I don't think DH gets it

**Mojjo** · 07-06-2006, 09:50 PM

This next paycheck was going to be pretty good for us. Because of reduced outgoing bills we were going to be able to pay off the CC which would roll over to the next pay to another debt. In other words we would have both paid off in the next month.

Now with losing a weeks pay to this stupid state shut down we are barely going to make it. When I try to figure out how we are going to make it and what we are going to do to get rid of these debts he says "I can't talk in hypotheticals".

UGHHH!!!

It's frustrating to feel alone in all this.

**dwallyfam** · 07-06-2006, 10:13 PM

He may also be feeling the frustration of no paycheck but not knowing how to show it.

Kellie

**bee9984** · 07-06-2006, 10:21 PM

Sorry you and your dh are having such a rough go of it, that was quite a shock for you both about the pay shortage.

All I can offer is a hug and assure you that you both will get through this....it is hard and alot of us have been there.

Do a pantry check and make a list of all that you have.....it is amazing what you can make up for dinners etc........check out the kitchen basics forum......Tons of wonderful ideas there.

And, please don't feel alone, we are all here for ya

Maybe even go to your local library and take out a couple of movies and have a popcorn/movie night

Go over your budget which I am sure you have already done tons of times but you never know, you might think of something else which you could cut back on or something.

**miss_thrifty** · 07-06-2006, 10:27 PM

HHUUGGSS going your way, and prayers being sent for feeling alone.

**Darlene** · 07-07-2006, 07:12 AM

Originally Posted by bee9984

Sorry you and your dh are having such a rough go of it, that was quite a shock for you both about the pay shortage.

All I can offer is a hug and assure you that you both will get through this....it is hard and alot of us have been there.

Do a pantry check and make a list of all that you have.....it is amazing what you can make up for dinners etc........check out the kitchen basics forum......Tons of wonderful ideas there.

And, please don't feel alone, we are all here for ya

Maybe even go to your local library and take out a couple of movies and have a popcorn/movie night

Go over your budget which I am sure you have already done tons of times but you never know, you might think of something else which you could cut back on or something.

Nice post Bee.

**frugalfarmwife** · 07-07-2006, 07:16 AM

Hugs to you, sometimes men are just men, lol, there is NO figuring them out! I'm sure he's just as stressed as you are right now.

Take a walk together and talk about all the positives you have!

kj

**Daisygirl** · 07-07-2006, 09:21 AM

When it rains it pours, doesn't it? It seems like one thing after another right now, I know. Sometimes I think there a little messages in this type of situation. Maybe there are things that you should value more in your life and this is a way of shedding some light on it. Sometimes from great anziety comes greater wisdom. I know that is not much consolation.

I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers, and hope for the best for you.

**ironmaiden** · 07-07-2006, 09:36 AM

Spend some of your newly found "vacation" time brainstorming.
Sit down with a pad and pencil and brainstorm on:
where you'd like to be in 5 years
what you'd like your retirement to be like
things to do that aren't expensive
ideas where you can cut money
what to make for your modified OAMC (OAMC is all planning)
what house projects could you be working on now
etc. etc. etc.

Make this extra time productive.'

**PrairieRose** · 07-07-2006, 10:30 AM

I think men cope so differently than women do. My Gripey will sometimes seem as if he's sticking his head in the sand when it comes impending problems. But I actually think, after 30 years of being married to him that he's processing and pondering it but differently than I do. Your dh probably needs more reassurance right now, that you know everything will work out ok. And it will, whether or not you can see it too.