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    Angry I'm in a bad mood....

    Sorry to rant but I am so ticked off. My friend and her husband and three year old just left after spending the last few days with us. Talk about ungrateful people. All they could do was complain about this or that. Mind you, they were staying with us for free and I bent over backwards to make them feel welcomed. They found fault with everything. I gave their three year old a bunch of DVD's that my kids have outgrown and instead of being thankful my friend just made a snide comment about not liking the music on the shows. They were Veggie Tales and some Disney movies. I paid for almost everything and felt totally taken advantage of. I know my friend's persoanlity change is a direct result of her husband's influence. He is a total idiot. Very negative and judgemental. You should see how he speaks to his little girl. It's terrible. On top of all that, the money I spent while they were here came out of my grocery money so I have exactly $60 to make it till next payday 5/31. I did go to the grocery and get most stuff in but I usually try to have a slush fund for just in case. Well, not this month. I was never so happy to see three people leave in all my life. I am very discouraged right now. Thanks for letting me rant!
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    Arrgghh! How annoying! So sorry your friend's visit did not go well. Maybe next time you can have your friend over for a "girl's only" weekend and she can leave the jerk at home.


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    I'm sorry your weekend didn't go well. Its hard when other people's influence start to effect the personalities of those we love.

    Big Hugs - and I second a girl's weekend for just you and your friend!

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    If shes a true friend she would apologize and I would let her know that their behavior was unacceptable

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    I am sorry the friend and her families stay was a pleasant one for you, I personally don't invite friends to stay for that simple reason, I hate to say that but I cant afford to foot the bill, nor put up with disrespectful behavior, in which I have friends exactly like what you mentioned.

    Maybe next time she asks to stay over you can politely say no and explain why.

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    I'm really sorry that happened to you, however, now you know the reason they say you dont truly know someone until you live with them.
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    I'm sorry! that is terrible!

    Are you feeling any better now that you let it all out? Carthartic.. isn't it?

    I wanted to say... don't invite her over and don't give her things.. but honestly- I wouldn't do that.

    Maybe your dear friend is feeling clinically depressed (with a husband like hers... it's no doubt). I see this happen alot and it shows in their behavior- just like you described.

    And do keep giving her daughter things. It's not the daughter's fault or issue.

    You should be very proud of yourself that
    1. you tolerated it
    2. you didn't say anything terrible to her
    3. you still gave the items to the girl
    4. you opened your home to her and you will do it again
    5. despite having that jerk around- you bit your lip.

    Good job. IMHO. That's class.

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    I guess I`d be in a bad mood also.
    they should have helped you with the cost of food.
    I know your disapointed in how they did. here`s sending you hug`s.

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    Aw, I'm sorry to hear that happened to you. I know the feeling, and it isn't fun. Just remember that you treated them well, and nothing else matters. You did your part. THEY are the ones who messed up, not you. I hope that sometime soon you get to be hospitable to someone who will appreciate your kindness.

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    Thats terrible. I'm sorry you couldn't just enjoy the visit.

    If it makes you feel better we haven't spoken to our friends in two yrs. They visited without asking. I bent over backwards, cooked all the meals, gave them dd's bed and lowered my AC to their liking. She took over my computer and hasn't called or written once since they left. I have no idea what happened.

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    Quote Originally Posted by FrugalMomof3 View Post
    I personally don't invite friends to stay for that simple reason, I hate to say that but I cant afford to foot the bill,

    I'm very quite, don't need anything and I will pay for my own food.

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    Sounds awful. I hate having people stay at my place for this very reason. Well, there are other reasons too but don't get me started!

    I was married to a man that sounds a lot like your friend's huasband. I feel really badly for her, trying to win his approval., What she doesn't realize now is that her true friends will be there for her once that jerk is long gone.

    Big hugs to you.

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    I second that, Daisygirl.
    I lost alot of longtime friends during my short marriage, he treated them badly and all I could see at the time was wanting his approval. Thankfully my oldest and dearest friend has forgiven me and we have repaired our friendship, but that is rare.

    It might help to let her know how you feel, sometimes our friends do need to hold us accountable when we take them for granted. You deserve an apology.

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    Wow! What horrible and ungrateful house guests.
    I'm so sorry you put yourself out like that and they
    didn't even appreciate it. Don't worry whatever you
    put out to show them kindness will come back double.
    You did your part even though they acted so rudely.
    " May we never let the things we canít have or donít have or shouldnít have spoil our enjoyment of the things we do have and can have. As we value our happiness, let us not forget it. One of the greatest lessons in life is learning to be happy without the things we cannot or should not have."
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