Do you have a great DH/SO

**captclearance** · 09-07-2002, 10:34 PM

I married a man 12 years my senior, I have been married to him for 13 years and I am more in love with him now than ever, My friends tell me I married the last of the good ones... He really is a wonderful man. He is "old school" and still opens the car door for me and has NEVER called me out of my name in 14 years. He is a wonderful Father and a supportive Husband. I just started a crafting business this year and he has been great !!! This is not a first marriage for either of us, we really enjoy each others company, in 14 years he has never given me cause to be imbarrassed by his behavior. We built a dream home together and live a great life enjoying the children together. We had a surprise baby boy 6 years ago (When dh was 48 yrs old) (the last of 5 children, we have 3 boys and 1 girl, ages,30, 28, 21, 11 & 6) He never allowed himself to be anything but thrilled and has never said "Accident" just a wonderful surprise. I wanted to take a minute to rave about mine.... I know you ladies have some wonderful hubbies too.... After all, could any of us spend all this time on the net if we didn't ????

**Sara Noel** · 09-08-2002, 02:46 PM

That's so sweet and you are so fortunate.
I have to say I love Gabe to death, but there are days I want to kick him to the curb. We are so vastly different in some ways. I am so high energy and he is so low keyed. That alone makes me crazy! We've only been together for 4.5 years and I still keep wondering if suddenly one morning he'll jump out of bed at 6am and have a list of 100 things he wants to get done and actually do them. LMAO (omg me and my wishful thinking) Meanwhile, he wishes I would just sit back and take a break and stop pushing and pressing for a million things to happen.
I wish I could also say he has never done anything to embarrass me, but he has. He is supportive, but not overly so. Encouraging, but not always. I think the beauty of him is that I always know he has the best of intentions. We share a connection that I know is not common. It's the glue that holds us together.

Sara

THE STUFF THAT DREAMS ARE MADE OF (Carly Simon)

Take a look around now
Change the direction
Adjust the tuning
Try a new translation
Don't look at your man in the same old way
Take a new picture
Just because you don't see shooting stars
Doesn't mean it isn't perfect
can't you see...

It's the stuff that dreams are made of
It's the slow and steady fire
It's the stuff that dreams are made of
It's your heart and soul's desire
It's the stuff that dreams are made of

So what's this about your best friend?
She's got a brand new shiny boy
And they're moving out to Malibu
To play with all his pretty toys
And you feel closed in by the same four walls
The same old conversation
With the same old guy you've known for years
But use your imagination
And you will see....

It's the stuff that dreams are made of
It's the slow and steady fire
It's the stuff that dreams are made of
It's your heart and soul's desire
It's the stuff that dreams are made of

What if the Prince on the horse in your fairytale
Is right here in disguise
And what if the stars you've been reaching so high for
Are shining in his eyes

Don't look at yourself in the same old way
Take another picture
Shoot the stars off in your own backyard
Don't look any further
And you will see
It's the stuff that dreams are made of....

**PrairieRose** · 09-08-2002, 09:43 PM

My dh and I have been married for 26 yrs. now. He is a wonderful person, husband and father but yes we too have our differences. We don't and haven't always seen things in the same light, but for the most part we compliment each other very well. He is absolutely my best friend, confidant, my calm place by the water. I don't think that there is "one perfect mate" for us, but I do think that you can make the most of the mate you choose, and yourself, which helps. My dh is my rock, can't imagine life without him.

**rose** · 09-09-2002, 12:12 AM

my dh is great. we have our ups and downs, but he always tries his best to smooth things over when things do not run smoothly. He works out of town, but when he is in town, he does the cooking and cleaning while I am at work. He takes really good care of me and the boys. I know that I was blessed to meet him.

rosey

**KathiS** · 09-09-2002, 04:34 AM

My DH is a great guy. We've been married for 38 years. He's always stood beside me. I tend to be a dreamer and worry too much. My DH has always been solid as a rock and I have depended on him to help me with whatever comes along. We've always helped each other grow. I think if we had stood in each others way, as early as we married, our marriage wouldn't have lasted. We are sure not those young kids that married in 1964! People have to change and develope to mature and find happiness. I have seen couples that fought each other at every turn when one of them wanted to change jobs or go back to school, etc. Have to support each other and that is the thing I adore about my DH most. Whatever changes I wanted to make, he was there for me 100%! He is my gift from God.

**Jenlee** · 09-09-2002, 08:35 AM

I have one of the last great guys too!! Lately I've been forgetting that, but deep down I know it's true. We met and married in 6 weeks and most people didn't give us 6 months, but come November it will be 10 years.

He loves to grill, so he cooks alot when the weather's warm although he's been known to grill in the rain and snow.

He goes to work every a.m. and the last thing he does before he walks out the door is kiss the children and me and tells me he loves me. I'm not as much a cleaner as him, especially in the kitchen, so he takes care of that most nights.

I don't know what I did to deserve him, but I'm glad I did it!!

**justjenn** · 09-09-2002, 03:21 PM

Dh and I are really young. I am 23 and he is 24. Dh is a wonderful, responsible husband. Most men his age are very irresponsible (want to party, not work, etc), but mine isn't like that at all. To tell you the truth, sometimes we feel as if we are in our 40's (not that that's old), because we don't do the normal 20 something things. We go to work, pay bills, and come home to each other every night.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 09-09-2002, 11:57 PM

Justjenn, DH and I were married when we were 20 and 21 and we are a lot like you two! We have never been party animals, bought our first house when we were 25, etc. We are now both 41 (DH turns 42 on Oct 8) and still love to do things together. Do we have our differences? Of course. However, we both love each other and our kids too much to let the small stuff bother us. Mike always kisses all of us goodbye, comes home on time, doesn't bar hop and hands his paycheck over on pay day so we can pay bills. He's a great guy!

**simplemom** · 09-10-2002, 06:17 AM

My dh is the best...suportive, loving and present for me and the boys...

**COUNTRYBUMPKIN** · 09-10-2002, 06:39 AM

Dh and I have been together for 14 years now and ya know, I was just thinking the other day that I have fallen more and more in love with him over the years. I love this man soooooooo much

He is very supportive of me and is from the old school when it comes to opening doores etc....... He is also very thoughtful and helpful to others and is a wonderful daddy

**Mom23boys** · 09-10-2002, 08:28 AM

My DH and I have been married for 15 1/2 years...Dec. will be 16. We have 3 boys..14, 11 and 7 (8 this month). We married very young. He was 21 and I was 17 and we have managed to make it work. He is a very supportive man. He supports anything I want to do. He loves his family and works his booty off for them!! My love for him has grown so much over the years. I would truely be lost without him! Yes, there are times when we don't see eye to eye, but anything can be resolved!

**mustang80** · 09-10-2002, 08:41 AM

DH and I have been together since I was 15 and he was 17. We've been married 14 1/2 years. We are each others' best friend. We have pretty much grown up together-I've known him since I was 13 and friends with his sister before that-lol. Three daughters later, we are still going strong. He has his quirks and I mine. I think the key with us is to have other interests besides each other. We've always encouraged one another to do things independently. He plays softball, and sometimes it drives us both crazy, but I support him because I know softball is a "release" for him. He's not real good about watching the kids, but he will do it when necessary. He is totally for me being a SAHM, and we are sacrificing having "things" in order to do this. He would rather not have our kids grow up in daycare. We have many friends that do this and it is disturbing to see the way their kids act. He has the best sense of humor, and can always make me laugh, even when I'm mad at him. He was NEVER disappointed that we didn't have a son. He was thrilled with the girls and continues to be. We agree eye to eye on discipline, too. I've spent more than half of my life with him. He's the only guy I ever dated.

**MommyCally** · 09-14-2002, 10:34 PM

I'm completely new to this board but I wanted to throw my 2 cents in. I have a wonderful husband, we're great together, been friends with him since I was 16....we got married when I was 21 and now I'm almost 25 and we're still going strong, a lot of people told us it wouldn't work and now here we are with two great kids to boot!!!

**Patchworkgirl** · 09-22-2002, 03:35 AM

This is a difficult one for me. In reading all your posts, I see some of my husband in your descriptions, but in all honesty 23 years of marriage with this man have been a real trial. I don't feel as though I have a partner, and that is the thing that bothers me the most. He has attention deficiet really bad, and I feel that I've had to be the responsible one in our marriage, constantly reminding him to do things, etc. He is more like one of my kids than a husband. He is horrible with money, forgets everything I ask him to do, and would rather be out socializing with his buddies than working around the house, etc. It's not that he doesn't want to do things around the house, he just can't seem to organize his time so that he can start a project. On the flip side, he's always happy, (why wouldn't he be- he doesn't have a care in the world, I take care of everything), he goes to work every day, and is a good father to his children, spends a lot of time fishing and playing sports with DS, and is always there to help when our friends call. He is a people person, and is happiest when surrounded by lots of people- he loves parties and social functions. All in all, he would have been a great friend, but I would much rather have married someone more compatible to me, someone I could depend on, and someone to handle some of the many problems that crop up along the way.

**tnschaffer** · 09-23-2002, 04:33 PM

My dh is wonderful! We met in high school, and I was the party animal and he was the steady, faithful one. After many tough times we finally got married. I cant believe he stuck with me after some of the things I put him through! He has always been calm and supportive. I tend to worry alot, and he is solid as a rock, and always tells me everything will be alright. He is sweet and thoughtful, and SO good with our girls. He is the daddy I wish I had.

We too are young, both 24. We have been married for 5 years. And like justjenn..most of the time we feel much older because we seem to have it together so much better than most people our age.