Do you ever get stressed and want to run away?

[WV_mom_of2]

I am SO tired. Of nothing at all and everything! I'd love to just run away for a week or so and not tell anyone where I am!

Money has been REALLY tight for us lately. I went to work full time in April at a state park near us. I LOVE the job and I am darned good at it. I like working with the public, etc. I work crazy days and hours, not getting home until 9:30 three of the nights I work. I am the only one there who actually works anymore! The two men who work there do NOTHING! Monday they came in at 8 and pulled the trash from the shelters. Took the dump truck and disappeared for two hours. Came in and ate lunch, disappeared for two more hours. Went to the woodhouse and got firewood, stacked it in the woodshed(I helped) and then left an hour early! And when I say disappeared, they were NOT working. They have certain places in the park where they go and hide for hours on end to avoid working. I ask them to do things for me and they NEVER do them!

The girl who works with me is horrible. She cleans bathrooms and does a good job of it and works the office, but that is ALL she does. She doesn't clean our fire pits, mow, pick up trash, scrub mildew off the bathroom walls, NOTHING! She is rude to customers too. She has NO phone etiquette at all. She is very backwoodsy and doesn't give a crap what she looks like or how she acts. She really makes people mad. She and the one guy went to school together and all they do is act stupid ALL the time. He spends hours in our office when she is there. They make lewd comments that get so vulgar that I want to puke! They pick at each other and act stupid non-stop! When customers come in they don't talk vulgar but they still act stupid. We have a John Deere gator that we use at work and they get on it and drive around at breakneck speed whooping and hollering and it drives me nuts! We've been getting alot of complaints about them lately and guess who has to listen to them all.........ME! The superintendent gets paid for a forty hour week and shows up about 2 hours a day and that's it. If I tell him about a complaint, he just blows it off and goes on and does nothing. He could care less about what's going on there.

And don't even get me started on our "campground hosts"! You can be a host at a state park and you get to camp for free in exchange for 25 hours of volunteer service to the park. The super got the idea to get one this year. I tried and tried to talk him out of it because I knew it would be a pain in the butt. Well he let this couple come and gave them one of the best sites. They stayed a month and in that time they were gone more than they were there. The woman worked five days a week and they'd go home for a week at a time. They expected that their 20 year old, married daughter and her dh would get to camp and swim, etc. for free also! They tried to run a business from the campground where you get NO cell service. We spent all day long running phone messages up to them. They are rude and hateful and it finally ended with me and her having a spat because I refused to hold a campsite for her dd. I rented it to a customer which is what I am supposed to do. We do NOT hold sites for anyone and she knew that. She got ticked off and they left for a month. Her dd used to pile into our office with her darned dog on a leash and sit there for hours in our way! Well today they came back for the month of August! UGH help me not kill them! They take our gator and go "visit" other campers in the park so we can't use it when we need it. They complain and demand all the time! It's gonna be a lovely darned month!

Money is really tight and dh has been staying at his parents house in another town on the days he works due to high gas prices(we were paying 4.29 here for a while). His father is extremely lazy and does nothing but watch tv. His mother believes that men should do nothing at home and she does everything. I've noticed in the last month that dh is starting to act just like his dad. He works shifts that allow him to be off more than he works. He will work two days, then spend his two or three days off doing NOTHING! It's like he thinks he's on a vacation or something! I'm working five days in a row and still doing the dishes, laundry, bill paying, errands, cooking, etc. The kids help alot but I try to not push everything off on them. Now that gas is down, he's gonna start coming home and acting like a real man or I'm gonna skin him alive!

I am so stressed that I could spit. I have IBS and I went through a 7 week spell recently where I was going to the bathroom 5 or 6 times a day EVERY day and just felt like crap. I lost 12 pounds in three weeks. I know it was stress. Now that I have all the bills caught up, I'm fine again. I get NO help with finances, dh doesn't want to know at all.

Don't get me wrong, my dh is a wonderful man, husband and father. But I feel right now like my life runs around him and the kids. I get to go to bed and get up around his work shift, not when I'm ready. IF I get to sleep at all depends on what kind of night he's having. If he can't sleep and tosses and turns, I'm awake all night. Then I have to get up and work anyway. Tomorrow I have to get up at 7, take my kids to the next town to meet my mom, grocery shop, pay bills, come home and unload it all myself, put it away, then go to work and work an 8 hour shift, not getting off until 9pm!

I'm tired and grouchy and just needed to vent for a minute! The job ends full time on Labor Day and then it will just be weekends and I can NOT wait to have a day or two for myself! I might have to go away for a day or two!

[HandyMom]

Sounds like a little vacation for you is warranted. Make hubby clean house, cook, do laundry and watch kids while you are gone having some relaxing fun. I know that's probably a joke, but at least I think you deserve as much.

[frugalandsimple]

Yeah, I have times when I felt that way.

[freebs]

I agree i am soo tired, right now i work part time but take care of everything plus im helping my parents at their place down the road. Kids are driving me crazy and dh works hard but does nothing but work. we are thinking about moving and i know that im gonna have to do most if not all the work to get us moved just like i did 6 years ago for a 1000 mile move. I also applied for a full time job as the bills are getting paid but there is no extra. Im just tired.

[hugxlaughxsmilexlove]

Oh I know how you feel.. lately I want to pack my bags and move into a salon/spa and not tell anyone.. that would be a miracle

[FrugalMomof3]

I have felt like that too sometimes more often than not. I think you deserve a vacation that's for sure.

[leezza]

I hope you are feeling better and more upbeat soon : )

On another note:
I would keep a little notebook in my pocket and start a little diary and keep it at home, note all the stuff that is in your post and beyond. Then at the end of the season do a little write up and send it to the head guy, (person over your boss).......It makes me mad when someone is having to do all the work and everyone else is messing around. JMHO

leezza

[missyali]

How about I volunteer 25 hours & you and I can share the campsite? I sleep soundly and don't take up mush room while doing so, I clean up after myself and could use the same peace and quiet! It will get better, it has to, right?!?!?!

[peanut]

Sigh...I've been feeling that way lately...like I've been hit by Murphy big time...like I'd like the bad stuff to stop NOW! Like man, sigh...oh well...this is life...I gotta just "put on my big girl panties and deal with it!" as they say...

Jean

[Michelle68]

Sending you lots of hugs. You have A LOT of stuff going on right now, I hope things get better soon.


--Michelle

[Mrsokdee]

I feel that way quite often. I hope you get some rest and help soon.

[C@rol]

Yes. Been there a few times myself.

Hope by some miracle things change at work for you. :hugz?

Why can't I ever find a slacker job and get away with not working???

[treeluva]

I always feel like I want to run away.

I am a single mom of two daughters (9 and 6), work as a bartender, not getting home until 230 in the morning 4 nights a week. I go to school full time (I have the next 3 weeks off of school, summer session just ended) When fall starts, I will be in classes M-F starting at 9 am and ending at 3 pm. When the girls start school in 3 weeks, I will have to be up at 7 to get everyone ready and get them to school so I can get to school. This will be after getting home at 2:30 in the morning.

I do all the cooking, cleaning, laundry and errands for my house, because who else is going to do it? Yes, the kids help out a bit, but I swear they just haven't learned how to turn the dryer on, not overload the washer, or get all the food off of a dish. So, it really just ends up being easier for me to do it all than to get them to do it. Mostly, I just make sure they put their things away and put their dirty clothes in the hamper.

So yeah, running away to a place where I am all alone and have to do absolutely nothing always seems like a good idea to me.

My fridge broke sometime between Monday night and this afternoon. I am not sure when because I was at work Monday night, came home at 230, went to sleep, turned around and went back to work for 1:30 pm until 2 am, went to sleep, and woke up this morning to find that it wasn't working. So, the groceries I just bought and the condiments and whatnot? All of them have to be thrown out. That is hundreds of dollars, (Fridge and Food) that I don't have. So we are going to be living out of Ice chests until I can save up enough money for a new fridge. Fortunately, everything in the freezer is still frozen.

To top everything off, my exhusband called me the other night and told me that since his girlfriend is getting ready to give birth to their child, that his child support payment will probably be late and will probably be a little short.

Oh, and my garage door to the house... something happen to the latch and it wont close all the way. So I have a step ladder in front of it to keep the door closed so I don't have to AC the entire garage, especially when it is 108 degrees during the day. Of course, keeping the kids from moving the darn step ladder is becoming, let's say, frustrating.

Did I mention that last month I had to pay $300 to get a plumber to come fix the pipes in my bathroom because the water wouldn't stop running? It took 2 weeks to get a plumber to come out to the house, and in turn, I just got my water bill and it is 90 bucks. Usually it is $45 to $55.

I need to go to the dentist, I have a hole in my back tooth. (I do brush guys. It happens sometimes) Of course, I don't have dental insurance and I don't have the money to get it fixed right now.

I am 700 miles away from my closest relative. (I live this far away because where I live cost of living is relatively low, tuition is VERY reasonable - GI Bill covers all of it, and I had bought the house here back in 1998... my mortgage is only $345 a month)

Yeah, I am with you. If I could pack a bag and run away for a while I would be totally all about it.

[favesis37]

maybe we can run away and meet somewhere! i feel the same way alot fo the time, i work full time, take care of my mom, do most of the household stuff, have 10 grandbabies, and the list goes on.

[Jskell911]

Wow, your work place sounds like mine right down to the boss blowing off legitimate complaints. It's so very frustrating. Where did work ethic go?

I am sorry that in addition to the work junk, you now have less than stellar support at home. Can you leave a "honey do" list? I know some men are way more than willing to help out, but need that reminder in order to get it done. Could this possibly work for him?

I would at least sit him down and calmly explain how very unfair he's being. (And I gotta tell you I would be mighty tempted to take off for a week and leave the household in his hands for a week. Maybe a week of scrambling for babysitters, dirty dishes and laundry might give him an idea of how over extended you are without any help) Ah, but that's just a temptation!

Hope things get a bit better for you soon!