How to be a good husband? What does it take?

**PurpleSnowflake** · 07-08-2008, 03:47 PM

Ok I am making a thread for both "sides". Men and women please respond to both!!!!

HOW do you think you can be a good husband?

**PurpleSnowflake** · 07-08-2008, 03:48 PM

Realizing everyone is coming from a different place! And if you are in a same sex relationship just post on whatever side "fits"

**PurpleSnowflake** · 07-10-2008, 11:52 AM

Page four with NO answers?

So none of the men no what it takes and none of the women know what they want?

But there are three pages of replies to the "wife" question!

**Russ** · 07-10-2008, 12:03 PM

Didn't know this was created-...

I'll give it some thought, but I think my reply in the "good wife" thread applies here... with one major exception.

Don't shoot me ladies..

I think women (the ones I know/have known) have more emotional needs than men. So wifes need more emotional support from their husband. I'm not saying all women do, but for me to be a good husband to my wife, I need to support her emotions, even though I sometimes don't understand them.

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**savvymom** · 07-10-2008, 12:04 PM

It's funny you bumped this, I had intentions of responding originally.

A good husband to me, is a man that is caring, understanding, patient, and willing to work out problems. It's great that my DH cooks dinner and does little things he knows I like, but that's not what I find to be the most important.

I can be a lot spastic sometimes (most times) and his patience with my hair brained ideas and things is extremely important to me.

His understanding of those times I don't want to talk, or I've had a hard day, or a disagreement with family. He listens without always offering to help, sometimes a lady's just gotta vent!

He cares how I feel and what my opinions are, even if he disagrees with me. He's not afraid to stand up for himself or to say he's wrong if he is.

**FrugalWitch** · 07-10-2008, 12:20 PM

He gives or*l. Lots and lots of it.

He goes to work every day

He doesn't gamble, use drugs, or run around with other women

He only drinks on rare occasion and never more than 2 drinks

He loves animals

He loves my Momma

But...he loves me best

**PurpleSnowflake** · 07-10-2008, 12:24 PM

A good husband (heck even wife) should never make you feel like you are walking on eggshells everyday.

Should not make you cry everyday.

Should not make you feel worthless, stupid, ugly, insignificant.

Should treat you BETTER than he(she) treats their best friend.

Should listen and actually "hear" the sound of your voice.

Should be a good dad OR TRY to learn to be a better dad, since he is half the reason he is a dad. And since he had half to do with "it", he should NEVER blame the wife for the kids.

Should grow up and be an adult when they get into a long term relationship and stop living/thinking/behaving like they are single.

Should never cause physical harm.

Upon seeing wife (hubby) go "downhill" should try to get to the root cause, look at themselves to see if they may be the cause or part of it, find out if soething medically/mentally is wrong, and then see if they can help instead of just ignoring it all and moving on.

Ok those are a few I am thinking of that are not the "typical" responses. And I have a friend who should be reading this thread right now... she better!

**PurpleSnowflake** · 07-10-2008, 12:27 PM

Originally Posted by FrugalWitch

He gives or*l. Lots and lots of it.

He goes to work every day

He doesn't gamble, use drugs, or run around with other women

He only drinks on rare occasion and never more than 2 drinks

He loves animals

He loves my Momma

But...he loves me best

Glad I was not drinking anything either!

**G'MaDebbie** · 07-10-2008, 01:19 PM

Originally Posted by FrugalWitch

He gives or*l. Lots and lots of it.

He goes to work every day

He doesn't gamble, use drugs, or run around with other women

He only drinks on rare occasion and never more than 2 drinks

He loves animals

He loves my Momma

But...he loves me best

you crack me up!

**ahmom** · 07-10-2008, 01:38 PM

He shouldn't try to fix her problems. She only wants to talk

**Russ** · 07-10-2008, 01:40 PM

Originally Posted by ahmom

He shouldn't try to fix her problems. She only wants to talk

But thats what WE do... Fix things!

She only wants to talk.
He only wants to fix it.

**Moor** · 07-10-2008, 01:41 PM

frugalwitch said it best! lol

one thing that makes a good husband that i don't think has been mentioned, is to cut the apron strings.

my dh has put me and the kids first before his family. it has cost him, but in the long run, he knows that standing beside me and ours, is better.

**ahmom** · 07-10-2008, 01:44 PM

Originally Posted by rcannon

But thats what WE do... Fix things!

She only wants to talk.
He only wants to fix it.

don't! You try and we will get ticked off! You won't understand why we are ticked off.

**Russ** · 07-10-2008, 01:46 PM

Originally Posted by ahmom

don't! You try and we will get ticked off! .

I KNOW!! trust me I KNOW!!!

**ktsmama** · 07-10-2008, 01:58 PM

Originally Posted by Moor

frugalwitch said it best! lol

one thing that makes a good husband that i don't think has been mentioned, is to cut the apron strings.

my dh has put me and the kids first before his family. it has cost him, but in the long run, he knows that standing beside me and ours, is better.

I think Moor has made one of the most important statements. I think a man should put his wife and children first!!! This does not mean he should excommunicate his family, but unless he is sleeping with his mama, his wife should come first. LOL