How do you blanace spending and saving/debt reduction?

**ladykemma2** · 01-23-2011, 09:37 AM

Originally Posted by imagine

I don't understand your question? Spend money first?

I want to learn how to spend money without feeling guilty or nervous or panicked.

I put off buying jeans for Little Miss because I was waiting for hand me down (which never came). It hurt her because her shirts got to short and her pants to tight. I think she was being teased because of it. It hurt her.

The couch or the mattress we put off buying a new one and that physically hurt my family.

I want to walk into a store to buy groceries or the needed jeans without getting a lump in the throat almost ready to cry panic. I don't want my fear of spending to hurt my family.

I want to enjoy a dinner out with my family without feeling like we are doing something bad.

can you take a friend with you?

**imagine** · 01-23-2011, 09:57 AM

Originally Posted by ladykemma2

can you take a friend with you?

This idea interests me. How would taking a friend help?

**ladykemma2** · 01-23-2011, 09:59 AM

Originally Posted by imagine

This idea interests me. How would taking a friend help?

to keep you calm, to say affirming things, to reassure.

i took a friend with me to buy a car, to get a divorce....

here is a link to spending anorexia through the WA program. go down to the work aversion article and see if any of it fits.
http://www.workaholics-anonymous.org...s_summer04.pdf

"spending anorexia" is not well known but is treatable. "The avoidance of spending money is my most important need". book by jerrold mundis would help too. be right back...

[ame="http://www.amazon.com/Jerrold-Mundis/e/B000APV1VC"]Amazon.com: Jerrold Mundis: Books, Biography, Blog, Audiobooks, Kindle@@AMEPARAM@@http://ecx.images-amazon.com/images/I/01Px86uLUkL.@@AMEPARAM@@01Px86uLUkL[/ame]

here is a good article [ame]http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Debtors_Anonymous[/ame]