Spinoff: help w/new budget and my day....

**Suzy** · 08-21-2008, 03:34 PM

Ok, Ok-please-let me say something.

First off, I only asked for help with my budget to get fresh ideas. I have been wacking my brain about this and could only come up with doing away with Dish and closing CC for a lower payment option. And I do thank everyone for their suggestions. Unfortunately I am still at step one and that is doing away with Dish and closing CC. Bt thanks anyway.

Secondly, my DH is a wonderful man and a great provider. I grew up in a household where even though I loved my dad greatly and was a wonderful dad he seldom went to church. My mom was the same. My first husband put hunting and fishing before family and God. That is one reason we divorced. With Michael, he is a great dad and a great provider. WE, I said WE, put God first. We aren't the kinds of Christians that preach from the street corner. But we do go to church EVERY Sunday. I teach 4 & 5 years olds and he ushers. We believe that not tithing, as mentioned in a previous post, is taking away from God. The Lord is who has given us what we have so far. We are to be stewards of his gifts. I am trying to be a good steward of the finances. Again, that is why I asked for help.

We have not gone without food, clothing or shelter. And those are three promises God said that He would always provide. And we believe that.

My DH works hard. I am so very proud of him. Between the thread with help on my budget to my thread about my day, I am on the verge of tears. I did not want a heated debate. I only wanted advise.

So to finish I will say, we will continue to tithe. I know the Lord will provide for our needs, not our wants. And thank you all for you advise and support.

**happydog** · 08-21-2008, 04:14 PM

I haven't read your other threads, but it sure sounds like you could use those hugs. Do what is right for *you and your family*, because at the end of the day, you only have to be able to live with yourself. Guilt is an expensive burden.

And if what is right for you is tithing, then that is what you should do. We all have a priority list, and it's different for each of us.

**hawkgirl** · 08-21-2008, 04:15 PM

I'm with ya all the way Suzy!

**chevy_chick95** · 08-21-2008, 04:22 PM

Originally Posted by Suzy

We have not gone without food, clothing or shelter. And those are three promises God said that He would always provide. And we believe that.

This is all you need to remember. Be strong. Don't stop tithing. It will get you through.

**peanut** · 08-21-2008, 07:22 PM

Sorry you've had a bad experience here. DH and I used to tithe, until he decided he wasn't going to church anymore and that he wasn't going to give any of his hard earned money to organized religion. I've talked him into giving a little bit, because the church helps me out so much...I still go. But I hear you about the tithing. I'd love to tithe (and we can afford it), but my church pastor and friends have told me that as a SAHW the money is not mine to give. It's my DH's.

One thing I have done is to offer my time in place of my money. My pastor was more than willing to take me up on that!

Still, in all the years we did tithe, I never seemed to lack for anything. I was quite content with what we had, and friends always seemed to find ways to acquire things for me or alert me to ways to acquire things for free or next to free. The secret was to keep the clutter monster at bay and to not overbuy for the kids. That, and to be organized in the kitchen. And to be creative about reusing/recycling things.

Jean