whine/vent-have to go to court

**familyof3** · 07-10-2008, 03:57 PM

indulge me a bit, please? this may be long, sorry.

A few months ago, I was assaulted by a student at my school. I work in a middle school in a bad area of a large city but have NEVER had any problems other than typical backtalk. The usual story, new kid, found out she came with unreported discipline issues, ie. previous assaults. She decided "I got in her face" and decided to "jump me" in class.

I pressed charges and spent the rest of the day at the police station. (The upside was the way the other students rallied to support me afterwards.) About a month ago, the DA called me and told me that it was not going to court, she would be offered probation. I accepted that, the kid clearly has emotional issues and I had requested they include therapy which was made one of the conditions.

I just got a called from the DA's office "reminding " me that I needed to be in court Monday morning. Huh??? It seems she hasn't followed the conditions of probation and they are now trying her. They want me there as a victim/witness. Somehow, they sent the letter to school (closed for the summer) instead of my home.

I was totally unprepared for this. I thought it was done, finished. I know I need to go and follow through, but I thought I it was over. I'm still not sure why I need to be there. She violated the court's conditions for probation, my case had been settled by the probation, I thought. I don't know, I'm scatter brained right now.

Fortunately, DS will be at camp so I don't need to worry about what to do with him for the day.

Thanks for letting me go off. DH is in a meeting right now and can't talk. I can't call my family because I never told them what happened. My parents are older and would freak if they knew. I don't need them worrying about my safety each day. You guys were the only ones to go to!! Thank you!!!

**Momto2Boyz** · 07-10-2008, 04:00 PM

I imagine they just need you in court to testify to the issues that she has.

I hope it goes well for you and I'm sorry that they kind of sprang it on you.

Good luck, let us know how it goes...and I'm glad to hear that you were okay and that the other students supported you after it happened!

**Luv2BeFrugal** · 07-10-2008, 04:10 PM

Ooooh...that would be upsetting to have tossed back in your path. Sorry you have to go do that...sounds very unpleasant.

But, hopefully she'll learn from it all...

It'll be over with soon... Sending you big hugs!!

**jamiet** · 07-10-2008, 04:11 PM

I'm very sorry to hear of your struggle.
Court is scary, but this is the right thing to do. People need to have consequences for their actions-even young people.

Jamie

**AmyBoz** · 07-10-2008, 04:12 PM

Does not sound like fun. Sorry to hear that this is happening to you!

**Royal** · 07-10-2008, 04:12 PM

Just wishing all the best Monday morning. I hope this is over very soon.

**FrugalMomof3** · 07-10-2008, 04:13 PM

I assume they need you there because you are the one who pressed charges in the first place, thus that is why she is on probation and now she violated so it all boils down to the FIRST incident... I guess.

Let us know how things go and good luck

**familyof3** · 07-10-2008, 04:32 PM

Thanks guys, I appreciate the support! Yeah, it's just unexpected. The funny part is that I have to report for jury duty on Tuesday. Next week should be fun-filled!

**Mom23boys** · 07-10-2008, 04:40 PM

I am sorry you have to "live" the assualt again through the courts. I am sure they need you there just in case you need to give your testimony. It is probably standard procedure. I hope it all goes well.

**itsahumanzoo** · 07-10-2008, 04:41 PM

I'm wishing you all of the best. Hopefully it'll be over nice and quick. You say what you need to say and they let you go home. And hopefully, this will get the girl on the right track and she can straighten herself out. And as far as jury duty goes, hopefully they decide you're not right for the case. *crosses fingers* Good Luck!

**ktsmama** · 07-10-2008, 04:59 PM

Sorry that you are having to go through this or that it even happened in the first place. Hopefully you will only have to go one day to get all of this straightened out!!

Good luck.

**fernykins** · 07-10-2008, 05:02 PM

Sorry you have to go to court....... it sounds like she hasn't learned her lesson, and might not.
Fern

**nancycg56** · 07-10-2008, 05:15 PM

Wishing you all the best!

**Texasgirl** · 07-10-2008, 05:16 PM

Good luck in court.

Maybe this is what is going to take to straighten her out.

**yankeegal** · 07-10-2008, 05:38 PM

I think you have shown a lot of compassion in this situation-sorry you have to go thru this, but maybe this is what this girl needs-a consequence for her actions.