I give up!

**lovestolaugh** · 07-16-2008, 07:49 PM

I am so discouraged with most of the people I know. Everyone seems to be so involved with themselves that they forget common manners. I mean manners such as responding to emails or returning phone calls when they say they will. I find that they only make contact when they need something. If I call them they suddenly are too busy to talk. Following through with what they promised is another problem. I have been let down so many times. I have finally given up. I am the friend who is always first on scene if needed. I remember everyone's birthday. (I don't mean just with gifts but I mean I call them or at least send a card.) If I say I'll be there to pick someone up I arrive 10 minutes early. Stuff like that. Is it too much to ask that others that I treat well, treat me with the same respect? Maybe I'm the problem. My husband says that I wear my heart on my sleeve. That I have always been the better friend and that I get taken advantage of. Maybe he's right. I am done making excuses for other people's lack of courtesy.

Sorry that this is so long. I am just feeling really low right now and needed to vent. Does anyone else out there feel the same way?

**Russ** · 07-16-2008, 07:58 PM

Are you my wife?? Because she could write the EXACT same post. And the response you got from your DH!!!

So no, you are not alone.
One bit of advice I would give my wife, well more of a question.
Are you expecting them to be like you? or do the same things you do would do?
You are unique so don't change to be like them, be yourself... the good hearted friend. Just don't get trampled on in the process.

**Michelle** · 07-16-2008, 08:05 PM

Originally Posted by rcannon

Are you my wife?? Because she could write the EXACT same post. And the response you got from your DH!!!

So no, you are not alone.
One bit of advice I would give my wife, well more of a question.
Are you expecting them to be like you? or do the same things you do would do?
You are unique so don't change to be like them, be yourself... the good hearted friend. Just don't get trampled on in the process.

The advice you gave your wife is the way I try to live now. I tend to expect other people to be as considerate as I am, and it just doesn't happen.

I know how you feel, OP

**IamBlessed** · 07-16-2008, 09:50 PM

that's for being that kind of a friend!

People are very insular (sp?) these days and very much into their own little worlds. It's no excuse, though, unless they've totally forgotten the art of being a friend.

**Marie78** · 07-16-2008, 10:00 PM

You deserve to be treated as kindly in return. I have a close friend that I emailed a few weeks ago regarding a family situation (a sick family member). I was basically looking for her support or a kind word or at least an acknowledgement that she got my email. I've gotten nothing, the first week I thought she might have been on vacation. The second week of no response I thought maybe still on vacation? It's been over three weeks and I have to accept that she just didn't respond....I keep hoping in my heart that it was an oversight and not her ignoring me.

**Drgnfly423** · 07-16-2008, 11:28 PM

I have to say that I feel the same way about the majority of my "friends" that I've had for most of my life. In response, I don't consider them "friends" anymore. I was told by a mutual friend that "you always were the sensitive one", when I decided to try to talk to the other friend about our issues. (the other friend never ended up calling me to discuss said issues when she said she would, thus ending our friendship, proving my point that I thought we weren't friends anymore since she never returned my calls or e-mails!) Anyway...I think we just outgrow some friendships, and I've decided that it's ok. I have a few good friends that are there for me when I need them. Even if the don't live in the same town as me...that's ok!