i am getting so tired of.....

**Moor** · 06-23-2008, 01:19 PM

being ignored.

i am the type of person who will give you the shirt off of my back if you need it. well lately, i have been offering to help several people. because all i hear from them, is i need this, i need that, i have no friends, i just want to have someone to talk to, i need, i need, i need.
well, after so many times of offering and them not accepting what help i can give, or an ear to bend, or even if it's just acknowledge that i offered, i have decided, that if you want my help, you have to ask for it. i am not going to offer anything anymore. i am tired of putting myself out there, just to have those people not even acknowledge that i am here if they need me, or just plain acknowledge me.
i have reached out to several people and they have not even let me know that they got my message. i really hate it when you try and reach out to someone and they just completely ignore you!
i hate to be ignored. either let me know you have my info so that you can get in touch with me later or if you want to, or let me know that you don't want me to contact you at all. no skin off my back!

sorry for another rant, but i am on a roll today! i must have slept wrong, got up on the wrong side of the bed, or something. i am really cranky today. this is not me normally. but some things are really hitting me hard today!

**Momto2Boyz** · 06-23-2008, 01:27 PM

I hear what you are saying. I realize that sometimes, people just need to complain to someone and I always try to be there for friends and neighbors when they need to rant. But to hear it over and over and over again, then to offer help on a deaf ear...then have them come back to me and complain again about the same thing and not being able to fix it! That get's my goat...can you tell I am thinking about someone in particular in my neighborhood???

**stinkbug** · 06-23-2008, 01:31 PM

Are you talking about on the boards? I got a message from someone wanting to be my friend, but I don't even know how that works or how they choose me??? Or how they know where I live??? (this was before the geo feature?)

**Greebo** · 06-23-2008, 01:31 PM

I have a few friends who live for drama. Offering solutions to them is a waste of time.

I want a shirt that says, "The surrounding 10 yards are a DRAMA FREE ZONE"

**Russ** · 06-23-2008, 01:36 PM

Originally Posted by stinkbug

Are you talking about on the boards? I got a message from someone wanting to be my friend, but I don't even know how that works or how they choose me??? Or how they know where I live??? (this was before the geo feature?)

Being your friend is just a "virtual" thing. Looks like she used to live in Idaho and thats her reasoning to be your friend.

**Michelle** · 06-23-2008, 01:57 PM

I absolutely know where you're coming from.

In fact, I am most ignored by my mother, and it drives me crazy :gah:

No advice, just wanted you to know that you're not the only one who hates being ignored.

**bridge** · 06-23-2008, 02:04 PM

Big hugs to you.....

Maybe they aren' t ignoring you, maybe they are just having a bad day/week.......

Sometimes I won't reply to someone if I know I am in a bad mood, because I know I might not be "nice", so I wait a little while.

**Moor** · 06-23-2008, 02:40 PM

it's not just on the boards. it's in R/L too!
ok, let me give you an example:

i know this person who is always telling me that she has no friends, that she really wants someone to talk to, to hang out with, do things with. so i tell her, let's go to ..... and what does she do, i can't go, i don't have the time. so i ask when is a good time, she won't respond.
she always wants to chit chat, so i tell her to give me a call. NO CALLS! so if i call her, it's always, i am too busy to talk, or i am just walking out the door.
so, no more time for her!
but it's like that with several people that i know. and i have no idea what their issue's are. it's not like we haven't been friends for years. i have asked if i have done something wrong, done nothing, per them. it just gets frustrating, knowing that these people want you to listen or be there when it's easy for them only.

**lwlynch** · 06-23-2008, 02:50 PM

oh baby.. been there and still doing it.. I am the everything to everyone.. yet, i am so totally tired of putting myself out there....
but you know... it just like my mom says.. there is a thickening and a thinning.. i take the people that dont listen and such as the thinning..
big hugs to you....