We are facing some challenges ahead with dd16. She is wanting to take a 7 year program that will lead only a low paying job. She had it in her head that this was what she was doing and we were going to pay for it.
I shook my head. End up with nearly 100K minimum in debt with a job that would be barely 35K a year. Don't need an education to earn that. But she has been soooo stubborn. We've indicated some areas where she'd have aptitude for, where there IS work, and good wages, as well as lots of varied opportunities. she stomped her feet and said no, that wasn't what she wanted. What also concerns us with her chosen path, is that every graduate we know is going into that field too... meaning saturation of the field. I'm talking 8/10 grads for the last 5 years that we've talked to seems to be in.
Finally, I told her, to research what prerequisites she needed, how much schooling she'd need, what the costs to go is right now.(they just announced 20% increase in tuition...ughh). And that she'd better get a job now as we weren't doing more than give her a place to live through school. She was really really angry with me. She started looking for a job, and low and behold, she can't get one as easily as she thought, but she's still looking. She's been researching.... with attitude and resentment.....
And BREAK THROUGH!!!(At least I hope so)
Last weekend she talked to me, and said that she wants to explore another field. It is still 5 years, but job prospects are huge and varied, Solid starting wage, with great growth potential, job stability is high, she is well suited to it, she even pointed it out in her aptitude testing. I also explained that when/if she becomes a parent, she can have the flexibility to work around her husbands schedule or just be casual. She even went so far as to find a week long 'camp' to go and shadow some one, explore the field.
I also pointed out that she can do the first 3 years as distance learning to save even more as she could work full time through that, taking 2 courses at a time, paying cash as she goes, meaning only 2 years full time university. She got excited at that prospect. As it would mean minimal student loans.
She is getting things together to get a city job this summer, as it will pay more than minimum wage and once you get in there, you can move around and climb the ladder for better wages.
Thankfully, ds19 wasn't as stubborn, as soon as he realized he wasn't one to sit still, it ruled out office jobs, medical, etc. He is into the trades apprenticeship program now, just finished his first year training, which he paid cash for and earns more than I do! He loves what he's doing, works hard and finished with 92% for his first year schooling(8 weeks a year for 3 years then 12 weeks in year 4). He really is thriving.
I shook my head. End up with nearly 100K minimum in debt with a job that would be barely 35K a year. Don't need an education to earn that. But she has been soooo stubborn. We've indicated some areas where she'd have aptitude for, where there IS work, and good wages, as well as lots of varied opportunities. she stomped her feet and said no, that wasn't what she wanted. What also concerns us with her chosen path, is that every graduate we know is going into that field too... meaning saturation of the field. I'm talking 8/10 grads for the last 5 years that we've talked to seems to be in.
Finally, I told her, to research what prerequisites she needed, how much schooling she'd need, what the costs to go is right now.(they just announced 20% increase in tuition...ughh). And that she'd better get a job now as we weren't doing more than give her a place to live through school. She was really really angry with me. She started looking for a job, and low and behold, she can't get one as easily as she thought, but she's still looking. She's been researching.... with attitude and resentment.....
And BREAK THROUGH!!!(At least I hope so)
Last weekend she talked to me, and said that she wants to explore another field. It is still 5 years, but job prospects are huge and varied, Solid starting wage, with great growth potential, job stability is high, she is well suited to it, she even pointed it out in her aptitude testing. I also explained that when/if she becomes a parent, she can have the flexibility to work around her husbands schedule or just be casual. She even went so far as to find a week long 'camp' to go and shadow some one, explore the field.
I also pointed out that she can do the first 3 years as distance learning to save even more as she could work full time through that, taking 2 courses at a time, paying cash as she goes, meaning only 2 years full time university. She got excited at that prospect. As it would mean minimal student loans.
She is getting things together to get a city job this summer, as it will pay more than minimum wage and once you get in there, you can move around and climb the ladder for better wages.
Thankfully, ds19 wasn't as stubborn, as soon as he realized he wasn't one to sit still, it ruled out office jobs, medical, etc. He is into the trades apprenticeship program now, just finished his first year training, which he paid cash for and earns more than I do! He loves what he's doing, works hard and finished with 92% for his first year schooling(8 weeks a year for 3 years then 12 weeks in year 4). He really is thriving.