So close to losing it all

[mmy2grls]

My bills are adding up and I don't know how to pay them before they get shut off. My rent is late and i'm a little short.

This last month my brother has had summer visitation with my neice and i've been watching her while my brother and sil have been working. They don't pay me. I have asked them several times if they would watch my kids on the weekends or at night so I can work since I haven't been able to work much while my neice is here cause my daughter and her fight. They come up with excuses and will not return the favor.

I emailed my sil today to tell her I can no longer watch my neice because I can't work while she is here. My brother and sil are mad at me, oh well.

I'm calling utility companies today to see what arrangements I can make. I had to let my cell phone go so I no longer have that bill.

I hate to do this but i'm thinking about pawning some things. I haven't recieved child support this month, I was hoping I would to get out of this mess *sigh*

I have tried yard sales and no one has showed. resources are used up around here for bill help.

If I can manage to work hard the next 2 weeks I think I can manage to get everything caught up if I can get bills to wait 3 weeks before shutting off until I get paid.

I can't borrow from anyone so I have to do this on my own. I just need the strength to be able to work hard this week while working at home while my kids are here which is hard at times because I need a quiet background.

[VanVivCam]

good luck to you. just work as hard as you can and make those calls asking for some time paying your bills. also find out why you haven't received your child support for the month.

[nodmicks]

I'm sending you good vibes that they will let you hold off on those bills and you get your child support.
I think that is terrible your db and sil are mad at you. After all you work at home. Would they take your kids to work with them????

[pop goes the weasel]

I don't know about where you're at but in Pa there is a program called CAP. They go by your income and arrange payments while forgiving the back money owed. We also have Crisis and LIHEAP for this too. I have used both and haven't been any problems. You just have to be sure to pay the bills before they are due or on the due dayte at a payment center. Good luck with it.

[Frugal Nurse]

Grrrrr... why don't those men pay their child support.

There's nothing more annoying than the mother of your baby being all stressed and not being able to be a 'mother' because of the stress.

Hate that.


Have you considered bringing in a room mate? (not a bf!)
Have you considered filing for section 8?
Have you considered moving to a place with another mom? I've seen that it works in many ways.
Do you have food stamps? WIC to help with feeding the babies?
Can you move in family to defray costs?

It's so tough in now to get by these days.

I'm sorry you're in a pickle.

[Greebo]

I emailed my sil today to tell her I can no longer watch my neice because I can't work while she is here. My brother and sil are mad at me, oh well.

Isn't it amazing how people who are taking advantage of you get MAD when you tell them you're not going to allow it anymore? Good for you for putting your foot down!

If I can manage to work hard the next 2 weeks I think I can manage to get everything caught up if I can get bills to wait 3 weeks before shutting off until I get paid.

These things you're behind on right now are all essentials? Lights, car, roof, etc? Are there any debt payments in there, cause those (except car and house) should be put on hold first if they must be.

I can't borrow from anyone so I have to do this on my own. I just need the strength to be able to work hard this week while working at home while my kids are here which is hard at times because I need a quiet background.

Hang in there! You recognized a real problem and you addressed it - that attitude will keep you going through all of this!

[nancycg56]

I'm sorry! Sending good thoughts to you and your family!

[FrugalMomof3]

I am so sorry your having a hard time, I would fing out WHY you havent received child support this month, either called the domestic relations section or the ex and find out NOW!

As for the bills, call them, I am sure they will work something out with you, they would much rather get something than nothing.

Sending you good thoughts and prayers

[mmy2grls]

Have you considered bringing in a room mate? (not a bf!)

I can't find anyone trustworthy, I have to be careful with kids

Have you considered filing for section 8?

done that, on a wait list

Have you considered moving to a place with another mom? I've seen that it works in many ways.

That is a good idea, I need to look into that

Do you have food stamps? WIC to help with feeding the babies?

I have food stamps so I don't have to worry about groceries

Can you move in family to defray costs?

I have my parents but it is crowded, no cable internet which I need for work, and my dad can be verbally abusive so I don't want my kids living there


I still have to make calls to see about payment arrangements. My bills are necessities only, no luxuries.

[jas]

sorry to hear that you are having to be so stressed.

[IntlMom]

ok, well first of all, don;t even give it a moments thought about sil and bro being mad at you......how dare them!!!

hang in there...work really hard...... (glad to hear that you are not bringing bf in to "save the day" - I'M REALLY PROUD OF YOU!!!!!!)

[freebs]

[momishem]

hang in there! I have seen you post like this before and something always works out for you. Keep your chin up!

[jamie79]

I hope things work out for you

[Wendy99]

sorry to hear that you are going through so much right now. thinking of you!!