things that make you go ahhhh......

[Moor]

neely said something in another post that got me to thinking. (in a good way) lol
tv, movies, and the media all portray, giving diamonds and "things" as a show of being in love. a way of showing affection.
well, dh and i were talking about this the other day. (another reason i have been thinking about this)
he asked me what i thought was romantic? because i told his neice ( who is only two years younger than me) that he was very romantic. he heard and asked me on the way home, why i said that, since he doesn't bring me flowers much, he doesn't buy me diamonds or anything that he thinks would be romantic.
so i told him:
it's the way that you are with the kids
you fix dinner when i don't feel good
you rub my back when it's bothering me, without my asking
you get onto the kids for mot helping me when i am hurting
you hand me tissue's when i cry at some sappy show or movie
you grab my hand and hold it when you know that there is something that is on tv that is going to bother me
you sit with the kids when they are sick and read to them
you hold my head when i am too sick to even lift it

i told him the list could go on and on.

so my question is, what do you really find romantic that your SO does, that to you is romantic, but to others is not?

[Marie78]

We have started to car pool to work. He drives and I give him $10 for the week for the extra miles it takes to drop me off and pick me up from work. He drives whenever we go anywhere together. I have started to look at my fiance with love in my eyes again. I just appreciate him for waking up an hour earlier and staying an hour later at work to car pool with me. It makes me feel more connected and romantic towards him. LOL! I know it's weird, but.....to each his/her own right!

[MomToTwoBoys]

Omg Moor, I almost needed a tissue when I read your post. That's so sweet! Your DH really is a doll.

DH and I have a weird marriage. Well, it may seem weird to others but we're pretty happy nowadays. He'll rub my shoulders for me when I'm sitting at the PC. He'll bring me little surprises when he comes home from work sometimes, like a bottle of Pepsi. He lets me sleep in and takes care of the kids for me when he knows I haven't been feeling well. Yesterday he was watching The Last Castle and gave it up when I saw 10 Things I Hate About You was on TV (which I thought was sweet). DH puts up with my obsessions more than he really needs to. He helps the kids with getting their dinner situated when he knows I'm overworking myself with getting it ready.

I love him to death.

[Neeley]

DH is at every one of the kids' practices or games. He coaches the teams whenever he can or is needed.

DH has a huge heart for others. Whenever we have a kid on one of our teams whose parents struggle financially or they just don't care he makes sure they have everything the other kids do. Like practice uniforms, a Gatorade for practice, loaning them shoulder pads, giving them replacement batting gloves if theirs are worn out, cleats that fit, etc...But he does it in a way that does not single out the kid or make them feel like they are getting a handout. DS is in an all-star tournament now. If you have ever had a child play in all-stars you know it can get very expensive. Just for the basics each family spends a minimum of $300. To help the other parents save some money he takes a big cooler of Gatorades, Powerades, water, Pepsi etc...to every game for the boys and their families. He also bought every parent a sticker for their vehicle that was personalized with their son's name, ALL-STAR 2008, and our league's logo on it.

He cannot watch the commercial that Sara McLaughlin does for animal rescue (where she sings "Arm of an Angel"). We have to change the channel. He gets all misty eyed and upset about it. Just like he does whenever he hears about an animal being abused or mistreated.

He works hard so that I can stay home. But he still comes home and cooks, cleans, does laundry and takes the kids to do fun stuff. And NEVER complains at all.

He is great to my mom and dad. He goes out of his way to do things for them.

He cleans the toilet a couple of mornings a week before he goes to work.

Is a very responsible person. He takes me to the grocery store every week and I never have to worry about him adding extras to the cart like a child would do.

He knows I hate to drive and takes me just about anywhere I ask. He goes with me to Hobby Lobby and will shop with me in there for hours.

He opens my cans of soda and my 20 ounce bottles.

Our kids come first. He works for a very large company as a supervisor of the accounting department, but that comes second to the kids.

Brings me my medicine when moving around is difficult.

Makes me laugh when I am hurting to get my mind off of it.

Takes the kids to their doctor appointments when I ask him to.

Goes with me to all of my doctor appointments.

Digs through the grocery store frozen food section to find my favorite vegetarian lasagna when I cannot find it.

Buys DD chocolate chip cookie dough ice cream.

Watches Talladega Nights with the kids almost every weekend.

O.k. I could go on and on but I will spare you and stop here.

[momof2joys]

My dh does so many things, that if he actually knew I caught him doing some of these things he probably won't do them anymore LOL!!!!
Dh is very handy around the house, which is great and saves us a ton of money.
He is always willing to take ds with him fishing or golfing so that I can get a few things done around the house!! (or spend time on FV LOL)
He cooks a big meal almost every week, just once a week really helps me out!!
Dh also gives the two younger kids baths every night, so I can clean up after supper.
He will also be the first one to think of a fun place to go and take the kids with!!
I could say that helps with laundry, but he isn't allowed to touch that LOL (small problem with white clothes getting all greasy from his work clothes)

[janelane]

Last week, not only did The Doctor do the dishes unasked, but he... (*begins to tear up*)... washed out a ziploc bag. Just because he had seen me do it once a few days before! (I asked)

Be still my heart!

It also tingles my toes when he talks about our future family and things he's going to do with our kids.

I'd really rather not have money spent on me very much. It's more romantic to me to help out with the drudge work or just hang out and talk, than to get presents.

Although, I'd never turn down a present!!

[blitzen]

When DH does the dishes. The other day, he ran the vacuum. I couldn't believe it. But nothing makes me giddier than when he does the dishes without asking!

DH is the chief laundry doer in the house, so on occasion (when I remember!) I'll gather the laundry for him and sort it out. Although, he doesn't love the way I sort laundry and usually redoes it

[Michelle68]

My DH sounds a lot like yours, Moor. Although he doesn't buy me jewelry or send me flowers, he is very romantic in so many other ways, too numerous to count. It sounds like a lot of us here at FV are very lucky to have terrific husbands.


--Michelle

[itsahumanzoo]

Just yesterday morning I was doing the dishes so I could make breakfast, and he came up behind me and said "go sit down, I'll do the dishes." When he knows I'm not feeling great and he helps me out, it always makes me smile. When we were dating, he would pick me up from work and give me one rose. He is very different, in that he doesn't do conventional romantic things, but he has his ways.

[Cricket1]

My DH is such a great dad--it's amazing to watch him and the boys.

He (I sound like a broken record here) never gets upset or insecure when I need my space. He gets that.

He cleans--that's very romantic!!!

The most amazing thing happened last month at my youngest ds's t-ball game that made me just want to jump up and kiss him immediately. DS had a little boy on his team that is actually in the 4th grade, but still plays t-ball w/preschoolers because he is severely autistic. DH coaches the team (which I LOVE him for). They got this little boy (we'll call him Jimmy) to hit the ball off the tee--it barely just bounced on the ground right infront of the tee. Jimmy didn't know that he had to run. DH put his hand out for Jimmy to take so he could run with him to first base, but Jimmy wouldn't touch DH. DH was BRILLIANT and thought quickly and took the bat and held it on one end and Jimmy held the other end and they ran (at opposite ends of the bat!) to first base together. I don't know if I've ever been so in love with my husband as when I saw that. Not necessarily romantic, but it made me so extremely grateful for him.