Do any of you do this or have done this?? (sorry it so long)

**loveless82** · 05-09-2008, 12:07 PM

Hello everyone,

Well, Does anyone else keep money from their hubby? I do cuz we never have any money save up and we both don't trust banks. My hubby does give me his pay check every Thursday, but he also not good with keep us on budget and get upset when I tell we don't need somethings.. He goes on about working hard all week and not be able to buy things for our son, or me and him... so I then I will give in and say fine get it.
Well, when were having our son I would take some of the left of money from a $20 and hide it in my tea pots( I love to collect!!!

) well a few month after our son was born, I was busy doing a million thing and on thing lead to another and I knock over the tea pot with some of the money fell out ( in total I hide $407.45 in four tea pots) The look on my hubby was priceless... So we had a long talk about how I just want to have money around in case of something bad happening.... He understand what I meant being that he was lay off at the time and unemployment check weren't that great.
Well, I haven't done the money hide thing for awhile, cuz we were doing good for the longest time but last night I was clean out my pant and I was count the money I had left and it was about $86 and some change so I took $26 of it a put in a totties roll tin.

Sorry for this being so long, but I just want to know if I'm the only one who does this?? When I told my mom about she laugh ans told me I like those
old women who hide money in jars and buried them in the back yard....lol

Thanks for reading!!!

**momofslg** · 05-09-2008, 12:25 PM

I don't necessarily "HIDE" it. Hubby knows I have a stash of money in the house in case of an emergency and he knows the general area it is in, but not the exact location. I also have a savings account. Both our names are on the account so if needed he could get the money, but he won't unless it is a true emergency.
He works and I pay all the bills and do the budgeting. I try to save for unexpected expenses, so we won't be in trouble. He is ok with this plan.

**karone** · 05-09-2008, 12:28 PM

lol, did that with my ex b/c everytime i would give him the money that my mom gave me it seems like he would spend it on something else other than gas for his car. with jason i dont have to and im glad of it to. lol, im finding it hard right now not to go up to the bigger $ store and get a electric can opener (we have a manual one) or some other kitchen gadget/pan that i think we need but dont need. so it seems like he should hide the money from me, lol.

**FrugalMomof3** · 05-09-2008, 12:46 PM

I use to do that and I can say on occasion I do take a few bucks and stash it away, I usually wind up telling him in the long run but with what has happened lately in my life I do have a very small stash that he doesnt know about, not much maybe $50 but each week I try to add in $10+ more dollars, it's my safety net for me and my DD should things change.

**Jerseygirl** · 05-09-2008, 12:49 PM

No need to do it here, but dh used to hide it from his ex.

**pkellyc** · 05-09-2008, 12:53 PM

Only for the past 23 or so years. DH lives for today and always has.

**YankeeMom** · 05-09-2008, 12:53 PM

Originally Posted by Jerseygirl

No need to do it here, but dh used to hide it from his ex.

Same here, no need to now. But I used to have to do that with my late husband.

**momof2joys** · 05-09-2008, 12:58 PM

I do this, but I change the location sometimes. Not that he would ever find it!! But I do, I won't call it "hiding" money, but I "store" some away. I usually take most of the change, and few dollars here or there and put it away. When he asks where all the change went I tell him that I cashed it in and put it into the account. I also still have my own savings account, from before we were married, and I am not really sure if he knows that it is still open or not! May have to investigate that one!!

**Dad_of_4** · 05-09-2008, 01:12 PM

I'm sorry but I find it kind of sad that some of you feel the need to hide and lie to your husbands. How would you feel if he kept things from you? Maybe saying he is at work when he is out with his buddies or a girlfriend. Or getting a bonus check and not telling you. If your marriage is in such bad shape take the money you have stashed and seek some help.

**pqb57** · 05-09-2008, 01:23 PM

My dw dosen't exactly hide it from me (but I don't know where it is) but she does keep money from me and that is a good thing. Had a couple financial emergencies this year, and she had the money to cover them.

**Ali Lee** · 05-09-2008, 01:42 PM

I keep money found in the washer, I keep money found on the floor, pockets, the sidewalk. All my change goes in my kitty bank. I keep a few dollars in my drawer for an unexpected whatever, lunch, gas. I don't think my hubby knows about it. I don't snoop in his wallet. and....I think I have a descent marriage. I think every woman should have a few dollars--for whatever reason.

**YankeeMom** · 05-09-2008, 01:43 PM

Originally Posted by Dad_of_4

I'm sorry but I find it kind of sad that some of you feel the need to hide and lie to your husbands. How would you feel if he kept things from you? Maybe saying he is at work when he is out with his buddies or a girlfriend. Or getting a bonus check and not telling you. If your marriage is in such bad shape take the money you have stashed and seek some help.

I wouldn't expect a man to understand

**mombottoo** · 05-09-2008, 02:19 PM

My hubby has his money and I have mine...do I know how much he has stashed...no and I wouldn't expect him to tell me. Do I have a stash? You bet!!! Would I tell him how much I have...nope. We have joint accounts for the household, but we each deserve to have money that we can spend any way we see fit without the other one having their nose up our butt.

and our marriage is fine...going on 32 years and haven't needed couseling yet

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**Dad_of_4** · 05-09-2008, 02:20 PM

Originally Posted by YankeeMom

I wouldn't expect a man to understand

What that some women lie? I guess men can say the same thing when they are deceitful. If you can not trust your husband with money, how can you trust him to be faithful and honest.

maybe your husband should treat you the same way and keep his paycheck separate. In a separate account. When you need money you can ask for it. Afterall, if you don't trust him why should he trust you?

**momofslg** · 05-09-2008, 02:21 PM

Originally Posted by Dad_of_4

I'm sorry but I find it kind of sad that some of you feel the need to hide and lie to your husbands. How would you feel if he kept things from you? Maybe saying he is at work when he is out with his buddies or a girlfriend. Or getting a bonus check and not telling you. If your marriage is in such bad shape take the money you have stashed and seek some help.

I don't think this a fair quote to apply to all. Hiding a little money is not the same as lying about being out with the guys when you are actually out with a girlfriend.
I stash money away for emergencies so we don't spend it on stupid things. My hubby knows I do this, he just doesn't ask how much there is or where it is. If needed (like this past week when we got surprised with an unexpected bill/Dr visit) I have the money.

I don't want to use CC anymore so having some $ put aside is what works for us.