DH, Free to a Good Home!!!

**momof2joys** · 05-17-2008, 01:03 PM

Okay, I just have to get something off my chest!! Dh is so annoying sometimes (okay a lot of times). I have been asking him for weeks now to finish putting up my trim in the kitchen, we have it, why not put it up, right? Well, instead he starts with the tiling project for our basement. Fine whatever, I can deal!! Anyway, I have been wanting him to get this done, because today is my little sisters graduation and we have family coming from out of town. Now, keep in mind, they are all wanting to see my finished kitchen!! So, yesterday I asked him, nicely, to put up the trim, its like 10 pieces, and he doesn't do it. I still have to clean my house, and get laundry done, by like 3:00, and I ask him for some help! What is he doing you ask?? He is outside, playing with the hose, he just mowed the back yard, but not the front yet!! I think he may have ADHD!!
So, anyone want a 30 year old handyman for a husband??? He is very great with kids and is very handy in electric, plumbing, and construction. He is up for grabs, I am going to go out and find a new dh, a lawyer, and have a doctor boyfriend on the side. That way I won't have to do anything, I can just pay someone to do it all for me!!

**dianne9106** · 05-17-2008, 02:29 PM

You might get a few takers - but you might want to leave off the negative stuff for advertising purposes! Maybe put it in fine print about the ADHD.... I would trade, but mine is not a doctor or lawyer, he is not even a handy man. But I am rather attached to mine - when he's home - LOL

**Frugal Nurse** · 05-17-2008, 02:41 PM

That's sooooo funny!

You know what gets my husband's goat?
Me: "honey, which carpenter do you recommend? Bill? or Marc?"
He: "what for?"
Me: "to put up the trim in the kitchen. I'm making the calls today- so which one would you prefer?"

Nothing further said- trim is up.

**rudypoo98** · 05-17-2008, 02:45 PM

Did you ask him to do this or did you ask if he's capeable? My ex husband when I'd say can you do this for me,would spout back,Yes I'm capeable of doing that. Maybe if you'd ask me I might do it for you.Of course then all I wanted to do was hit him over the head with a skillet.

**perSue** · 05-17-2008, 02:49 PM

LOL FrugalNurse... I think you hit the nail on the head there.

A LOT of men are like that...

However, mine's more like rudypoo's... it's a game of semantics!
*argh!!!*

LOL

**janelane** · 05-17-2008, 02:58 PM

I know you're down to the wire and have no time today, but some advice for the future, I have found that if I go ahead and start a project DH has been putting off (and believe me, I sympathize -- we moved into this house two years ago this month, and he his office is still unpacked) three things will happen: one, I'll end up finishing it my darn self, two, he'll see me and jump in to do actually do it or at least help ("oh honey, you didn't have to do that, I said I was gonna!" yeah three months ago) or three I'll start, figure out (or already knew before hand) it's way too big of a job for myself/screw up/have the nerve to touch his tools (lol) and he'll just be forced to into doing it because then he won't be able to leave it be.

I hate to nag, I ask politely for him to do things every so often, which he often doesn't hear, and literally at times I've waited years for him to get things done.

I got myself a pink toolbox and just stopped waiting.

**Suzi T.** · 05-17-2008, 03:07 PM

Or.....find a FREE estimate guy to come when he is home and get your free estimate. When dh asks whats up, tell him in your sweetest voice that since he doesn't know how to do it that you are paying someone to do it. If he wants to freak out than give him YOUR time frame to have it done. Believe me , he wants you to think he can do it.

**Lori Biever-Launder** · 05-18-2008, 01:10 AM

My DH wanted to call a plumber a couple of months back when the bathroom sink clogged up. I thought it over and said, "I'll tell you what. If you get this thing unclogged, you won't have to clean the bathrooms for a month!" (He cleans our bathrooms). He literally RAN in there. yep, it took a couple of hours, but we got it done at a cost of about $4.00 for some new washers!

Maybe you could dangle some other sort of carrot ( a night out with the guys or maybe some wink, wink, nudge, nudge) to get him going. Everybody has a weakness of SOME sort!

**duckduckgoose007** · 05-18-2008, 08:47 AM

Every time I complain about my Hubby, my one Daughter says..."You picked Him..Mom!" Unfortunately she hit the nail right on the head!!! LOL

**ubumartin** · 05-18-2008, 09:17 AM

I have a saying in my house when my husband brags "It only took me 5 minutes" to do ... and I say "Yes, 3 years and 5 minutes!!!" It drives me crazy. I usually get him to do things when I walk through the living room with a hammer or a drill and then he gets the hint! Drastic measures are needed at times.

**G'MaDebbie** · 05-18-2008, 10:39 AM

Now that is genius!! I am going to have to take lessons from you! lol

Originally Posted by Frugal Nurse

That's sooooo funny!

You know what gets my husband's goat?
Me: "honey, which carpenter do you recommend? Bill? or Marc?"
He: "what for?"
Me: "to put up the trim in the kitchen. I'm making the calls today- so which one would you prefer?"

Nothing further said- trim is up.

**Frugal Nurse** · 05-18-2008, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by janelane

I got myself a pink toolbox and just stopped waiting.

A PINK tool box! I LOVE IT!!!

**FHTM Devin** · 05-18-2008, 08:02 PM

This may be off topic but what is a DH? Dormant Husband?

**JerryG** · 05-18-2008, 08:46 PM

I made breakfast. b4 7am. I have bacon in the micro. Putting biscuits in the oven (it's hot here - which is the only reason I would offer bfast at 7am). DBF wants to spackle the kitchen ceiling which has needed it for at least 2 freakin' YEARS!!!!

I cover the pan for eggs on the stove and step outside cuz' I have no response. I am livid. . . . .

He comes out and tells me that "something dinged" . . . . . .

It was a very good breakfast and my son even got out of bed to eat the leftovers.

"Sometimes, you gots to do whats you gots to do!! ". . So I've been told.