Don't you hate it when people act like they're perfect?

**frugalandsimple** · 07-20-2008, 05:34 PM

They act as if they never have problems and focus on themselves too much when talking. Those same people seem ignorant to see that people do stuggle daily because of a disability or an illness.

I understand some people are "toxic" and I do my best to avoid those type of people but not everyone is happy-go-lucky. Sadly, life doesn't come easy for everyone.

The ironic thing is they're the same people who use alcohol as a "crutch" in social gatherings and most of them lack compassion to those who are struggling in a situation that can't be avoided.

My feelings were hurt somewhat by some of their comments because they seemed totally oblivious to what's it like to have a disability or an illness. Just because someone has an illness or/and a disability doesn't make them any less of a person.

**AmyBoz** · 07-20-2008, 05:54 PM

I'm sorry someone treated you poorly.

**Moor** · 07-20-2008, 06:05 PM

I hope that it was no one on here that hurt your feelings.

I know in real life, it can be really hard to cut the people out of your life who are always hurting/negative/jealous/and such.

**Michelle68** · 07-20-2008, 06:20 PM

Some people are just totally ignorant and not worth the time or energy of your anger. I'm sorry you were hurt by someone like that.

--Michelle

**cab54** · 07-20-2008, 06:28 PM

They are the ones who are 'less of a person.'

**COUNTRYBUMPKIN** · 07-20-2008, 06:55 PM

Originally Posted by cab54

They are the ones who are 'less of a person.'

That's very true!

Frugalandsimple, You seem like a very nice, honest, intelligent and down to earth person to me. Please try not to let someone who is so shallow, get you down. It's not worth your precious energy! HUGS, Lynn

Thanks for all of your WONDERFUL , HELPFUL posts here!

**Frugal Nurse** · 07-20-2008, 07:09 PM

It's called Narcisistic Personality Disorder.

Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) is a [ame="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Personality_disorder"]personality disorder[/ame] defined by the [ame="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Diagnostic_and_Statistical_Manual_of_Mental_Disorders"]Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders[/ame] (DSM IV-R), the diagnostic classification system used in the [ame="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/United_States"]United States[/ame], as "a pervasive pattern of grandiosity, need for admiration, and a lack of [ame="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Empathy"]empathy[/ame]."[1]
The narcissist is described as turning inward for gratification rather than depending on others and as being excessively preoccupied with issues of personal adequacy, power and prestige.[2] Narcissistic personality disorder can be caused by receiving excessive praise and criticism in childhood, particularly from parental figures.

Please note: This is not YOUR problem. It is the other person's problem.

Just be greatful you don't suffer from such an affliction.

Knowing that it is THEIR mental illness and not you puts things in perspective. Don't you think.

You are a very nice, intellegent, witty, caring, empathic person. Well-admired by many.

A narcisstic person can't see beyond their nose.

**FrugalMomof3** · 07-20-2008, 09:04 PM

Some people are just ignorant and mean, plain and simple. They are the one's that dont care about anyone's feelings. I am sorry you were treated unfairly.

**IamBlessed** · 07-20-2008, 09:10 PM

Some folks don't weren't raised any better and other folks need Jesus. From what I have read on this forum, IMHO you are a caring and special person. Please don't let someone's insensitivity or ignorance dim your light by making you upset.

**emily_hope** · 07-20-2008, 09:19 PM

Sorry for what you are going through. (((HUGS)))

**Momof3girls** · 07-20-2008, 09:43 PM

I am sorry that these people acted in such a hurtful manner.

**suebeehoney** · 07-20-2008, 10:16 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you've had a bad experience like this. It's unfortunate that people act in this manner when we all basically got the same lessons in school as children - 'treat others as you wish to be treated'...'if you can't say anything nice, don't say anything at all'...etc.

I hope things are looking better for you soon. You're a true frugal friend to many on this site.

**Eveningrose** · 07-20-2008, 10:16 PM

I'm sorry to hear that you've had to deal with this. It's hard having to experience situations like this and very frustrating. Some people just need to be the center of attention, whether it's an mental disorder that are dealing with, or that they have other things going on in their life that they don't to focus on or anyone else to possibly know about. Don't let this person make you feel less of yourself because of their actions. :hug:

**cmdarlin** · 07-20-2008, 10:18 PM

Sounds like my family. A group of us have an email chat and were trying to see each other once a month to keep in touch but since DH got sick and we're having all our troubles, they all quit emailing but one. I feel like the poor relation.....

So sorry its happened to you...

Debbie in Missouri