I learned something about myself today

**Mojjo** · 09-19-2010, 02:10 PM

Last night DH and I were supposed to go out to eat for our Anniversary. We had been looking forward to it too. But when the checkbook got balanced and the envelopes filled it was just going to be close. And in the past we would have said the hell with it and gone anyway. Probably even taken money from envelopes and worried about it later.

But I said no. And DH agreed. Ughhh...I'm growing up, how did this happen. I just would rather stay home and eat blueberry pancakes and not have to worry about money for the next two weeks then enjoy dinner out. And today I'm much more comfortable with the whole decision. DH is still bugged by it, but he agrees it was right.

**thesightofoneself** · 09-19-2010, 02:17 PM

youre strong

**dcompton** · 09-19-2010, 02:30 PM

Don't you just hate having to be an adult sometimes? But they're the lucky ones in the long run.

And happy anniversary!

**mauimagic** · 09-19-2010, 02:37 PM

Happy Anniversary!!

Growing up isn't really so bad -very few tantrums and that's a wonderful thing IMHO!!

**Josephhgoins** · 09-19-2010, 04:08 PM

right there with you! My family always goes to the Beach this weekend, But with my recent cut backs it woul dmake my budget just too tight. I am going to pass and stay at home and eat cake.

Being a grown up really sucks sometimes.

**frugalfranny** · 09-19-2010, 04:16 PM

Happy anniversary mojjo!!!

You showed discipline......guess it is needed as an adult!!

Originally Posted by mauimagic

Growing up isn't really so bad -very few tantrums and that's a wonderful thing IMHO!!

WHAT??? I can still throw a pretty good hissy fit!!!

**mamamia** · 09-19-2010, 05:21 PM

Awww! It does hurt sometimes. But the end result is the reward for it all.....it's called "peace of mind", and money can't buy it!

Happy anniversary!

Theresa

**Palooka** · 09-19-2010, 10:40 PM

Good job and happy Anniversary!

Yum, blueberry pancakes sounds wonderful.

**AnW819** · 09-19-2010, 10:49 PM

Way to go!!! DH and I make that mistake all the time, and you were strong enough to not do it!!! WTG!!!

**frugal is fun** · 09-20-2010, 12:56 PM

Happy Anniversary!

**lisaflex** · 09-20-2010, 07:52 PM

happy anniversary. you definitely made the right choice! nothin wrong w/ staying in and just enjoying each others company

**Jeanna** · 09-21-2010, 12:06 PM

That's great. I do ok with telling myself no. However saying no to my kids is something I am working on.

**Iwant2BDebtfree** · 09-24-2010, 12:04 PM

I know how you feel. My birthday is Sunday and DH keeps asking what I want to do....go to dinner, go shopping, maybe have a night out overnight since it is a milestone bday (30). I said no I don't want to spend the $$. He said HE wants to take me out. But since we have our incomes combined essentially I am taking myself out and I didn't budget for that. LOL

So instead I am staying home, having a few friends over and making margaritas and some simple appetizers

**mndtrp** · 09-24-2010, 12:27 PM

Anniversaries are still anniversaries, regardless of where you are or what you are doing. Same with birthdays, holidays, or the always important unbirthdays. If you are with the people you want to be with, than the location is secondary.

**peanut** · 09-25-2010, 12:20 PM

{{{Hugs}}} I know how that feels Mojjo. I've had to make that decision myself in the past. Happy Anniversary! And know that things will not always be this way. In the future you can have many pleasant restaurant meals on your anniversary if you plan right. Also sometimes the best anniversary is at home by candlelight with soft music, a bottle of wine, a home cooked meal...and lots of privacy!