Gotta question here

[onencgirl]

My ten week summer job ends in less than two weeks when I go back to my school job.

A lady died unexpectedly over the weekend that works in a different department and building than I (summer job). The business is going to be closed Thur in respect for the family and for the funeral. I'll get no pay for Thur. I barely knew this lady. She was really nice but I just never got to know her.

Should I attend the funeral? Could I attend the viewing the night before instead of the funeral?

What are your thoughts on this?

[dcompton]

I have no idea what the "Emily Post" answer to this is, but if it were me, I would not consider myself obligated to attend the funeral since you did not know her well or for long. It would be a nice gesture to drop by the funeral home for the viewing and sign the register. I'll be interested to see what others have to say.

I'm sorry you're losing a day's pay. I commend the business for honoring their employee, but it's sad that a way could not have been found to do it that would not have been at the expense of the other employees.

[janelane]

If you barely knew her and you guys weren't friends, I wouldn't bother. I don't mean to be crass, but, well, it's not like *she's* gonna be offended. Think a good thought for her, and go have fun on your unexpected day off, and don't feel guilty, if that's what you're trying to get over. I dunno what kind of person she was, but geez funerals are awful. I wouldn't want anyone to feel like they were obligated to come to mine and be mopey just because they looked at me once. I'd feel like, 'get out, have the fun I'm not having anymore,' ya know?

[chettasmom]

You are not obligated to attend either event since you did not really know the lady. And you don't need to explain your choice to anyone if you decide not to go.

[Nishu]

Wouldn't go, wouldn't send anything. It would be an empty gesture and no one would notice anyway.

(And it kinda sounds like someone just wanted a day off?)

I know, I'm just as crass as Jane, but honestly there's no point in putting on a show if you didn't even know her.

[prftstrngr]

I wouldnt go to either....and dont feel guilty. The company chose to close for the day not you...and the others are right...she isnt going to know and probably wouldnt expect it!

[FrugalMomof3]

I wouldnt go either, since you barely knew her, dont think anyone will think bad of you if you didnt go anyways. Sorry you have to lose a days pay though

[Darlene]

Her family will probably find comfort in seeing her co workers take time to honor a "really nice" lady. I think going to the visiting hours would be a nice gesture. Definately a good deed but not an obligation.

[cmdarlin]

I'm with the others.... if you didn't really know her, you shouldn't feel obligated to go.

Debbie

[LexTysMommy]

I think closing the store is good gesture enough for the employees. If you were not close I would not feel the obligation to go. Sorry you lose days pay

[fernykins]

I would go to the veiwing.........Going shows respect. I'm sorry you will lose a days pay, but the company must have respected her to close shop.
Fern

[Mom23boys]

Her family will probably find comfort in seeing her co workers take time to honor a "really nice" lady. I think going to the visiting hours would be a nice gesture. Definately a good deed but not an obligation.

I agree. I would attend the visitation, but I would not feel obligated to attend the funeral.

[onencgirl]

Thanks everyone for all your insights. I've decided to go to the viewing only.

[Michelle]

I agree with the others. Going to the viewing is a nice gesture, and as Darlene said, it will be comforting to her family.

Sorry you're losing out on a day of pay

[MisaLady]

IMHO, funerals aren't really about the dead. They're about helping the living cope with somebody close them dying. You weren't close, ergo no need to attend the funeral.