Just when it comes altogether....

**mommy4ever** · 08-28-2007, 01:08 AM

It falls apart.

My new daycare family started officially today...and ended tonight.I'm heartsick over it, as this is a family I watched before and I adore them, parents and children. Dad started a new job today, and found out it wasn't the job it was promoted to be, but a step or four backwards. So he's not returning and going to remain the stay at home daddy.. I understand completely. I'm not mad, but I really looked forward to seeing that family every day. I love that little girl, and would soon love the new baby too. Not to mention we connected so well with the parents.

And now i"m short on my budget. Our income is over 1300 less now. I should be able to get at least 1 spot filled before Sept hits. I've had lots of inquiries. But I really really was looking forward to having this family.

**Jaded** · 08-28-2007, 01:11 AM

Aw, hon I'm sorry. Believe me, he will get tired of being at home pretty quickly, and they'll be back.

**mommy4ever** · 08-28-2007, 01:30 AM

He's been at home the last year since they adopted the baby. He wasn't returning to work, but this company contacted him, and built up the position to be something else. I don't usually get attached to the kids, let alone the whole family. this is hard. My kids are quite attached to them. It's all auntie and uncle. Even my kids with them. I just feel sad about it right now. It's not even about the money.

**McD** · 08-28-2007, 08:04 AM

Just out of curiousity Jaded, why do you say this: "Believe me, he will get tired of being at home pretty quickly, and they'll be back."

I'm sorry that this didn't work out for you. Hopefully, something else turns up.

**Dancing Lotus** · 08-28-2007, 08:34 AM

Im sorry that things didnt turn out as planed.

- Im just guessing on this but I think jaded didnt mean anything by it. Its just that men dony usualy handle being at home as well becuase they are in the minority and becuase most other fathers are at work they dont really have anyone to socialize with.

**mommy4ever** · 08-28-2007, 04:31 PM

Thanks ladies. I'm feeling a little better now. I'm still disappointed as I was really looking forward to this. But I did talk with dad today, and he was beside himself feeling bad because of what has happened. I told him that we weren't upset, disappointed becuase we were looking forward to having them, as we really enjoy them. We had a good chat. And I let them know that I have set up interviews already. I may have filled one space already and I'll know by tomorrow, and I have another interview with another family for the other spot first thing tomorrow.

The little one today was a sweetie, and was very shy, but warmed up to me. Dad said he wanted to bring the little one, but it does depend on if mom gets the job she's interviewing for today, which she's 99% sure she's getting. Then the little one, only 10 months old, when they were leaving, I said bye to him and he leaned forward and gave me a kiss. I guess it doesn't happen often. Dad figured that they'd be here a long time. So we'll see how it goes. I'll be waiting. I did like the parents. Now, not as much as the other family, but time can build a good relationship there too.

**baxjul** · 08-28-2007, 04:41 PM

Sorry, I know how it is to find that family that you connect with!

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 08-28-2007, 08:16 PM

Awww...sorry you're having to go thru this...it's hard to lose a connection with people you care about...sending hugs!!

**changed4life** · 08-28-2007, 08:23 PM

It sounds like you have a promising prospect already! I hope it turns out favorably for you.

**mommy4ever** · 08-28-2007, 09:09 PM

I'll know more tomorrow, and I have at least one more interview tomorrow with a lady I really liked on the phone, and possible another one later that day.

I knew I wouldn't have much trouble getting people inthe daycare. I've got excellent references, and biggest reference is the little one in care is always coming and hugging me and kissing me, and just happy to be near me. And he did that while they were there.

Dh is with one of the other family right now, they went shopping for a suit..lol. I feel pretty good about it. We're making plans to get together more often and pursue a real strong friendship with them. We like them that much.