3 wonderful children.

~Sherry~ · 08-16-2002, 09:50 AM

I was with my ex husband a year and a half before we married... then divorced 5 years later.
My fiance and I have been together almost 5 years. We plan to get married... just hasn't been the right time yet I guess.