i'm steaming mad........grrrrrrrrr

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 12-28-2006, 09:37 PM

well i'm sure you all have heard me complain about my sister. well anyways, i called her & asked her to babysit sunday night for new years & she asked me "how much are you going to pay me"? keep in mind, i paid $900.00 to get her out of jail, kept her baby for her while she was in jail for 3 weeks (otherwise she would of went in foster care), let her live with us when she got out of jail for FREE, and i keep her daughter whenever she needs me to. i was speechless!!!! i told her to consider it my christmas present (since she didn't get me or my kids anything for x-mas), and i spent alot of $$$$ on my niece. she said she wouldn't do it unless i paid her. so i told her to "screww off" & to not ever call me again!!!!! i'm cutting the string with her 7 i, i'm done. i'm tired of being used. she is a 100% golddigger, and i can't stand the sihgt of her anymore.........i'm done!!!!! sorry but i had to vent to you ladies, i'm so upset & mad!!!!!! i would love to see how you ladies would of handled this.......am i being ridiculous?

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 12-28-2006, 09:40 PM

opps i forgot to add, she told me i would never see my niece agina since i was yelling at her.........but i was good enough to keep her while she was in jail & when she needs a babysitter i'm good enough!!!! i feel like that is the only thing she can say to me that would tick me off & boy did that really set me off!!!!

**miss_thrifty** · 12-28-2006, 09:59 PM

no i dont blame you for being mad. She doesnt sound to mature to ask to get paid after all the favors.Some people never learn except to take, and im sorry to hear that she's taking you for granted. I cut strings with my family almos3 years ago. What they didnt take in money and my giving of myself, they broke my heart. I feel for you.
Be strong. Remember that whats important is you being true to yourself, standing up for what ubelieve is true and no trespassing on your soul.
Its a hard road some of us live, but worth it in the long run.
HHHUUUGGGSSS

**kaykwilts** · 12-28-2006, 10:00 PM

I'd be angry too. You have been a doormat long enough. Your sister is toxic and you don't need toxic people in your life. I have a feeling she will change her tune about you not ever seeing neice again when she wants a "favor" from you and I can just be she will be all apologetic. Don't give any more handouts to this leach.

**Michelle68** · 12-28-2006, 10:10 PM

I agree with Miss Thrifty. It sounds as if you've been a doormat for your sister one too many times. You need to stand up for yourself and let her know that you won't let her walk all over you anymore, otherwise her selfish behavior will continue at your expense. Unfortunately she may never change, so it's up to you to change the way you relate to her or you'll end up hurt many times over. As Kay wrote, she may tell you that you'll never see your niece again, but I guarantee you that the moment she's in another jam, you'll be the first one she turns to. You'll have to be strong enough at that time to not repeat the past behaviors that have led to you feeling so angry and abused. You don't deserve that kind of treatment and heartache. Good luck, we're here for you!

--Michelle

**bumplett** · 12-28-2006, 10:32 PM

**dwallyfam** · 12-28-2006, 10:43 PM

The only thing I can say is ditto.

**FrugalMomof3** · 12-28-2006, 10:50 PM

I agree with what everyone has said above, she has to stop doing this to you because it's not fair and then to hang the neice over your head is just childish, dont fall for it, she will come knocking on the door for a favor but in all honesty I wouldnt do anything anymore for her, your feet have been stomped on way too much, you deserve to be treated better, especially fom family.

**frugalfriend** · 12-28-2006, 11:26 PM

I don't blame you for being mad at all, I would be furious too! Doesn't she even acknowledge all that you have done for her?! All you are asking for is a little favor in return. I would definitely have at least a cooling off period, and hopefully eventually you can work things out. She needs time to realize the error of her ways and to appreciate you and how good she had it! You are a very good sister and have done nothing wrong.

**leezza** · 12-29-2006, 12:39 AM

Mommydearest,

I have an idea: How about making New Years Eve a family celebration......

Decorate the dining room
Have some good snacks, (popcorn, chips, ect....)
You and hubby dress up, (have the kids wear their jammies)
Play games that the whole family can enjoy, (board games ect....)

Have a bottle of bubbly in the frig for you and hubby, for after the kids go to bed......you and hubby can ring in the New year, maybe put some nice music on the stereo.

This way you can have a nice evening, and not worry about how the children are or who's taking care of them. What ever you decide I hope you have a wonderful New Year!

JMHO,
leezza

PS. And I think you have done enough nice things for your sister.......I would ponder a guess that you would have cut off communication with her much earlier if it wasn't for your darling little niece.......don't worry the little one knows that you love her.

**FrugalWitch** · 12-29-2006, 02:06 AM

Next time she wants something tell her to go pi$$ up a rope. JMHO

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 12-29-2006, 02:30 AM

I can't really add anything except to echo what everyone else has said. I have relatives who also only call when they want something. Boy, does it make me want to

!!

**Darlene** · 12-29-2006, 08:45 AM

I think things are turning out for the best for the most part. I sure wouldn't want her watching my kids. She's a selfish, manipulating, immature shrew.

My guess is your niece will not be out of your life forever, when she gets older she will seek you out. Feel badly for her having a "mother" like that.

**banana** · 12-29-2006, 09:34 AM

I have to agree with what everyone said. I know it is very fustrating to be taken advantage of by family.

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 12-29-2006, 11:22 AM

thank you ladies i just love you guys. like alot of you said, she will be calling me or knocking at my door, but i'm writing her off for now. i'm tired of being used!!! i wrote my father off 14mths ago because he's so predjudice (my dh is mexican), and i'm going to do the same with my sister. plus she's pregnant again (which is completely bullsh**), and she will really need me, but my door is going to be closed!!! thanks again ladies!!