9 yr old DD question

**Rompers1** · 09-27-2007, 11:00 AM

Do you think a 9 year old can have PMS? My daughter is naturally emotional but I swear some days she crys over anything at all. I'm wondering if it's time to have a talk with her? You'd think with 5 kids I'd know, but my oldest daughter is handicapped and it was never an issue...then 2 boys so this is the first time I going thru this. Do you think she's too young to learn about periods?

**dwnloom** · 09-27-2007, 11:14 AM

Nope. Please have a talk with her soon. My daughter was 9 when she started. We had a talk several times, however, when it happened, she was still a little confused.

Dawn

**DAAC3DEC** · 09-27-2007, 11:16 AM

I HAVE EXPERIENCED THIS WITH ALL 3 OF MY GIRLS, IT IS ALL HORMONES!!! LIKE THEY ARE PREPARING FOR THE EVIL THEY WILL PUT US ALL TROUGH!!! CRYING, MOODY, THE USUALY PMS-Y THINGS, SORRY-GOOD LUCK!!!

**boogiemum** · 09-27-2007, 11:50 AM

I have a 10 yr and she started the moods around 9 too. Not period yet, but with the moodiness I swear it could be any moment. I started discussing puberty and periods with her at 9. The Body Book for Girls (AmericanGirl) was suggested to me by our pediatrician to assist in the conversations.

**ScrapMama** · 09-27-2007, 12:26 PM

Mine is 8 and this so sounds like her. I would talk with her. I just expect that my oldest dd is going to be my most dramatic. There are days I just want to send us both to opposite corners of the earth.

**VanVivCam** · 09-27-2007, 12:37 PM

oh my gosh...my dd is only 6 and very emotional/sensitive. I DREAD like the plague her going thru PMS and such.

Good luck!

**justpeachy92** · 09-27-2007, 01:06 PM

Yes you should talk to her, she is not to young to learn about periods and the body changes she will soon be going through. She is most likely just starting with some hormonal changes right now, her period shouldn't start till she develops pubic hair and generally that starts after she develops breast tissue.

**Rompers1** · 09-27-2007, 01:22 PM

boogiemom...thanks for the book title. I hope that helps me figure out how much exactly to tell her. I don't want her worrying, but I don't want to be too late to talk to her as well.

**ktsmama** · 09-27-2007, 01:29 PM

I started when I was 10 and I am waiting for my DD10 to start any time. I think that it is absolutely possible that she is PMSing.

Good Luck!!!

**YankeeMom** · 09-27-2007, 01:32 PM

In my experience, age 9 is a difficult age. For boys and girls. They are hormonal, but not going through puberty yet. They're still considered little kids but they want to express their independence.

All of my kids who have reach age 9 have been emotional, testing their limits, and generally being big pains in the butt

I even remember my littlest sister being nine and oh my heavens what a little.... LOL.

**lwlynch** · 09-27-2007, 01:54 PM

My first child was such an emotional roller coaster from 9 on, that I am surprised that we still have any doors on their hinges. And my DS10 isn't far from the same mood swings. I think it is adjusting and a phase, but have the talk, usually you will find out they know it all anyway. Goodluck, we are just getting around to replacing doors and the slamming is almost to an end. Now they run from each other and slam them. I personally don't think it will ever end.. Hang in there and Goodluck.

**pita1213** · 09-27-2007, 02:12 PM

i have a dd who is 9 we just had this talk tuesday night. she has been really moody lately. while it could just be teh age since ds was moody at that time too, i figured we better have teh talk because she came to me to tell me that it hurt there, i'm thinking maybe the beginnings of cramps. i had bought her teh care and keeping of you, from american girls, and teh journal that goes will it. i'm not sure if that is the same as the body book or something different, but it does address periods as well as a lot of other things.
we read teh part about periods and i talked to her about whether she wants to use pads or tampons(thankfully she just wants to use pads right now.) and then looked in the journal section about it and looked over the tracking chart that is in it and explained how to use it. and told her if she ever has any questions to come to me with either of the books and tell me she has a question and momma will know exactly what it is she needs to talk about in case we need to go to another room away from the fellas.
the schools here discuss it in a family life class but i know it's not teh best explaination the girls are going to get.
the books from american girl are really good books to used to help with these talks. they give you a place to start if youre not sure what to say and address some of the questions a 9 or 10 year old will have.
it does explain with drawn pictures how to use tampons. i just wanted to give forwarning so it's not a surprise. but if you do have a dd interested in using tampons, it's not as intimidating looking as teh diagrams that come with tampons.
HTH

**ilovechocolate** · 09-27-2007, 08:40 PM

Talk to her. Better a year too soon than a day too late.

There are some good books out there. I used a Christian series with my kids and it was a good, well-written set of books.