When did you decide to have more children?

**lottaLove** · 07-04-2007, 04:21 PM

At what point did you decide to have more than one child? Was it a conscious decision, or did it just happen? Did you wait until you thought your youngest was old enough for siblings, or did you wait until you had a financial situation that could handle a larger family? Was it a decision that was made long before you began having a family?

I think there is no definitive wrong or right time to have more children, I'm just curious as to what some other people have gone through before deciding to have more than one child.

**emily_hope** · 07-04-2007, 04:29 PM

I only have two daughters. I planned to have more, but it didn't work out that way. Once I had my first little girl, I just couldn't wait to have another child. I was pregnant with my second daughter when my first one was just a little over 7 months old. They are just over 16 months apart. It was rough when they were both small, but they have always been close. I am glad I had them close together.

**Neeley** · 07-04-2007, 05:20 PM

Each of my pregnacies just happened - 2 children and one miscarriage. The kids are 2 years 3 months apart in age. They are very close and the age difference in them worked out beautifully for us. My youngest is almost 12 and I am so ready for another. If I am able to overcome a few health issues and get the ok from my doc, I will be having at least one more.

**ubumartin** · 07-04-2007, 06:48 PM

None of my girls were planned. I love that I had the 3 very close together and my last surprise was a complete blessing. She has added so much to our family that I wouldn't change a thing.

**brainyblonde** · 07-04-2007, 07:02 PM

When I became pregnant the second time (with twins).

There is a 27 month age difference. I would've have liked another pregnancy, but it wasn't meant to be. I console myself with fact that I am so very fortunate to have three very healthy sons.

**jamie79** · 07-04-2007, 07:28 PM

I only have 2 and we got number 2 because dh was supposed to be heading to the first Gulf War and we didnt want ods to be alone if something were to happen to dh. Dh was a week away from going and the war ended. I really didnt want to be pregnant at the time , I wanted the kids to be 4 yrs apart but they are 2 yrs and 10 months apart.
We didnt have more then the 2 as I had a very difficult delivary with yds and money wise we could not afford more then 2. I dont regret that decision either

**many houseapes** · 07-04-2007, 10:07 PM

before marrying, I had always wanted a huge family(the desire was in my heart since I was 14).I married dh when I was 19 & we immediately started on our family....we just did what we felt was the right thing for us to do & trusted God to take care of us.
We have never been disappointed

**SewCrafty** · 07-04-2007, 11:43 PM

many houseapes, can you tell us the ages and genders of your children? Not their names, as I know you are very careful on the net, but I have always wondered how old your kids are.

**miss_thrifty** · 07-05-2007, 09:00 AM

my boys were not planned but well loved and wanted. the first almost 15 was the excitement of both grandparents side(first born) and the second was a miracle baby(wasnt suppose to be able to get preg and almost lost many.many times). So after that I made sure tubes were tied day after youngest born. Hubby and I didnt want to take any more chances.lol

**Cricket1** · 07-05-2007, 09:17 AM

Both of my boys were adopted. I wanted them to be 3 years apart, but God had other plans. We absolutely fell in LOVE with a baby boy (ds #2) and adopted him. They are almost exactly two years apart.

Before I had kids, I wanted 10. Then the first one came along and I drastically reduced the number I wanted!! LOL. I wanted three kids, but dh only wanted two. Now that we have two, I'm perfectly happy with them and don't want anymore kiddos.

**SandNOceanGirl** · 07-05-2007, 10:44 AM

I have 3 children. 2 girls and 1 boy. The girls weren't planned and are 18 months apart. Son was planned. We wanted to try for a boy with the third pregnancy and were lucky enough to have one. I wouldn't say that we were financially ready for any of them. All three of them are a blessing to us!

**justpeachy92** · 07-05-2007, 11:26 AM

As of right now I have 4 children. I was 18 and dh was 20 when we got married, we always wanted a large family. My children are 13, 10, 8 and 2....we have had 2 miscarriages since the last was born.

**many houseapes** · 07-05-2007, 11:59 AM

hey there dee

the kids genders & ages from oldest to youngest:
6 boys, 5 girls

ds#1 - 21
ds#2 -20
dd#1 -18
dd#2 - 16(almost 17)
dd#3 -15
dd#4 - with Jesus
ds#3 - 10
ds#4 - 8
dd#5 - 5
ds#5 - 3 1/2
ds#6 - 11months

spacing between kiddos...
#1 & #2 - 14 months
#2 & #3 - 2ys/ 4 months
#3 & #4 -17 months
#4 & #5 -20 months
#5 & #6 -3 ys/8 months(had a tubal and a reversal between these 2 kiddos)
#6 & #7 -15 months
#7 & #8 - 22 months
#8 & #9 -3 yrs/ 2 months
#9 & #10 - 2 yrs to the date (they share the same birthday-my "terror twins")
#10 & #11 -2 yrs/ 7 months

**i.m.cheap** · 07-05-2007, 02:47 PM

I am kind of unusual in this respect. I raised my oldest (now 29) as an only child. After she moved out, and became a mom, making me a grandmother at 33, I decided to have another baby. My girls are 18 years and two months apart in age.

**Telephus44** · 07-05-2007, 08:05 PM

Honestly, we're still trying to decide if we want a second child. Our son was planned, and we decided to wait until he was 12 months to make an official decision on whether or not we want another one.

If we have a second, I'd like to space them 3 or 4 years apart. I'd like him to be able to really appreciate a new baby, and also to have a developed sense of self, and enjoy his own time as a baby/toddler.