Do you ever feel unappreciated by your family??

**Buckeye5** · 06-06-2007, 06:27 PM

I am so mad at my family right at this moment. I have subbed most of the year when the schools called, Dh had back surgery, off of work forever ( it seemed), DD"1 graduated from communit college and has gotten a decent job, DD'2 just graduated from high school and is working at a nearby Lake and park, DS is getting ready for his freshman year of high school. I like being a SAHM but I really think that they take advantage of me. Money has been really tight the last two years due to numerous medical bills, so, I have learned to say no. The kids hate to hear that. I am always they bad guy, because my wimpy DH never speaks up and lets me always take care of everything. I am resenting it. I have tried totalk to them, but they don't really get it. Dh will never do the bills with me, this way it is less stressful and easy to blame me for financial issues, in my opinion. I have thought about going back to work for the summer, but it is always dead end jobs that pays minimum wage, and I don't want to leave my son who just turned 14 years old by himself allday. We live in the rural area, so no neighbors, what do I do?? I am especially made at Dh because I never feel like a true partner. We have been married 23 years, but I have thought what life would be like on the other side. He makes me so angry. I have thought of marriage counseling but cannot afford, and the ministers around here are not optional.

**DJ1972** · 06-06-2007, 07:45 PM

I know I didn't truly appreciate my mom until I was out on my own. Kids usually don't think about the sacrifices parents make unless one parent points out what a great job the other parent is doing. My dh is good about being gratefull and teaching the kids to do the same.
I hope your situation gets better. I assume you have talked to your dh and let him know how you feel. There is a christian ministry couple...Karen and Jimmy Evans... that have a web site and offer some resources for marriage.http://www.marriagetoday.org/site/PageServer

**FrugalMomof3** · 06-06-2007, 08:11 PM

I sometimes feel like that also but there are always good times and bad times and "sometimes" DH will put in a good word as to be on my side but most often he will keep silent as if for me to be the blame of everything. I just keep my head up high and when the kids have questions I will gladly answer them truthfully because that's all I can do.

Sending hugs your way