Vent~Gee.. I could duct tape his mouth

**nodmicks** · 05-26-2007, 07:02 PM

Heaven help me~! We have my very spoiled 12 year old nephew. honestly . I'm just praying for patience and I have raised my voice a few times today. He wrecked my sons $60 xbox 360 game that my son saved his allowance for months to buy. He shrugged it off as no big deal.
He has took a bite of two different bratwursts (they are $3.68 a lb!) at lunch and declared them disgusting and threw them at the dog. He took a bite of a bananna and threw it away because it wasn't ripe enough.
I decided to do a frozen pizza for dinner because I know he likes pizza. He starts complaining because we only have sausage pizza. I told him if he didn't like it to have a PB&J sandwich or starve. Then he complained because we only have wheat bread. I told him tough then starve.
We had to hide all but 1 can of soda per kid as last weekend we didn't find out until he left that he took a 12 PACK out of the pantry and took it upstairs and drank it all throughout the weekend after we had said 1 can per kid per day. It does no good chastsing him since he just laughs it off.
I have had it!!!!!!!!!!!

Is it sunday night yet???

**PB&J** · 05-26-2007, 07:49 PM

Sounds like my cousin that I babysat today. He got here at 8AM and started asking for cokes. I told him, No, we don't have cokes. So he asks for Dr Pepper. Don't have that, either. lol He didn't like what I made for breakfast or lunch and requested I go to McDonalds because he only likes chicken nuggets. Uh, no. He just left and I feel much more relaxed.

I also have my nephew all weekend. Fortunately his mother is a dipstick and he pretty much gets NOTHING, not even food half the time. So he isn't the least bit spoiled and eats whatever I give him. But he is really really noisy, stomping and yelling constantly, much to the dismay of my husband who works nights and is trying to sleep.

Sunday evening can't come soon enough for both of us I am sure.

**Darlene** · 05-26-2007, 08:02 PM

He wouldn't be at my house again for any period of time & I would definitely say something to the parents. You are not out of line or "cheap" in thinking that his behavior is boorish and rude. Adult or child that acts like this needs to know that it's not ok. They don't like it, bunk somewhere else next time.

Rude is rude and he's/they've(?) got a lot to learn and will starting now if they care to learn.

**baxjul** · 05-26-2007, 08:18 PM

I agree with what Darlene has said!

**frugalfriend** · 05-26-2007, 09:39 PM

Originally Posted by nodmicks

I have had it!!!!!!!!!!!

Is it sunday night yet???

Sounds like he needs to go home early!!

**nodmicks** · 05-27-2007, 10:56 AM

Darlene I agree 100%. The big problem in my opinion is lack of parenting. His parents seem to think the behavior is funny. We do it for MIL more than anything. Otherwise she has him every weekend and seriously with her 12 hour shifts working she needs a break. I'd think since we have him 2-3 x a month and have for ages he would get it! Nope! Since everything we fed him was "not up to his standards" and I knew he's hit the junk food when we went to bed I hid all the bag of chips and the soda in the dryer. Ridiculous I know!

**nodmicks** · 05-27-2007, 10:59 AM

Thanks for letting me vent!

**Darlene** · 05-27-2007, 12:42 PM

Why aren't his parents taking care of him? Maybe if you & MIL weren't available due to their sons bad manners it wouldn't be so "cute & funny" anymore. Actions have consequences!

**mom21ofeach** · 05-27-2007, 01:42 PM

I would definitely tell the parents about the xbox game. Hopefully they will offer to pay. I don't think I would be offering to keep him at my house again anytime soon. If the parents ask why, then I would tell them. You don't have to put up with that kind of stuff from a kid. Unfortunetly, this kid is going to have a rude awakening when he's an adult. It's too bad his parents can't see what they are doing to him.

**nodmicks** · 05-27-2007, 03:46 PM

Originally Posted by Darlene

Why aren't his parents taking care of him? Maybe if you & MIL weren't available due to their sons bad manners it wouldn't be so "cute & funny" anymore. Actions have consequences!

His Mom is in another state until end of july and his dad is in the fields farming. MIL would never say no and excuses her G kids poor manners. 3 of them behave awful!!! She just shrugs and says oh thats just "so and so".
I tell you I wish there were an easy solution. Dh and I had a long discussion. I told him the next weekend I'm off work there will not be an extra kid here~period! I'm sick of not being able to take my kids to the drive inn etc because His nephew is too rotten to go along and behave.
I completely blew it at lunch. I had baby carrots, Mac and cheese and hot dogs. Very kid friendly foods. OMG now he hates hotdogs. I told him he needs to be polite and eat whats provided or stay at MIL's.

**FrugalMomof3** · 05-27-2007, 03:47 PM

I agree with Darlene 100%, that type of behavior would not be tolerated in my house.

**nodmicks** · 05-27-2007, 03:49 PM

Originally Posted by mom21ofeach

I would definitely tell the parents about the xbox game. Hopefully they will offer to pay. I don't think I would be offering to keep him at my house again anytime soon. If the parents ask why, then I would tell them. You don't have to put up with that kind of stuff from a kid. Unfortunetly, this kid is going to have a rude awakening when he's an adult. It's too bad his parents can't see what they are doing to him.

I definately do plan to tell his parents about the game. My son saved his $5 a week allowance for ages to buy it. I won't hold my breath on them replacing it though. Sadly the kid behaves the way he does by example.

He has lots of nice qualities but sadly the bad manners over shadow them.

**nodmicks** · 05-27-2007, 03:50 PM

Originally Posted by FrugalMomof3

I agree with Darlene 100%, that type of behavior would not be tolerated in my house.

I tell ya Tracy sometimes I wish we could pick family like we do friends.
The one who will get upset over this is MIL not the parents.

**nodmicks** · 05-27-2007, 03:53 PM

Originally Posted by PB&J

Sounds like my cousin that I babysat today. He got here at 8AM and started asking for cokes. I told him, No, we don't have cokes. So he asks for Dr Pepper. Don't have that, either. lol He didn't like what I made for breakfast or lunch and requested I go to McDonalds because he only likes chicken nuggets. Uh, no. He just left and I feel much more relaxed.

I also have my nephew all weekend. Fortunately his mother is a dipstick and he pretty much gets NOTHING, not even food half the time. So he isn't the least bit spoiled and eats whatever I give him. But he is really really noisy, stomping and yelling constantly, much to the dismay of my husband who works nights and is trying to sleep.

Sunday evening can't come soon enough for both of us I am sure.

Awww that sad about your nephew getting nothing! How can people do that?? I totally spympathise on the noisey part. Poor DH!