Hubby STILL doesnt get it!

**UKMum** · 02-25-2006, 01:34 PM

Hello Everyone!

I havent had a chance to post here for a few weeks due to studying and working.

Right now, I feel as though Im making so much progress with cutting debts and living simply. Have noticed a huge difference and have paid of 3 small debts. But it is ME who is making the 100% effort.

However

My hubby isnt frugal in the slightest. He was for a short while, but now he is saying that we are 'comfortable' because we are paying the debt off

I have told him that our belt still needs to be tightened, but he is having none of it....

Biggest problem is he works away most of the week, so he feels he needs treats at the weekend.....For example, last weekend he spent Â£50 on petrol/Â£120 on a 'boys night out'/ and Â£140 on a bike for our daughter

Sorry for the rambling......
Has anyone any advide or comments to make as to how I could deal with this situation.....or has anyone else got a hubby similar to mine

**carolyns** · 02-25-2006, 02:58 PM

Hello--Alot of people get tired of being frugal after a short period of time, I know I am like that. Now I have to tell myself that, even though the debts are being paid off, this is the time that it is most important to continue this way of life so it becomes second nature, rather than just a spurt. Have you explained to him how you feel that you are the one doing all of the work? You must feel very frustrated by doing all this work only to have him go out and spend indiscriminately on the weekend. You must tell him how frustrated that makes you but that you understand that he wants to reward himself for hard work. Explain to him the big picture or what you are trying to do and how you need his help to put that plan into action. Good luck to you!

**PrairieRose** · 02-25-2006, 05:41 PM

It takes some of us longer than others.....my best suggestion would be to keep doing what you're doing and try to be patient. Hopefully he will eventually "get it" if you keep on keeping on. It took my dh a long time to get it, a longer time to get onboard full force. But once he got on, he was soooo there.

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-25-2006, 05:51 PM

I agree, I used to be one of those "get off the band wagon frugalies" when I pay off debt, but I think to myself how I dont want to get in that prediciment again.

Tell hubby how the long term benefits will help you in savings. I agree he does deserve something ... he works hard but he doesn't have to go overboard so to speak.

I finally got my hubby into it, he calls me "Mrs. Frugal" and I am proud, we go to the store and I always say do we really need that or honey, we can wait, that isn't a necessity right now and he totally understands.

We as well as you want to better ourselves to have savings, remind him of this but even if he doesn't want to, you still keep doing what your doing.

**Paquita** · 02-25-2006, 09:37 PM

Mine is now getting on the bandwagon! We just talked about it this afternoon. He is sick so we plan on sitting down and making a budget when he feels better. I have been paying the bills, he does most of the grocery shopping. He has not been listening when I tried to tell him how bad things are until today when I told him I could not do this by myself, too stressful. Now he understands!!!!