I need some cheering up...

**peanut** · 08-01-2006, 08:44 PM

and encouragement. I am really feeling like giving up. If I could, I'd go home to my parents or go on a trip without dh right now. He is wonderful in lots of ways, but he makes me feel so poor. He so lacks motivation to do anything with his life. He has the opportunity to take a higher paying job and won't even apply. We are needing money in a lot of different places right now, and the next few years.

Meanwhile we have committed to paying dd#1's and her dh's university texts in Sept. ($700-1000), to buying a S.A.D. light ($350), to a trip to Alberta to dnephew's wedding ($500 including gift, food, travel expenses). Dh is talking about renovating the kitchen ($10,000) and redoing the wood floors ($2000) before trying to sell the house.

I have had great luck with acupuncture but have had to stop treatments because of the money. They're $360 every 2 weeks.

I finally have an opportunity to publish a book, but it needs to be done by February or it's toast. The editor is going to cut us a deal on the usual $2500 fee. Dh insists we have the money. I want to know where.

Then there's the saving for a car and retirement. Dh thinks we'll have the money when we need a new car in 5 years. I'm saying we won't if we don't save up for it starting now!

As is we save about 1/3 of his paycheck in one form or another. It's still not enough to do everything he wants. I guess I'm going to have to look at going out to work again...(sigh)

Jean

**kabin63** · 08-01-2006, 09:12 PM

Awww, Peanut, first

so sorry you have to deal with this.

**auntie2many** · 08-01-2006, 09:19 PM

(((Hugs!))) to you Peanut. So sorry that you are going through this series of trials. I wish that I had some great advice for you, but I do not. Keeping you in my thoughts.

auntie

**MOMMYDEAREST** · 08-01-2006, 09:24 PM

i'm so sorry peanut........hang in there!!!! give him a big kick in the butt..........lol!!!

**PrairieRose** · 08-01-2006, 09:39 PM

Money stuff can be so disheartening. Just keep plugging. I'll bet he'll have a change of heart before long.

**Mom23boys** · 08-01-2006, 09:45 PM

Sending you a hug, Peanut.

**autumnlynn** · 08-01-2006, 10:46 PM

Peanut,

I'm sending you a great big

My ex-husband used to be the same way. He left all the money problems to me and thought that the money would magically appear. I know what you're going through.

**ewokgirl** · 08-01-2006, 11:04 PM

Peanut, I hope things will look brighter in the morning. I've often found that when I'm upset at night, I feel so much better when I wake up the next day! I hope your DH will come to his senses soon and realize that the money doesn't just magically appear. Hugs to you.

**nodmicks** · 08-01-2006, 11:21 PM

Hugs to you. I find when I feel really disheartened 2 things work. I tend to crank the stereo with some music I love and dance like a fool. The second thing I do is pray. Seems to work.
I hope things look better to you soon. Hugs!

**Shell** · 08-01-2006, 11:52 PM

Don't give up.

Wishing you strength and love.

**babetteq** · 08-02-2006, 12:29 AM

Hang in there Peanut!

**Darlene** · 08-02-2006, 07:06 AM

Hope you two can sit down & talk soon.

**Daisygirl** · 08-02-2006, 07:16 AM

Poor Peanut, I am so sorry you are going through all this. A lot of people bury their head in the sand when it comes to money. I have a little analogy that might help you open the door to communication.

Everyone has a money tree in their yard. There is truly money available for anyone to just create! However, like any othe plant it does not just pop up and start sprouting dollar bills. you have to first plan the seeds, then you have to nurture them If merely watering them does not work, then you must start to add fertilizer. No luck with the first one? Try a different one or a combination.

Draw a picture of a tree with several branches. On each branch write down a way that some extra money can be acquired. Do this with hubby. (Maybe get him drunk first so he can suspend his disbelief, lol) Then figure out together which of these things you are willing to do. It could be new jobs for one or both of you, a home business, things you can sell, all sorts of stuff.

Best of luck and I hope my silly analogy made you smile if nothing else.

**frugalfarmwife** · 08-02-2006, 07:30 AM

Hugs to you, I DO understand the tough times like this. Normally my husband is WONDERFUL in understanding that finances are tough but right now we seem to be hemoraging money and he's just not helping, sigh. Vet bills, truck repairs, people owing us money, farm insurance, taxes, truck insurance and now HIS truck is making funny noises. It's enough to make me want to go crawl under a rock right now, got room for me on that vacation?

KJ