Was this odd of me? Or a little weird?

**emortis13** · 02-10-2007, 05:54 PM

A while ago I got some food from my mother. Lots and lots of commodities. She didn’t really need them and nether did I. But there was a family across the hallway {apartment building} that mentioned that they didn’t have any food.

I dropped a line about how I had some extra stuff and asked if they wanted it, they said ok, they have no food, and they will take anything. So I went back into my apartment and grabbed a handful of stuff. They were grateful, I said theres more coming. And actually had to come back and fourth about four times. The fourth time I got the impression that they thought it was weird.

I ignored it and told them that that was it. And went back to my apartment were I noticed that I had an entire shelf full of food I don’t eat and has been sitting there for a really long time. Then I started remembering all sorts of other things that I have that I don’t use and thought that they would need it more then me.

O.B tampons, I used two out of the box and decided that I hated them
I had bought tons of spiral notebooks and still had about 50 extra so I grabbed a bunch for them
Samples that I don’t use or want
Asian candies that I don’t like
Some Kashi Granola bars
Axe deodorant from when I got many hands on about 20 samples
Light bulbs, I switched to the kind that last for a year and take up practically no electricity
Bunch more food

I filled a box up and went back over there. Knocked on the door and handed it to them. There answer was “shit man” and then I got the impression that they thought it was really weird. I tried to joke it off and said that I swear this is the last box. But it was still weird. Its now really bothering me.

Was it a bad thing for me to do? I grew up with manners being hammered into me. I don’t know how I could have handled that more smoothly. It wasn’t like I thought they were a charity, it was more like I have a bunch of stuff I didn’t want and they wanted it.

What the hell happened?

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 02-10-2007, 06:10 PM

Sounds like you did them a huge favor and they have no manners... Sorry they treated you like that.

Maybe eventually they'll realize how much you blessed them in your giving... You did a good thing. Just pat yourself on the back.

**FrugalMomof3** · 02-10-2007, 06:11 PM

I dont think they thought it was weird, I just think they were thinking something along the lines of "Holy Shit Man, we didnt know we were getting that much" I remember when I myself was having hard times and my neighbor would bring me boxes of stuff and those were my 2 words to the tee too!

If you feel upset about this you can just go knock on the door and explain why they got so much stuff like you did to us, I am sure though that they are very very greatful, God Bless you!

**kaykwilts** · 02-10-2007, 06:46 PM

I guess they were overwhelmed and maybe a little embarrassed to be in the situation where they had to accept food from strangers. In any case they should be grateful for the gift.

**Mom23boys** · 02-10-2007, 06:55 PM

I think you did a wonderful deed for that family. They were just probably overwhelmed with everything you gave them. I bet they are very thankful!

**Marie78** · 02-10-2007, 07:17 PM

I think they were probably surprised by your generosity and it doesn't seem like they knew what to say. If they have any manners at all they will find a way to thank you.

**frugalwanttobe** · 02-10-2007, 07:39 PM

I think they were in shock and did not know how to handle your generosity. Your kindness was almost too much for them to take in. Probably nobody was ever this kind to them.

You did a good thing.

**Darlene** · 02-10-2007, 07:52 PM

I too think they were overwhelmed. Now that you've shared some of your cupboard I hope you can spend some time together just passing time, have a cup of coffee together & share a smile.

Wonderful to be able to share & also spend time with nice people. No tally sheets on who did what for whom, just enjoy each others company. What comes around, goes around.

**kabin63** · 02-10-2007, 08:35 PM

I would guess they felt overwhelmed and you probably surpassed any expectations on their part. There have been times I have given a lot, like that, to people for different reasons. Like you said, sometimes for me it's about unloading my over abundance, but also my nature of wanting to help others. I got the same type of reaction.

**Cele** · 02-10-2007, 08:40 PM

I agree they were probably overwhelmed, didn't know how to thank you, and might even be wondering "how will we repay her". Sadly, there are people who have only experienced "tit for tat" giving. They think you'll expect something in return at some point.

Have a wonderful time proving them wrong!

**annymoll** · 02-10-2007, 09:05 PM

Originally Posted by FrugalMomof3

I dont think they thought it was weird, I just think they were thinking something along the lines of "Holy Shit Man, we didnt know we were getting that much" I remember when I myself was having hard times and my neighbor would bring me boxes of stuff and those were my 2 words to the tee too!

If you feel upset about this you can just go knock on the door and explain why they got so much stuff like you did to us, I am sure though that they are very very greatful, God Bless you!

This is how I took it as well, that they were astonished at all the goods they were getting!You were very kind.

**Laurie in Bradenton** · 02-10-2007, 09:09 PM

No your not weird just very generous! Some folks never learn to say Thank you and most are overwhelmed by gifts from strangers. Know in your heart you did a good thing and move on to the next good thing.

Laurie in BRadenton

**Dexter** · 02-10-2007, 10:51 PM

Originally Posted by kaykwilts

I guess they were overwhelmed and maybe a little embarrassed to be in the situation where they had to accept food from strangers. In any case they should be grateful for the gift.

That's what I was thinking: embarrassment.

**nwmissourigal** · 02-10-2007, 10:55 PM

The act of giving is never weird. God bless you for helping out this family. Sorry they seemed rude, but you did the right thing by giving and there is nothing wrong with that..Blessings..Kathy

**autumnlynn** · 02-10-2007, 11:03 PM

I can't say I really understand their reaction, but I know that you did a wonderful thing for that family. I'm sure you'll be blessed for your generosity.