Just wanted to vent...

**Telephus44** · 01-17-2007, 06:29 PM

...I'm having an "I'm a bad mom" pity party kind of day. DS will turn 4 months on Saturday and still doesn't know what his hands are, other than to suck his fingers. Won't hit toys I dangle over his head (well, not purposefully) or grasp for things. And I think I used too much Oxiclean in his laundry Monday, he's got little white bumps like a rash everywhere except the diaper area and his feet.

Sigh - just needed to get it out somewhere, just need some cheering up. I know that logically I'm not a bad mom, I just feel that way.

**oct2667us** · 01-17-2007, 06:33 PM

Hugsssssss It will be ok we all have days like this.

**banana** · 01-17-2007, 06:36 PM

Oh Sara - Your little one will do things at his own pace when he is ready for them. I hope his rash clears up real soon. I think you might need to get out of the house a bit maybe with some friends or with hubby if you can find a sitter to watch your son?

**GMA21** · 01-17-2007, 06:59 PM

Sara, everything will be alright just hang in there

**frugalfriend** · 01-17-2007, 07:27 PM

Sara - sorry you are feeling down!

Just know that the rash could be caused by many things and I'm sure it will clear up soon. Also, he will develop at his own pace and what he is doing (or not doing yet) is normal. I can tell you're a great Mom who loves her son!

**FrugalMomof3** · 01-17-2007, 07:29 PM

Sara everything will be just fine and I hope your DS's rash clears up soon

**nuisance26** · 01-17-2007, 07:44 PM

~I deal with those feelings almost every day. I was always an early acheiver but my kids are very very late walkers, talkers, ect. It's hard not to feel that the problem is me not them. All part of the mommy guilt thing. When I'm feeling that way I try to remember that if I teach them HOW to learn and stimulate their curiosity they will reach milestones at their own pace. And from what I know about you, I think you are a fantastic mom!~

**freerangers** · 01-17-2007, 07:49 PM

Adding my fellow mama hugs in here...and ya know what? At 4 months old, his hands ARE for chewin' n suckin' on! See--he has it ALL figured out Mama!

Genius, that baby, just genius.

~~

cheer up and keep dangling those toys!

**3-boys-4-me** · 01-17-2007, 08:26 PM

Oh Sara...YOU ARE A WONDERFUL MOTHER! Your son, who is still VERY young, will do things at his pace. When he's ready to do it, he will. Please don't worry. I think the fact that you're concerned, only shows what a fabulous Mom you are! I am sending many Mommy hugs your way!

**emily_hope** · 01-17-2007, 08:47 PM

Just by reading this post, I know you are a WONDERFUL Mom. You care so much for your son. He will learn to do things when the time is right for him and the stage of development he is in. Don't worry. Just watch. You will be pleasantly surprised any day now.

**baronmom** · 01-17-2007, 09:32 PM

Just relax and take a deep breath. Everything will be ok.

**sixfreds** · 01-17-2007, 09:54 PM

We all have those days.

All I want to say is look that that beautiful baby and know how much you love him and know that you are a great mom!!!!!!!!!

Take a deep breathe and hold your baby and I hope you feel better.
Just know all great moms feel that way at some point.
Eileen

**jamie79** · 01-17-2007, 10:22 PM

Ladies who feel guilty, please listen to me. I have 2 kids one who did everything early and the youngest who did everything late, walking, talking etc. Hes 15 now 5'10 and doesnt stop. He has a 3.757 gpa. Kids do things on their own time table. Unless a doctor says something is wrong usually there isnt. Every mom wants their kids to be the quickest and fastest. They will get where they need to be. Hugs to you all

**Cricket1** · 01-17-2007, 10:23 PM

Sara, he's just fine. Don't worry so much about his precious little hands. And for the love of God, put down those baby books that tell you what your child should be doing at every age. Each child is different and progresses in their own ways.

Also, my youngest had a rash for the first 2 years of his life--it was almost constant. I was washing everything in Dreft, trying All free and clear--anything I could think of. He "grew out" of his rashes and now everything gets washed in Tide.

You are doing a fabulous job and he loves his mommy! Look at that sweet picture.

Hang in there. Motherhood is the toughest job in the world. Wait until you drop him for the first time!!

**Valerie in WA** · 01-17-2007, 11:05 PM

Sara I have been a pediatric/neonatal nurse (or aide) for 12 years now and I've never met a four-month-old who could purposefully grasp toys. Those books that tell he should are crap. Most baby's get a palmar grasp (grasp with the palm of the hand and all the fingers together) at about 6 months. The get the pincher grasp (thumb and forefinger together AKA the Cheerio grasp) around 8 - 10 months.

I'm sorry you're having a rough day. Make sure you're getting enough rest.