Rant

**Jeanna** · 07-16-2007, 01:06 PM

I am so

mad at my SIL. My daughters birthday is today. We had a cookout Saturday night for my husbands side of the family and had her birthday party with it. Well my SIL, husband, and kids did not come. My nephews, who are 6 and 10 went to the lake with someone and get this she didn't even know what lake they went to. Then her and her husband worked at building a fence for someone instead of coming. Now we went all out. My husband smoked two hams for BBQ, I made coleslaw, baked beans, fresh corn on the cob, bread, and a icecream cake. Then the only people to show up was my in-laws. But I am not even mad about the food. I am mad that they did not think my daughter was worth their time.
The whole thing is over us buying the house we are living in from my in-laws. I know she thought that they would keep it and then give it to one of her boys when they grew up. We have lived here a year now and she has never came over.
My daughter is very upset. My youngest nephews birthday is Aug. 6 and Marina says she will not go and I can't blame her and probably won't go myself.
I do not think I am being overly dramatic, do you?
Sorry I just had to rant a little and get it off my shoulders.
Oh yeah, she has always thought she was better than me. But one thing is my kids, even now at 14 and 19 would rather be here with me than somewhere else, were as her oldest one stays at the inlaws 5 out of 7 nights and the other is starting the samething.
Thanks for listening.

**themartins903** · 07-16-2007, 01:18 PM

Oh, I remember those days. It's good to rant, it really is. Our family had the very same issues about 10 years ago. I'm the baby of the family, my brother middle and my sister the oldest. To this day she has always felt she was the black sheep growing up. She says my brother and I were always spoiled growing up and she is 52, brother 49 (he could care less about that kind of stuff) and I'm 41.

Alot of water has passed under the bridge and we are even closer now. When the family goes down the memory lane to talk about the past, the ugly duckling card gets thrown out at times and we just overlook it.

Sounds like you had a GREAT menu!

Hope you have a good day, and try not to let this eat at you....

((HUGS))

**Darlene** · 07-16-2007, 02:01 PM

Did she say they would come & then not show?
I guess if it were me I'd get a head count as to who is coming and not give a second thought to those who didn't want/couldn't come. If they are like this often I just wouldn't invite them, then their feelings would be hurt & not mine. Not worth it to let family/friends who are rude or whatnot bring you down. Carry on without them say I.
Happy Birthday Marina!

**Edna_E** · 07-16-2007, 04:03 PM

I'm with Darlene on this. My family are scattered to the winds, however, so it is very rare for any of us to get together for anyone's birthdays - and I've always rather envied people who can and do. I have had parties where people said they'd be there and then weren't, however, so I know how frustrating it can be to end up with a lot of stuff left over - specially if it is stuff you won't use (in my case, beer - yuck!) Anyway, I wouldn't worry too much about her, just distance yourself as much as you feel the need to - and try not to take it out on her kids 'cause it sounds like they already would rather do things differently than she does or they wouldn't be staying with the grandparents so much of the time.

**Jeanna** · 07-16-2007, 05:49 PM

Well no they hadn't said they would come. However I have been married for 21 years and we have always gotten together for Birthdays and I mean everyones. So it is just understood that they would be here. I have let it go now. I just had to get it off my chest. It is their loss.

**Its_Donna** · 07-16-2007, 07:00 PM

It certainly is their loss! And if you are invited to their child's birthday..well I would go and show her how a real woman takes care of her business!

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 07-19-2007, 06:44 PM

Well, their loss! Sounds like it was a delicious meal and a fun time!

**santoria** · 07-23-2007, 05:18 AM

sounds like you wouldn't have had a good time if they did show up.

MY inlaws are a lot like that - none of them showed up for my dd's 4th birthday party yesterday. poor girl was heartbroken.

some people are just never happy, and need something to be bitter about.

**nodmicks** · 07-23-2007, 07:52 AM

Originally Posted by Its_Donna

It certainly is their loss! And if you are invited to their child's birthday..well I would go and show her how a real woman takes care of her business!

I think Donna's advice is excellent! I'm sure sorry they did that to you and your child. It's awful.