He's getting involved!

**danni** · 02-11-2009, 12:24 AM

So my dh is one of those people that would be happier not knowing, but with all the bad news about the economy he's finally listening.

He wants us to make the stockpile bigger and is going to reorganize his shed, then we will move the xmas decorations from the laundry room out to the shed. That will give me a big shelf area to put more stuff on. YAY!!!

He also wants to make a list of regular meals so we can make sure we have the right stuff in the stockpile. Already done mind you, but I will go over the list with him to see if he has any other ideas.

He has also asked if we can put less on the snowball and more into savings. So we have decided that 30-40% of the snowball will start going into savings to build a bigger ef.

I'm just so happy that he is finally interested in what's going on.

**redeme** · 02-11-2009, 12:40 AM

It's great when your both on the same page!!!!!

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 02-11-2009, 01:10 AM

That is SO awesome!!!

I wish my Dh would do that! He *was* really supportive about being frugal...the last 6 months he's REALLY gotten almost anti-frugal.

**Karla** · 02-11-2009, 03:19 AM

Thats wonderful...things work so much better when your on the same page and work together.

**mamamia** · 02-11-2009, 03:54 AM

Originally Posted by Karla

Thats wonderful...things work so much better when your on the same page and work together.

Exactly!

Have fun getting those bargains!

Theresa

**phoeny_moonstar** · 02-11-2009, 04:17 AM

W00t for your DH getting involved!

**Greebo** · 02-11-2009, 05:26 AM

That's fantastic! Being on the same page together makes it so much easier to be successful!

**thesightofoneself** · 02-11-2009, 05:32 AM

that is what i call a successful marriage.

**freebs** · 02-11-2009, 07:05 AM

**Momto2Boyz** · 02-11-2009, 07:12 AM

Communication is what it is all about! So congrats to you guys! Dh has always been pretty frugal. But the bills are my area and he normally doesn't get involved. But at the beginning of the year, I sat down and did our entire budget for the year. Then I forced him to sit down and just go over it with me, to make sure nothing was missed and to show him how much we'll have saved by the end of the year.

It actually did wonders! I just wanted help on getting it set up, but in involving him in setting it up, I gave him a glimpse of how good our finances can be if we stick to our budget. So now, at the end of every week, he checks in with me to see if we stuck to the budget and how we are doing. And it's nice to have him involved with it!

**Dancing Lotus** · 02-11-2009, 07:47 AM

I was always in charge of the budget. Dh would tell me when he wanted something I had to decided if we could afford it or not. I'm not sure that was the best way to go because I almost always had to tell him we Could NOT afford this or that. He never said it out loud but I always got the feeling that he wondered where the money was going.

When he got laid off and basically had nothing to do I handed him the the fiances.He has been in charge of the bills , and paying for just about everything. I haven't even looked at a bill in some time now. I get a cash allowance on payday from him and that's that. I also make a little bit of my own money. We even do all the grocery shopping together now and he made a comment this past Sunday about how he can't believe how much groceries cost and he had no idea how hard it was for me to have to try to meet everyone's needs. And he now understand why we could never afford to do the things he wanted. I think he gets it now, and I may take things over again.

**danni** · 02-11-2009, 09:26 AM

I've always told him what was happening with the budget but he never really listened until now. It's a good feeling knowing that he wants to be involved and I'm not doing it alone anymore.

**sabrelvssammy** · 02-11-2009, 10:17 AM

so what do think changes for the dh's....what's their 'a-ha' moment ??

**peanut** · 02-11-2009, 12:14 PM

That's good you're both on the same page now. It sure makes a difference, doesn't it?!

**brenda67** · 02-11-2009, 07:09 PM

It's a great feeling when your spouse see's the light isn't it? My dh does not argue with me anymore about stockpiling items..We are not paying any of our dept off as of right now..I want to save as much money as we can not see what the near future holds for us..meaning job loss.....even my 85yr old Grandmother(who is a millionaire with no worries at all) told me not to payoff anything right now and hold onto your money...that's a good enough answer for me!!