Totally Ticked Off.........

[MOMMYDEAREST]

Sorry to vent here....but I know you guys will listen....lol. I have a 6yr old foster child & I signed him up for baseball. Well we went to court last week & the judge gave her permission to attend all his games @ the park. I'm totally ticked off!!! You just don't understand this mother....she won't just sit there & watch the games, she will cause a scene & act like mother of the year. She will also try to come & pick up her baby & feed him & walk around with him. grrrrrrrrrrr......totally ticked!!!!!

[FrugalMomof3]

I am sorry, I dont understand why he is in foster care if they are allowing the mother to be a part of his activites???

[kmeyrick]

Is the goal reunification? One of my students was fostered by his godmother, and his mother got him back. If the goal is reunification, that's why she's going to the games. That his foster mother deserves the credit for!

[MOMMYDEAREST]

The goal for 99.9% of the children in foster care are for reunification, and I understand that. It just burns my butt that I pretty much have to supervise a visit @ the park, but they have supervised visits every week. Why should I be in the middle? If the situation @ home wasn't safe.....how can she be able to attend a baseball game??? The caseworker told her to keep her distance from her kids, and she is just there to watch the ball game....yeah right!! Wish me luck on Monday Thanks for listening to me

[emily_hope]

I wish you luck on Monday. I understand your frustration. Maybe things won't be so bad.

[mom2matty]

Good luck on Monday!!

[C@rol]

Don't blame you for being angry. You're doing all the work and gets to take credit while enjoying all the work YOU have done. Shame.

[TheRootedNomad]

Do you have a husband and a camcorder???? I'd bring 'em so if she does anything else it can be taped.

[annymoll]

Maybe she will sit beside you and thank you for taking good care of her child.But don't count on it.This may be the one time the child will ever be able to say that his mom attended one of his sporting events. Let him have that joy, as it will not be long until his eyes are opened and the wall of love crumbles.I would not let her be out of sight with any of the children.I hope the little one has a great ball season and lots of fun. He will remember the special times that YOU helped give him!!!

[MOMMYDEAREST]

Thanks for all your kind words. No way she is leaving my sight with her kids....NO WAY!!! I have made alot of friends @ baseball, plus I'm on the board of directors, so I know alot of people. If she comes to sit by me, I'm going to tell her I need some personal space, because my girlfriends & I like to chat, and I don't want her all up in my business. She has never given me one compliment since I've had her children (3mths). Her baby screams when I take him to visitation, he wants me. She don't like me because she said I'm trying to take her kids away from her......whatever!!! I have no control over where her kids go, thats totally up to the judge. Again, thanks ladies Oh & my dh is going, plus my 13 year old daughter, plus all the other mom's I know on the team.

[mombottoo]

Best of luck in dealing with the birth mom. My sil & bil were foster parents for many years and actually ended up adopting 7 of their foster kids. It was heart wrenching some of the stuff these children had to go through all in the name of bringing the family back together.

We have a similar issue, but not as fosters...my daughter & her hubby have custody of his 3 from a previous marriage and their mom is a real piece of work!!!

[Katybird]

Maybe since she has already been deemed an unfit mother and had her children removed from her care, she will not even bother to show up for the game. If she does show up and she realizes that she will get no attention for showing up from the other people there, she will not attend any of the others.