Am I an old fuddy duddy or what?

[DixieJ]

OK, I'm ranting a little here. I'm just wondering, do people not send thank you notes anymore or am I just old fashioned? In the past 2 months, I've given a wedding gift, a baby gift, 2 checks for graduation plus a birthday gift (all to different people) and have not received one thank you note. I have always sent a thank you acknowledgement for any gift. I don't expect to receive a full page letter, just a short note saying thank you for the gift.

Am I being unreasonable--is this something that's just not done anymore? I admit I'm from the old school!!

[PennyWise]

If they have manners they do.
If I send a gift and don't get an acknowledgement...no more gifts.

[AmyBoz]

I send thank you's and I make my children send thank-you's when they receive gifts as well. I think it's rude not to.

[luv-my-lexi]

I send thank you's and I make my children send thank-you's when they receive gifts as well. I think it's rude not to.

Exactly!!!!

[Lady_V]

I still SNAIL MAIL thank you's... I have gotten quite a few emailed ones, but at least they are sending them...

I will not allow DD to even take the plastic off a gift until she has written the thank you note...

[perSue]

i hear a lotta this from the baby boomer generation... always complaining how the "younger generation" doesnt call or send thank you cards anymore.

and you're right... for the most part we dont.
i do tho.

it's more about email.
and many of what's my parent's generation either dont like or dont know how to use basic computer programs... and i can't blame 'em!

if nothing else... send an email to the person or if a child, the child's parent and gently remind them of being grateful.

i've done that myself.

[cissylu]

yes it is rude them not sending a thankyou. I`ve alway`s recieved a thankyou.

[EmilyD]

No you aren't a fuddy duddy.

I was invited to a BD party for twins. Over 100 people were invited as well. Boxes and boxes of gifts.

NOT ONE THANK you the whole time I was sitting there watching her open the gifts and a few comments were even made about the outfits not matching or not in their favorite color.

That was over a month ago and NO thank you note written as well.

My son and dil did the same at the wedding .. open and comment but NO thank yous and no written ones were ever received. AND I taught him better.

[earthymom]

I've noticed a lot of the younger generation feel that if they thanked you in person or on the phone, that's enough. If not, they prefer to email or text you. Snail mail, and writing with a pen instead of a key board isn't their thing.

Personally, I like to send and receive a little hand-written note from time to time.

[Darlene]

You are not old fashioned, the recipients of your gifts are just rude & boorish.
Don't let this go, ask them if they have received your gift, for you haven't received any note that they have. The ball is in their court.

All this from a Mom who lived through the cries of anguish as her children had to write thank you notes when they were young. Now, as far as I know they readily send them along with other proper writings when the situation warrants it. Ds especially got all kinds of kind words when he wrote his first condolence letter to our dear neighbor when she lost her husband. She showed his letter to all her kids. This Mom couldn't have been prouder.

[baxjul]

I agree with Darlene, ask them if they have received the gift! They owe you a thank you.

[fernykins]

When I went to Maryland last month for my sons graduation, I stayed with his sponsors. On the way to the airport my 22 year old son is telling me to send a Thank you knot....... Of course I was going to anyways. Its only proper........ So I guess I did something right.
Fern

[momof2joys]

I always write thank yous!! I do it for my kids too!! Even though they are only 2 1/2 and 9 months, I still write out thank yous and usually send a picture of them with the gift!!
I think it is very rude to not say thank you for something that was given to you!
The only times we don't do thank yous is at Christmas time, because I make sure that each child tells the gift giver thank you right after we open it, they don't get the gift until they do! The only other time is when the giver write "No Thank You needed", but even then sometimes I still send one!!

I think it is rude and very disrespectful!!

[SewCrafty]

No you are not a fuddy duddy! They are indeed rude, and if the children are too young, thier parents are!

This was many years ago, I was dating a cadet at West Point. On spring break we were invited to stay at his friends home. All very proper, his dad was a Lt. Col. in the Army. I remember taking them a hostess type gift with me as a 'thank you' for allowing us to stay with them. Then when I got home, I also wrote a thank you note. It seems manners have gone by the way side with the newer generations.

Also, I always give gifts to my nieces and nephews for birthdays and Christmas. Well when they were old enough not to be reminded from my sis to thank me (while I was sitting there!) and didn't do it. NO MORE GIFTS from Aunt Deed! I do still give to my brother's 2 kids as they have manners!

[mombottoo]

You are not being unreasonable and I think it is a sign of the times. I rarely if ever receive a written thank you note. At the last two baby showers I went to we were given an envelope & the enclosure, we were expected to address it to ourselves & write on the inside what we brought. I didn't do it at either shower & told them to save their stamps...I was so disgusted ...