A chance to work with dh, but...

**Palooka** · 06-02-2008, 02:20 AM

I'm not sure what to title this thread or where to put it, so it is going here since we need money! Bad! lol

I can work with my dh a couple days a week. This is like 10 or 12 hour days, ride to work with him and all. Save money on gas. It's a 40 minute drive.

Scary, eh? The problem is that I deal with anxiety..bad. This is his main job as he is the big boss. I have gone over and over with this about him for months. Thinking about everything that could come up. He said if it gets bad for me, I should just quit and his job would be fine. I believe him because I know this company. But I sure don't want to let him down. It does seem like a fun job for me and would get me out of the house and I am sure good for my self esteem.

I have major insomnia issues. I would have to get up at 5:30 in the morning. Not that big of deal, but when you are used to not sleeping until 2 or 3am it is.

Also, I have a one year old. This is the first time ever that I got to stay home with my child the whole time. I worked part time and full time with the other two, on and off, sometimes I would be home full time, parents would watch them or some family member. It was all good. This one would have to go to a public daycare. My family is older now.

Yes, I am a big baby about taking my child to daycare. One of my friends has two beautiful children and she works 9-5 and makes good money and she has always taken her kids to daycare and they are like the best kids ever! I think the whole thing of getting up, getting to work on time, and out the door, dropping my son off for 12 hours a day, just really stresses me out and makes me want to cry. I should probally grow up though about it. It works for millions. I am not sure why it just doesn't come easy for me. I wonder if something is wrong with me.

I don't have to go to work now, but it is a great oppertunity to make extra cash with the way the things our now..

My husband is asking about it..

So, call me a baby.lol

**PrairieRose** · 06-02-2008, 08:18 AM

It seems like it might be a great opportunity b/c a) you would have the option of stopping like your dh said if it's too much for you and b) it would only be a couple of days per week, right? I mean I can see how it would stress even someone who doesn't struggle with anxiety out for 5-6 days per week for 12 hrs/day. It would probably be good for the baby to interact with other kids too. Noone but you can decide what you can cope with, but you'll never know till ya try, right? Good luck with your decision.

**LexTysMommy** · 06-02-2008, 08:24 AM

Good luck with whatever you decide.

A quick thought, 12 hours daycare days might end up costing you a bit, and would you make enough to cover the daycare, and things to make it worth it?

Again ( hugs) and good luck!

**FrugalMomof3** · 06-02-2008, 09:31 AM

I was going to say the same about childcare.... 12 hour days will become quite costly, would you be making enough to cover those cost AND still bring a decent amount in to the home AFTER taxes?

How many days a week are you working 12 hour days?

I hope things turn out well for you, please let us know what you decide.

**IntlMom** · 06-02-2008, 10:12 AM

I'm with you. I wouldn't really want to do it either. I don't mean to be the "downer", but I really would feel the same way as you. (course, this is coming from someone who's never put it a kid in daycare!) Keep us posted.

**frugalfriend** · 06-02-2008, 10:39 AM

Wow, the extra money would sure be nice. But, I think it would be really hard to leave your little guy for 12 hours at a time. JMHO
Wishing you the best in whatever decision you make.

**luv-my-lexi** · 06-02-2008, 10:48 AM

I think that a 12 hour work day with your little one away from you is a long day. You definately need to see what the childcare amount would be and if it would be profitable for you to work a couple of days a week. Also you need to take into consideration if you need any different clothes for the job. It is ultimately up to you to decide if you want or can do it. Keep us posted and good luck with whatever you decide.

**larabelle** · 06-02-2008, 11:21 AM

Originally Posted by IntlMom

I'm with you. I wouldn't really want to do it either. I don't mean to be the "downer", but I really would feel the same way as you. (course, this is coming from someone who's never put it a kid in daycare!) Keep us posted.

I agree!! Also have you thought about how stressed and tired you will be after you get off from work. I work 12 hour shifts and I am just beat when I get off and I do not have any children. If I had children I would not want to leave them to child care for 12 hours that would be a little to long for me.

**Frugal Nurse** · 06-02-2008, 11:50 AM

I agree.. 12 hours gone.. is a long time. Maybe ONCE per week is okay.. but twice?

I know the $$ comes in handy.. but are you really thinking that through? is there something else that can be done say.. when dh gets home at night? seeing that you're an insomniac.. there might be a 'call center' like when you call your doctor's office after hours... that needs people at night.
The average person HATES the nights. You just might have an opp there.

I have heard that you can do the call center from your home.
just rambling on here.

**lwlynch** · 06-02-2008, 11:59 AM

I had the same choice for both of my kids. I chose to say home and be with them. Yea, we could have had more money, more time, and all the great things.. But It couldn' outweigh just being with my kids.. I just couldn't get that balance of work and kids.. Do what makes you happy and comfortable. Either way has great cons...The choice ultimately yours.. I made my choice and never looked back.. good luck with yours..

**Palooka** · 06-02-2008, 09:38 PM

With the driving time he woluld be there from around 7 am until about 6 or 6:30pm. That is a long day. I should say that the lady that might watch him has done daycare in her home for years. Me and my dh both know her.

We left a message with her, but she hasn't called back. I have lots of questions.lol

I have known about this job since January and thought summer time would be good, plus he would be older. I can wear whatever I want to work, like jeans even, so I would not have to buy new clothes.

Well summer is here and I just don't think I can leave him at day care that long.

Yes I agree that it is a way long day. By the time I make a decision, he will probally be three.

Thanks guys.

**mommy4ever** · 06-03-2008, 01:36 PM

I do childcare from home, and the reality of it is mos tof the kids are here for at least 10 hours a day, one is 11. So it's not a huge deal. If you can find a good care giver and you still make a decent income, go for it. If it isn't worth it... then no worries. Stay home, look for something different.