Have you ever felt....

**Frugal Nurse** · 05-26-2008, 01:08 PM

......that you were being ignored?

My limit is twice.
Twice to contact.
Twice to attempt.
Twice to whatever.

If nothing after two times... I'm done.
It used to be 3 times- but statistically speaking, I realized that there was no change in the outcome from twice to thrice.
So, why waste time with the third? eh?

so.... do you have limits?

**Dobby** · 05-26-2008, 01:36 PM

Ignored by anyone specific? I don't have a set limit, but it doesn't take too many times for me to give up. 2 or 3 maybe.

**Sara Noel** · 05-26-2008, 01:49 PM

Did you say something? LOL
Sorry I couldn't resist.

In regards to your question....why yes...Yes I have. Happens ALL the time. I put it in the "some things just are" compartment. Lots of other mind boggling things stored along with it. LOL

**PrairieRose** · 05-26-2008, 02:17 PM

Me too. Happens fairly often. I'm trying to let things slide off of my back more these days than I ever did in the past.

**urbanfarmer** · 05-26-2008, 02:22 PM

Yep and I would probably never make it to 3!

**Michelle** · 05-26-2008, 07:14 PM

Being ignored drives me crazy.

I have learned to let it roll off my back more these days though.

**perSue** · 05-26-2008, 07:19 PM

yep.

there are times i feel ignored by my family.
it's like anything i say falls into the ether and then i get "you didnt say that!"

sometimes i wonder if i'm invisible.

but then, when something goes wrong and I say "if you would've listened..."

then there are the phone calls i sit and wait for.

i USED to sit and wait, and waste my days waiting for a call from someone who said they'd call and we'd go do something... and that call never happened... and i wasted a day and felt HORRIBLE!

so i decided... if you dont call when I expect... i call you.
if you dont answer, i leave a msg saying "sorry we missed each other... this was my expectation based on what you said..."

i dont WAIT for anyone anymore (except family, but that's different).

if you say yer gonna be here and dont show... my day is NOT ruined... i continue doing whatever "I" want.

i dont revolve my world around other ppl's "gonna's"... if i miss you because you didnt show on time... that's YOUR prob... not mine.

**Frugal Nurse** · 05-26-2008, 07:34 PM

ooo PerSue... you're so demanding! lol!

To explain my limit thing-
Here's an example. I attempt to make contact with a friend. If no return call (or email or IM) after two attempts... I don't bother to retry. I am very sensitive to being a PITA and don't want to feel that I am- sooooo if nothing after twice. done. Your turn.

If I ask DH for something and I get no reponse the first time, I'll say... he didn't hear me. After the second one... I KNOW he's ignoring me.

I also use this principle if I am sewing, or crafting- whatever- if after two errors, two tries to do something- it signals to me... to stop.

Take golf, if I didn't hit the ball after two swings. (LOL! I know bad!) I pick up the ball and move on

It also even gets as far two days. If two days passed and friend didn't return contact... well...I consider it done.
I think that might be a defense mechanism though... 'fear of some sort... fill in the blank.

If two days pass and you didn't need that addiction- then it's done.

That kind of stuff. It's the twice thing that is the limit with me.

As far as being ignored! Grrrrrrrr.. hate that.

**Cricket1** · 05-26-2008, 09:39 PM

I hear you--yes, I've felt that recently, as a matter of fact. I finally just gave up after trying waaayyy more than 3 times.

**Palooka** · 05-26-2008, 09:47 PM

I hate when I try to contact a friend and they don't bother to return a call. grrr. I give up too.

Or if I get into it with my dh and say how I feel for 20 minutes and he doesn't say nothing back. arg. That is the worst!

**Buc-O-Mama** · 05-26-2008, 09:51 PM

Twice seems reasonable to me. Sometimes I'm not reasonable and don't make a second attempt.

**shortstack** · 05-26-2008, 09:54 PM

My husband is king of the "we should do such and such together" and then forgetting about it. I've come to realize and so has my family that when he says lets do this he is not going to follow through. I think he truly intends to but life just gets in the way.

One of the only people I call on the phone is my very best friend and when I call her a few times and she doesn't answer or call me back the very next time I speak to her I ask her if she was ignoring me and sometimes she says yes lol. Thats why I love her, she is utterly completely honest. No wondering with her.

Andrea

**forHISglory** · 05-27-2008, 12:06 AM

Friends, family, colleagues, students.......... not much ignoring going on there.

But some businesses......... argh! Do they really want my business? For example: my doctor's office. I love my doctor, despise the office. No one will answer the phone; I have to leave a message. I ask, in the message, for someone to return my call. They don't. This has led to some serious mistakes with prescriptions. Three times they have ordered the wrong meds for me. I'm intelligent enough to read my labels so I know that these are the wrong meds, but someone else might just take the meds and suffer the consequences. This could have been avoided if they would just return the call! The problem is that most of the doctors in our area no longer own their own practices; the local hospital owns them. And the hospital policy is that the offices don't return calls (supposed to save money and time). And why don't the doctors own their own practices? It's the high cost of malpractice insurance, but that's another thread.

**Drgnfly423** · 05-27-2008, 01:00 AM

I'm definitely a "ball's in your court" kinda person. Two contacts would probably be my limit depending on the circumstance. Whether it be business/personal.

**Frugal Nurse** · 05-27-2008, 06:22 AM

Originally Posted by forHISglory

The problem is that most of the doctors in our area no longer own their own practices; the local hospital owns them. And the hospital policy is that the offices don't return calls (supposed to save money and time). And why don't the doctors own their own practices? It's the high cost of malpractice insurance, but that's another thread.

That's exactly what is happening.
the small town doctor can no longer afford the high cost of malpractice insurance - so they align with hospitals... who pay a HUGE portion of it. I see it ALL the time at Mass General. I feel so bad for the patients calling and calling... with no return call. (I'm not party to that... just an observation that drives me insane... you're right another thread! - WAIT! this is MY thread! It's okay! lol!! )