Iam in a spending pit!

**betharoo0** · 12-08-2006, 01:10 PM

HELP

I have been sick off and on for a little over a month. stomache probs possibly an ulcer!grrrrr.... I think I have it under control now. But I have been spending like a crazy woman! I have not bee buying secondhand like I used to, I spent 134.00 at Mervyns(department store) all sales and clerance but I still spent way tooooo much!
My groceries were through the roof last month 415.05 not even including all the trips dh made because I was sick and could only eat saltines,chix broth, and gatorade. He TRYED to be frugal

He always bought himself some kind of snackcake! THEN.... I have been buying ALOT of junk for the kids, GUILT for being sick I guess! Imagine that!LOL!
I have been dippin into the EF for stupid things and I have not been saving my 20 a week!
I have not been saving on the light 249.50 last month! (this is with water and trash though) The month before was only149.00!
help!

Well I just wanted get this all out and start over! At least the bills were all on time and my EF is not totally gone!

**hollyhill** · 12-08-2006, 03:10 PM

The important thing is to forgive yourself and then forget it. Today is a brand new day.

**lottaLove** · 12-08-2006, 03:16 PM

It's OK, we all fall backwards once in a while. The main thing is that you became aware of your spending, before your EF was depleted. Don't be too hard on yourself, being sick is hard for everyone. You have built your EF before, I know you can do it again! We'll be cheering you on!

**starsapphire** · 12-08-2006, 04:02 PM

Give yourself a break. It happens. Jump back on the frugal bandwagon the best you can, starting today. We all backslide occasionally.

**danni** · 12-08-2006, 04:09 PM

Just pick yourself up and start again. You can do it!!!!!!

**Telephus44** · 12-08-2006, 05:26 PM

Just try and take a deep breath and relax. I find that I'm usually pretty good and then something will happen and I'll just go crazy (like the last month, where I've spent $285 on my digital camera, $150 on Sephora.com, eaten out too much, got special scented oil air freshners from Bath & Body Works - my CC balance is now the highest it's been since 2001). I always stop and pause for a bit, and think about what really made me spend all that money. I can generally calm my spending habits down after that, but I don't beat myself up because 90% of the time I'm pretty good at managing my money, and like you said - none of the bills are late and you're EF is still there.

**FrugalMomof3** · 12-08-2006, 06:42 PM

It's a good thing you recognized it and admitted to it, that's the first step and believe me we all take a step backwards, like me who's EF needs to be re-funded since I had to go to the Dr. and an unexpected expense came up but I am working on that and not beating myself up over it.

**autumnlynn** · 12-08-2006, 06:56 PM

Don't beat yourself up. These things happen. Just dust yourself off and hop back on that wagon!!

**watchingpennies** · 12-08-2006, 09:16 PM

Just take a deep breath and let it go. Start fresh now!

**nwmissourigal** · 12-09-2006, 10:18 PM

It's ok. The difference between you and a lot of other people that do not practice frugality...is that you know that you slipped alittle. Its' ok...we all have had a time when we have done that..So pick yourself up and dust yourself off and get started being frugal again..you can do it...Kathy

**trishh** · 12-09-2006, 11:28 PM

i agree with everyone just start over. everyone has these moments. tomorrow is a new day.

**Kisobel** · 12-10-2006, 03:20 AM

i too slipped off the wagon this week. spent 300 on new luggage-- for a trip in oct. i could have borrowed from my family but oh no i wanted my own. also spent 80 on scrapbooking supplies. arggh. this was money to be used for the snowball. i really dont know why i went nuts. i am going to try a new trick i read about. when you're in the spending like crazy mood, go ahead and shop(i usually shop online). write down everything you want and the price ona piece of paper. dont set any limits, write it all down. ok now dont pay for it. place the list in an envelope and seal it. in two weeks if you can name everything you wanted ont he list and still want it, buy it. the theory is we want all this crap now but if we wait do we truly remember what we wanted or was it all impulsive junk.

kate

**ironmaiden** · 12-10-2006, 01:22 PM

Gee, you could work yourself up over and get ... an ulcer ...

I just had to say it. But it is a good question, how do you deal with problems.

**betharoo0** · 12-11-2006, 01:03 PM

ironmaiden you just HAD to say it! I realized what I posted after I posted it! I tend to worry about everything and everybody! Iam working on it though! Some people in my life(dh family ex.) are just don't worth my stomaches!

Thanks for all the support! Iam doing better this week