Income and family size-Thank you to all

**Sheila Q** · 11-18-2006, 11:44 PM

Hello,

Well after my post very early this morning about wanting a big family and income determining it dh I did so much talking. We do have to be on board. Dh and I have decided to leave the door open to more than 2 kids however when I really thought I know 2 will more than likely be it and we will have them both by adoption. Maybe someday a third will come into play but right now 2 is the game plan.

I talked to one of my sil's today and she said she feel like her brother which is my dh. Their family dynamics caused her to only want 2. There are 2 boys and 4 girls in dh's family. Dh's brother didn't want children and all the girls plus my dh only wanted 2 however 2 sil got pg accidentally with baby #3. There was much family dynamics and apparently it shaped all of them someway, somehow.

So we take it from there and I feel GOOD about our decision. We actually decided this together. Plus our original plan was one and one. Maybe all the crap in my life just overwhelmed me somehow. Having many kids don't guarantee they will be friends either.

Thank you all so much for your posts and responses. I didn't mean to dump here with family crap and issues but you guys helped me. Thank Thank Thank you

**marei** · 11-19-2006, 07:48 AM

One thing I truly love about this site is that I have never seen anybody get nasty. People always try to give their own honest opinion and while we may not always agree we are very respectful of the differences.
Now if we could just band to-gether and run the world.

**PrairieRose** · 11-19-2006, 11:21 AM

Originally Posted by marei

One thing I truly love about this site is that I have never seen anybody get nasty. People always try to give their own honest opinion and while we may not always agree we are very respectful of the differences.
Now if we could just band to-gether and run the world.

I agree marei, we could such a great job (and the national deficit would be in check too

! )

**SammeyG** · 11-19-2006, 01:06 PM

All of us need to vent every once in awhile. That is what I like about this site. That what may seem like venting to you everyone here will give there own opion(sp) of things. I am waiting until the day that my dh brings up the sibject agin about adopting. Good luck to you what ever you and your dh decide to do.

**Nantahala** · 11-19-2006, 03:02 PM

Sounds like a really good plan. {{{{{}}}}}

**yankeegal** · 11-19-2006, 06:52 PM

so glad you were able to come to a decision, that you both feel good about-together...and I agree with the others-everyone needs to vent and this is a fabulous, non-judgemental, supportive place to do it.

**ironmaiden** · 11-20-2006, 11:33 AM

After you are doing the mom thing, you'll have a better idea of how many kids you want. Two are the limit of my patience. I like to have things under control and two is as out of control as I can handle. Also, we don't like to be busy and the more kids, the more activities, schedules, organizing, etc.
You'll figure it out as you go along.

**kaykwilts** · 11-20-2006, 01:16 PM

Since you are adopting I imagine that can get very expensive anyway. How could you afford to adopt more than two?

**FarmerSue** · 11-20-2006, 05:48 PM

Good for you Sheila!!!!!!! I'm so jealous.......I would love to bring home a sweet little baby from China! It has always been a secret fantasy of mine. Maybe some day one of my kids will adopt and I'll get to live the dream through them! It will change your life for sure so make sure you both are excited about it. I came from a family of three and so did my husband. We have three kids too, and that is definitely enough for us. The area we farm in is french catholic and FULL of very large families, 4, 5 , 6 kids easily. I have a fairly small family for my area and my friends are always bugging me to have one more. I'm sure your both going to be great parents and maybe you'll post your adopting experience on here so I can dream!