How can I become more of a funny person?

**frugalandsimple** · 07-24-2008, 05:46 PM

I'm too serious. I don't laugh or smile much. If I'm watching a comedy movie or show, I may laugh a little if I find it funny. When I'm around other people, I hardly laugh but make an effort to make sure I'm smiling so I'm precieved by others that I'm a friendly person. I have found when I'm under the influence of alcohol, I laugh more than when I'm sober but it's not often I have a few drinks.

**AmyBoz** · 07-24-2008, 05:54 PM

None of this means you aren't a fun person or a person who doesn't appreciate humor. Different people express themselves differently. My husband loves my family and I passionately...I mean, seriously fierce love. However, only we see that side of him. We always laugh that if we were ever to get an extreme home makeover he'd be like, "Huh...nice." It's just who he is. Nothing wrong with it.

**Michelle68** · 07-24-2008, 06:52 PM

You are an individual and, as a result, you express yourself in your own unique way. You obviously do find things to be humorous, otherwise, you wouldn't "get it" when you watch a funny movie or hear a joke. You just express yourself differently.

The reason you laugh more when you drink is because it lowers your inhibitions and you feel freer to show your emotions. That's pretty normal. Perhaps you do not feel that comfortable with expressing yourself so freely under normal circumstances. I'm not sure if you should try to force yourself to be funnier. It has a lot to do with your personal outlook on life, I think. I've been told that I can be a pretty funny person (yep, I'm always quick with a smart*** remark, although I don't really show it on FV.) and my DH is really a clown. One thing I think we have in common is that we perceive the many absurdities in life and are more likely to enjoy them.

If it really bothers you that you aren't as funny as you think you should be (although, you may be funnier than you think.), why don't you try to see life in a different way? There really is something funny in almost every situation, if you look at it a certain way, as illustrated in this post: Thank goodness I was blessed with a sense of humor!
Also just try laughing more. Watch more funny movies, read more jokes.

If none of this works for you and you still feel that you are too serious, try to accept yourself as you are. Everyone is different and we all have something special to offer the world, whether we're goofy as h*** or of a more serious nature. The world sure would be a boring place if we were all the same.

BTW, I think you're pretty cool.

--Michelle

**acox68** · 07-24-2008, 07:08 PM

Wow, you must be my long-lost twin because your post describes me to a "T". I try to smile, but have heard all of my life that I don't do it enough. Not trying to hijack your post, but I just wanted to know you are not alone....((((HUGS)))).

Andrea

**magnolia** · 07-24-2008, 08:46 PM

I'm not too terribly funny (according to my kids) but I do tend to see humor in almost everything. Nothing is more humorous than someone cracking a joke at a funeral. Like, I even found humor in the fact that they put a glow-in-the-dark rosary in my mom's hands before she was buried. ROFL... Really... to this day that still cracks me up. (ftr, I loved her dearly.)

Oh, and just now my wonderful dh had to free some poop from my dog's butt. (We really need to get him groomed. His fur is waaay too long.) Anyway, the dog is hiding now under the computer desk and looks like he has been totally violated. Dh doesn't think my laughing is appropriate at all... Haahaa hee hee... Can't stop laughing now...

I totally agree with Michelle68. We're all different and you're totally cool.