Was this tacky of me?

**FrugalWitch** · 11-24-2006, 05:46 PM

First some background. I have been using the same set of pots and pans for 22 years, they are nice sturdy stainless steel and still in great shape for their age. In October I went to a yard sale and scored some Corning Vision ware in the Cranberry color. I'm madly, totally, head-over-heels in love with the new-to-me cranberry pieces.

In a conversation with my lifelong best friend the subject of Christmas gifts came up. Since I have no children I get a kick out of helping Scott come up with ideas for his kids. Anyway after talking about his kids he asked if I was planning on my usual jewelry or Shalimar gifts request for myself (I've asked for the same things every year since I was 13...boring ain't I?)

I told him about really wanting some more pieces of the Cranberry vision ware. He buys and sales a lot on eBay and asked me if there are usually pieces there that I want, so I told him yes. He also mentioned he had a couple of pieces that he and his wife hasn't used in years that he would give me.

Was I tacky in asking for used/discontinued cookware? I just want a pretty matching set so badly!

FrugalWitch

**Lyn5** · 11-24-2006, 05:59 PM

I don't think it was tacky. You seem to be great friends with this person and so he is probable happy that he can get you something he knows you want. Since my DH doesn't pick up on hints...I asked him for tea and special shampoo for my birthday/Christmas. He was so HAPPY to know what I wanted and wrote it down. I think giving someone what they want and will enjoy is much more important than how much was spent, if it was new, etc.

**lottaLove** · 11-24-2006, 06:07 PM

No, this isn't tacky at all. It is wonderful when you receive a gift you will enjoy, and even better if it is something you were wanting or needing. I think it is a great gift idea, especially because you are wanting to complete your set!

**dwallyfam** · 11-24-2006, 06:23 PM

If it is what you want and he wanted to know it is not tacky at all.

**FrugalMomof3** · 11-24-2006, 06:41 PM

Not tacky at all, I mean you love the stuff so why not ask for it or about it, I dont think you were tacky at all.

**dmvezina** · 11-24-2006, 07:37 PM

I don't think so at all!!
Its' what you want! There's nothing tacky about that!!

**Cele** · 11-24-2006, 07:49 PM

Not tacky at all. Think about how good you feel when you know you've totally "nailed" a gift for a friend or loved one. That's exactly what you're allowing your friend to do. Enjoy!

**Darlene** · 11-24-2006, 08:31 PM

No way was it tacky. One womans trash or non used items are another womans treasure. Share & enjoy! Feel good, win-win situations!!

**nwmissourigal** · 11-24-2006, 11:08 PM

Not tacky at all. I would much rather get something that I really wanted and could use rather than to have something in a closet or under the bed and then re-gift it..possible to the person that gave it to you..now that's tacky...but easy for me because I have gotten so forgetful...LOL

**autumnlynn** · 11-25-2006, 03:25 AM

No way do I think it was tacky. I love it when someone asks me what I want, because I always tell them! I'd much rather get something I really want.

**Katybird** · 11-25-2006, 07:44 AM

I think it was very helpful. He asked what you wanted and you told him

. I love the Visions also, it is such great cookware and bakeware. I agree that the cranberry was the prettiest color they made too.

**baking23** · 11-25-2006, 09:43 AM

Originally Posted by FrugalWitch

Was I tacky in asking for used/discontinued cookware? I just want a pretty matching set so badly!
FrugalWitch

Nope. A really close friend on mine cleaned out her cupboards a few years ago and gave me all the extra stuff. It's sitting downstairs in tuperware tubs until I move out of my parents place. I plan to keep all of it until it dies, breaks, or whatever. I'm pretty shamless in asking for things, or putting the word out, if I know someone's going to get rid of something.

She did give me her old dishes, which I might sell, since I'm not a big fan or them. however she can be pretty senstive about that kind of thing so I'm not sure whether to ask her first (did you want these back since I was going to sell them?) or just do it and not say a thing? But it's a few years off in the future so I'm not worrying about it yet.

**schellie69** · 11-25-2006, 01:31 PM

I don't think it was tacky since you where asked what you wanted, and you told them, I ask for things that i want, even if its for the kitchen this year i asked for spoon trivets since all of mine broke, i love the vision cookware, my faviorite color was the purple ones and if your friend can find the pieces you need great. enjoy your new cookware.

**FrugalWitch** · 11-25-2006, 04:21 PM

Thank you all for the replies. I'm glad to hear it's not considered tacky, now I can give a huge sigh of relief!

**tbs727** · 11-25-2006, 07:04 PM

Definitely not tacky. In fact, I thought it was thoughtful, you saved your loved ones money too! You aren't alone in asking for used stuff, last year I asked DH to buy me a used Dell Axim PDA off ebay.