Anyone else unable to conceive?

**Liane** · 04-25-2010, 01:08 AM

I am fortunate to have one child. A 14 year old daughter. When she was three my obgyn told me that my uterus was backwards and that I might have a hard time conceiving. It was kind of ironic because my daughter was with me. Right now I have been trying to get pregnant almost three years. Part of me fears that I waited too long. Is it my fault? The hardest part has been taking pregnancy tests thinking you are pregnant and feeling like I let down my husband who does not have children when the test is negative. I am truly grateful for the child I have. There is a part of me that just yearns for a baby.

**Rebookie** · 04-26-2010, 09:18 AM

I have one child, but I conceived when I didn't even have my period. I couldn't tell ya when I conceived or anything. It's been seven years since his birth and we haven't prevented pregnancy. I think I've had maybe 5 periods.

**gottadance** · 07-21-2011, 11:47 AM

Well, I've now been on the waiting list one year, 11 months. Very frustrating. It's harder to adopt when you're single. The good news is that I've met someone and we've been dating for almost a year - but he has two grown kids and is still working through the idea of starting over with a baby - we'll see how it works out. Fingers crossed. When I hit the 24 month mark, I go onto an "expedite" list, which means that I am more likely to be matched.

Someone said they were concerned they couldn't afford adoption - I am single and yes it's hard, but there are tax credits. I am paying for adoption with some savings, a home equity loan - then the tax credit.

**wanderlusting** · 07-21-2011, 02:41 PM

I want to send all you ladies huge hugs. For those who have children that were grown in your hearts and for those waiting for a child to enter your life.

**Anna43** · 07-24-2011, 04:11 PM

I have two friends who were married 18 years trying to get pg and when they were around 40 and 44 they got pg. Dh also had an aunt who was married for close to 30 years and had many miscarriages and one still birth before she finally had her son.

We were different in that our son was born 9 months after we married when I was 18. After that I had 3 miscarriages and was told it was unlikely we could have another child. This was in the 1960's and options were pretty much non-existent. So we started adoption proceedings but before they had a child for us I was (surprise) pg. I was never pg again and at 30 I had surgery. We adopted our third dd who will be 40 later this month.

I was blessed to have my son without problems but even so it was painful watching friends having babies while I longed for a second child.

**ncarr** · 12-18-2011, 08:56 PM

I have systemic lupus and am undergoing chemotherapy treatments and am not allowed to try to conceive. So I don't know if I can conceive or not. We didn't use birth control for several years prior to chemo. I just hate watching all my friends get pregnant when I want a baby so bad. The ache of wanting a baby is difficult. Hugs to you all <3

**ama** · 05-17-2012, 10:01 AM

It is such a painful process and so many unanswered questions. I got pregnant with my first child at 18 and had my pride and joy. I was never able to conceive again though DH and I have been together 12 years it was never to be. I never understood why but never did Invitro or any other methods.