It's fixing to hit the fan

**mom+2children** · 07-26-2008, 12:50 PM

Wishing you best wishes and will be praying for your family

**cab54** · 07-26-2008, 01:29 PM

Good thoughts going out for the kiddies welfare.

**favesis37** · 07-27-2008, 07:02 AM

good luck! please keep us posted

**jamie79** · 07-27-2008, 08:53 AM

I hope things work out for the best for the kids

**KKCondrey** · 07-27-2008, 09:41 AM

Hope the drive to TN and back was an easy one. Having those babies back with your baby and you will make it all worth it in the end.

**Missourimom** · 07-27-2008, 10:08 AM

I hope every thing works out for your family.

**dwallyfam** · 07-27-2008, 10:48 AM

Sending thoughts and prayers your way

**JustMegan79** · 07-27-2008, 01:13 PM

Originally Posted by IamBlessed

Greebo, I don't think she is a physical danger to the kids. I do think that she is capable of "benign neglect." From first hand observation, she will sit her butt down with a book and let chaos ensue around her while she is reading. The kids get hungry and don't get fed properly. (She does not cook much, at all.) So...junk is the order of the day. She is very detached, emotionally. I've seen her put the kids in a room and let them scream for over an hour several times. Not that I don't agree with discipline; I just don't think you should let a 4 or 5 year old get sick from crying and withhold hugs until they "calm down." That's just cold IMHO.

Playing devils advocate here...(Im on your side, trust me, just thinking like the court might)

If she is not a physical danger to the children, ds, or you, I doubt a restraining order will be given. Restraining orders/Protective Orders are given only if you have been threatened/endangered.

Now, if you are going to seek this for the reason of keeping her from getting po'ed and snatching the kids from school or whatnot (which she can do legally, since there is no custody order right now), you may want to consider Tresspass papers, which are filed by you for a fee at the court. You can do this for your property, but if you want it for school, the school itself will have to file them also. Basically, you cant file them for someone elses property.

Wanted you to know this also: I am pulling for you and have followed this saga, I am hoping everything goes as planned, but remember...ds and ex dil are both the kids parents...and some visitation with her will probably help foster a better relationship with her and the kids. And every kid needs their Mom, even if they live with Dad. Supervised visitation works too.

Good luck and lots of love and hugs to you and the kids. Let us know how it goes!!

**cissylu** · 07-27-2008, 01:35 PM

From one grandmother to another. this is something you`ll never regret.
I`ve been raising my dgs for 10yrs. he`s 17 now.
you need to take pictures if you can. we also hired a private investigator.
also I agree ask lawyer about payment`s ,ours took payment`s.
this mother does not need her kid`s.
we also had dgs in counseling, and the counseler was a very important factor of her lost custody. dgs told on her.
good luck!
cissylu

**IamBlessed** · 07-27-2008, 02:03 PM

Well, Halleluiah! The kids are back at their house (their words). My dh said that they kept asking him when they were going to be out of TN yesterday on the way home. I haven't gotten to see them yet. I'll probably bring them over here tomorrow to watch while I put some peppers by. They'll have a ball playing outside with the puppies and critters and ds can go take care of business.

I just wanted to let each and every one of you know that I, for one, appreciate all the prayers and support that has come our way during this whole little "Peyton Place" episode. I know everyone has their own set of problems and I don't mean to be a burden or to whine. Really, I know I am blessed and I DO know, intellectually, that I have given this to the Lord and I have to trust that He will work things out. It's just good to feel that I have someplace to talk things out without having to be the logical, strong, mediator.

I'll continue to let you know what's going on, I'm sure...because I'm probably gonna have pity parties right up until this whole thing is over with. Thanks again for the support.